According to Webster’s dictionary, the definition of parenting is of “the process of raising and educating a child from birth to adulthood.” Have you ever pondered on how different you would be if your parents would have raised you differently? Everyone was raised differently, therefore we all will be different types of parents. We may cherish the way our parents raised and disciplined us, so we’ll utilize those techniques when we become parents. On the other side, we may despise the way our parents raised and disciplined us, therefore we’ll create our own techniques based on what we would have preferred as a child when it comes to raising our children. As a 43 year old mother, I’m proud of the way my parents raised and disciplined me and I’m proud of the way I’ve raised my daughter, nieces and nephews. As a parent, I’ve constantly asked myself, “why is parenting so hard?” At one point in time, I wondered if a mother should automatically know how to handle and raise an infant, if this is her first child. There’s a conflict when it comes to parenting. There’s a significant difference between the biological needs of a child and cultural needs that have been placed by society. For starters, we cannot say that one particular way of parenting is “the right way”. Every parent should trust their techniques of parenting as the best as long as there is no abuse involved. Permissive parenting, Authoritarian parenting and authoritative parenting are the three main parenting styles. Each parenting style is different and produce different types of results. The next few paragraphs will give an overview of these techniques and we’ll be able to compare each.
Parenting style can be defined as the standard strategies that parents use in rearing their child. The quality of parenting is more essential than the quantity of time spent with the child. For example, a parent can spend an entire afternoon with his or her child, yet the parent may be busy in doing a different activity and not engaging enough with the child. There are various theories and opinions given by different psychologists on the best ways to rear children; Jean Piaget, Erik Erickson, Jean-Jaqcues Rousseau, Frank Furedi etc.
Every family is unique in dynamic and nature. Parenting styles within families vary depending on circumstance and principal. What defines parenting styles is the approach that parents take on raising their children and the psychological and social effects it has on their child’s development. These parenting techniques influence the child’s lifestyle and beliefs throughout their life and have lasting effects on the child’s adulthood. In the research article Child self-esteem and different parenting styles of mother’s: cross-sectional study discusses that “Parenting style refers to the practices adopted by parents during their children’s growth and socialization stages and how the children are controlled.” Developmental psychologist Diana Baumrind
Parent has changed with the years. Spanking a child was okay in the past, but is frowned upon. Some parents believe in talking through situations. “In any society, parenting beliefs are a reflection of that society 's cultural values and traditions” (Hulei, Zevenbergen, & Jacobs, 2006).
Webster’s dictionary defines parenting as the process of raising and education a child from birth until adulthood. Everyone has or had a caregiver, whether it be pests, animals or human beings. However, the thing that differs is the method of parenting. There are many methods of parenting, but there are only three main parts. They include authoritarian parenting style, permissive parenting style, and democratic parenting style. The next few paragraphs will give the reader a detailed description of these three parenting methods and what my parents have used in parenting me.
No one teaches us how to be parents. As parents raise their children they hope to raise them to be good members of society. A child’s upbringing is reflected as they interact with other children and other people. When they come to act inappropriately or in a way society doesn’t see as normal, the person to blame is the parent. As a parent, today and always, they need to raise their child to meet the societal norms and at the same teach them to be good citizens. The parenting a person receives will be reflected when they form their own family. The belief is then formed to be to raise a better family than the one raised in. The different parenting styles and the factors have to be taken into consideration such as time, the environment, and the social and psychological aspects as well. The belief is to be a loving and tolerating parent but there is no perfect way to parent because each child has their own needs.
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The Effects of Parenting Styles on Children
Anoka Ramsey Community College
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Children develop mentally through life by learning from the experiences they have with their parents, the way a child turns out depends on how they were raised as well as the environment they grew up in. " Good parenting takes time and effort (Bornstein, 2016). You can't do it in a minute here and a minute there.
Developmental Views of Parenting Style and Effectiveness
Parenting effectiveness and influence have been studied by developmental
psychologists who have been interested in the role of parenting and how it may affect the
success or failure of children. An important aspect to this area of research is parenting
styles. There have been four styles noted and each may have differing outcomes for the
children in later life: authoritarian, authoritative, permissive, and unengaged/uninvolved.
Positive discipline and corporal punishment are ways parents may choose to respond to a
child?s misbehavior. Usually corporal punishment is identified with the authoritative
style and positive discipline with the authoritarian style.
Charles Foran’s “Kids R Hell” presents an array of experts’ analysis on parenting values concerning child discipline (with Foran’s input on the inaccuracy of each one). He postulates, “To approach every disciplinary decision with the thought that it may prove permanently injurious to your child's wellbeing or your own self-worth is to invite madness into your house.” Ridiculing parents who condemn ever physically punishing children, Foran espouses that a slap on the face when a child misbehaves displays severe implausibility of traumatizing that child or labeling the parent as a child abuser; in addition, he finds the notion of never using corporal punishment preposterous and a sure way not to succeed in disciplining children. Of course, for some parents, such as Okonkwo from Chinua Achebe’s Thing Fall Apart, the line between necessary physical force and child abuse becomes blurred, while for others, such as Reb Saunders from Chaim Potok’s The Chosen, the use of more creative methods of parenting seem favorable. Their unconventional means of parenting—either stemmed or influenced by their occupations—cease in effectiveness when each son becomes older; however, because Reb ultimately dissipates his clearly faulty imposition of silence, while Okonkwo stubbornly keeps his narrow-minded bigotry, one father redeems himself, whereas the other never speaks to his son again.
A parent is not only the loving mother who holds you close to her for nine months and then many years, or the dad who plays baseball with you and intimidates his daughter’s dates. It is someone who is there for you from the start, guiding you to the right path of knowledge and teaching you how to stay on the right path independently. A parent does not need to have any biological associations to the child in order to be a parent to them. A parent must have certain characteristics to be rightfully called a parent. For many years psychologists have defined ways to correctly support a child to adulthood for parents all over the world. Some people conclude their practice of parenting their children after the child reaches the age of 18, and some have the duty as a lifelong job. As years pass so do generations and media changes very constantly and plays a factor in how children act and respond to certain stimuli. There was a study done in 2009 and people in Poughkeepsie had answered a poll that revealed overall every age group finds it harder to raise a child in today’s day and age than it had been in previous generations, but the older the parent is, the longer the generation gap would be and that factors in the difficulty of understanding how media works with a child’s psychological set up. What a child watches on a television screen is what the child will imitate through behavior. However, parenting is not a book written by a doctor, parenting is having a family, and creating memories, also ensuring that your children live in a nourishing environment for their emotional, mental, and physical health. The accepted goal of a parent is to ensure that their child or children grow to be mature and able to both support themselves and a f...