Would you have come out different if your parents used a different parenting style? If you are considered “cool” now could you have come out a nerd if your parents would have used a different parenting style? “Parenting style is one of the primary determinants of your child’s outcome whether he succeeds, achieves, meets the challenges, flounders, gives up, or runs from or fails in handling life.” (6) The purpose of this paper is to describe the outcomes, processes, labor, and techniques of parenting in a psychological point of view. Parenting styles are defined as the “manner in which parents express their beliefs on how to be a good or bad parent.” (4) Each parenting style has its weaknesses and strengths. All parents incorporate love and limit in their style of parenting. There are four different types of parenting styles: authoritarian, permissive, democratic, and uninvolved parents.
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“The most beautiful thing in this world is to see your parents smiling and knowing that you are the reason behind that smile.” Our parents’ first concern; which parenting style to follow in order to raise up a well-developed, and well-mannered person. Matter of fact, a huge debate went over this particular issue, whether strict parenting is the right method, or being leant is the correct method. "There is clear evidence that parents can and do influence children." (Maccoby 1). Although, there are numerous factors that can affect the parenting process, or affect the way the parents treat the child (Bossard 333) (Maccoby 1). For instance, different home circumstances... the divided home, or the neglectful home, or the mother-controlled home, or may be the overly demanding home, or the home with too many bosses, so all these different home atmospheres are major factors that affect the development of any child (Bossard 333). In addition, the parents’ attitude towards the child is mostly effective in the formation of the child's personality (Bossard 334). Furthermore, the genetic effect of the child is very important, researches proved that genes are one of the most effective factors in the parenting process, and genes affect the child's own behavior characteristics, and also influences the way the parents are tending to treat their son/daughter (Maccoby 5). I will explain the three major parenting styles and will prove that it is not possible to assume that there is one best style to follow, because each home or family have their own special cases or circumstances that will affect the parenting process
Every family is unique in dynamic and nature. Parenting styles within families vary depending on circumstance and principal. What defines parenting styles is the approach that parents take on raising their children and the psychological and social effects it has on their child’s development. These parenting techniques influence the child’s lifestyle and beliefs throughout their life and have lasting effects on the child’s adulthood. In the research article Child self-esteem and different parenting styles of mother’s: cross-sectional study discusses that “Parenting style refers to the practices adopted by parents during their children’s growth and socialization stages and how the children are controlled.” Developmental psychologist Diana Baumrind
Parent has changed with the years. Spanking a child was okay in the past, but is frowned upon. Some parents believe in talking through situations. “In any society, parenting beliefs are a reflection of that society 's cultural values and traditions” (Hulei, Zevenbergen, & Jacobs, 2006). Traditions in one culture may not be accepted in another culture. Traditions change with the times; what is accepted today may not be accepted later in the future. Parent is based on three main styles, but past research has included a fourth. This essay will describe four parenting styles and compare them to the parenting styles on the Chinese and European parents.
children’s personality, character, and competence” (Baumrind, 1978). It is amazing that children who are raised in completely different environments can go on to possess similar characteristics later in life. But why is this the case? The functions that parents perform greatly influence how children develop. A tremendous amount of research has been done on the effects of parenting styles since 1966 when Diana Baumrind first published her three prototypes of parenting styles, but many parents fail to understand the power they possess in shaping the future lives of their children and the need for a responsible strategy regarding the rearing of their children.
Many think that culture has nothing to do with lifestyle or that one has nothing to do with the other but they both go hand in hand. Culture and lifestyle is many different things and the effects it has on the parent child relationship can vary. How can that be possible? Well there are many different cultures and lifestyles around the world that can either make a happy and positive parent child relationship or put a strain on it making it negative. For example going from living in a married household to living in a divorced household may cause a child to resent their parents putting a strain on the relationship between the parent and child. Both culture and lifestyle has an affect on the relationship of parent and child. The different aspects of both culture and lifestyle such as food, travel, religion, single-parent households, employment etc. can negatively or positively affect a parent child relationship.
A parent’s parenting styles are as diverse as the world we live in today. Nowadays, parents only want what is best for their children and their parenting styles plays a crucial role in the development of children which will in the long run, not only effect the child’s childhood years, but later prolong into their adult life as well.
Moreover, since the family is the first window of the child, parenting style and its influence on children could greatly affect their understanding, attitude and school achievements. (Kordi & Baharudin, 2010). Furthermore, according to a report on The National Children’s Strategy Research Series, “the profound influence of parenting practices on children’s development has been widely documented and a large body of research literature in the UK, USA and Australia has focused on the links between parenting styles, parental discipline responses, child behaviour and children’s psychological well-being.” (Halpenny, et al., 2010). Dimensions of parent-child relations pertaining to the parenting styles, and the quality of a parent and a child have been found to have substantial implications for children’s emotional and personality development. (Goldstein and Weiner,
Chinese parenting is competent at times but there are other times where it is more suitable to follow other forms of parenting such as the Western style.These findings have important consequences for the broader domain of parent-child relationships. Whether it is Chinese parenting or Western parenting the relationship between family members is crucial. According to Amy Chua, Chinese parenting is more effective in helping the child attain a better future through the parents’ interests, while Western parenting style reflects mainly the interests of the child.
As seen in lectures and through the media, Western culture perceives this parenting style as a causer of adverse effects such as lack of responsiveness and feelings of guilt. However, Asian culture sees it as harmless and even as a standard. For this reason, it can be seen that Asian American’s do not refer to their parenting style as authoritarian due to the negative connotation. The preferred view is to see the style as a result of generational training to produce highly successful and responsible kids. Through the research investigated, Asian Americans are generally classified as being authoritarian, but with even more research, it can be seen that they raise their children with this overshadowing control because they deem it essential. So, with even further research, cultural customs should be considered for the reasoning behind using the controlling parenting
Talib, M. B. A., Abdullah, R., & Mansor, M. (2011). Relationship between Parenting Style and Children’s Behavior Problems. Asian Social Science, 7(12), p195.
There are many concepts that were introduced by Turner and Welch in, Parenting in Contemporary Society. While some concepts I learned previously to this course, a few were new to me. It is always good to learn new concepts and expand your knowledge. Doing so can better help you in new life experiences or your career. A few specific concepts became of interest to me that I have since further explored. I will be discussing the family projection process, the child-free by choice trend, the dilution hypothesis, and co-parenting. The family projection process and dilution hypothesis are both newly learned concepts for me. The concepts child-free by choice and co-parenting apply to my own experiences and interests.
Collectivist cultures, according to Shiraev and Levy (2013), tend to be traditionalists and base their behavior on traditional values (p. 9) and overall concern for the group or family unit (p. 11). Within the collectivist family, traditional family roles are observed for example daughters, wives and mothers must obey fathers, husbands, and sons. In addition, rules within the society are predetermined and are accepted and followed without question (Shiraev & Levy, 2013, p. 9). The parenting style of the collectivist parents leans more towards the authoritarian style of parenting which is based on behavioral controls such as obedience and high demands of the parents on the children (Shiraev & Levy, 2013, p. 193-194). This authoritarian style is not to show the parents’ superiority over the children nor to dominate them, moreover, it is a practice used for the collectivist parents to organize the family by promoting structure. Whereas individualistic cultures tend to base their actions and behaviors on the belief that their own personal needs are more important than those of the group and compete to achieve them (Shiraev & Levy, 2013 p. 11). The parenting style of the individualist family may be more permissive or more egalitarian. Shiraev and Levy (2013) discuss how this parenting style focuses on building the child’s self-esteem (p. 194) and teaches self-expression as well as autonomy (p. 204). This egalitarian style is not to say the parents are weak but to encourage the concept of fairness and that people should advocate for equal rights and equal opportunities, instilling a sense of
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