Spanking is a form of discipline that parents may or may not agree with. Parents usually do not admit that they spank their children. Is it because they know that it is a bad act of discipline? Parents who do admit to spanking of their child say it is to show the child who is boss in the house. As for others, spanking is wrong because these parents think there can be a future problems from the effect of spanking.
Why treat one with violence, which will eventually lead to one maneuvering their way when treating his parents to avoid the violence against him or her. Not only that, but also one will also use violence against his parents when one grows up to protect oneself from their parents’ violence. Parents Violence against children lead to many negative effects in their children’s life and even leads to crimes. People might think that violence discipline the kids and prevent them from arguing with their parents and following their orders without even asking. I agree that it does discipline the kids only when they are young but as they start to grow up it all turns upon the parents who should have known that a turning point in his or her life would come where they treat their parents the same way they treated him when he or she was young.
Hitting your child, is teaching them that it is okay to become violent when you’re mad, which is not a good lesson to learn. Also, it could result in your child, bringing these lessons to their own children, and maybe even reflect it on their spouse. Why is it seen as correct, to hit a child for hitting someone else? The irony is that you’re doing wrong, just as they are. You need to teach children, that violence is not the correct way to go about things, so they spread that to everyone around them.
Parents are trying to teach their child a lesson but instead making them fearful. Children will be aggressive and think violence is the answer to everything. The point of spanking is to teach the child what they did was wrong but kids don 't get that message when they get physically abused. It teaches them the wrong lesson and they think that it 's okay to spank kids so when they get older they will probably do the same thing. Corporal punishment of a child by a caregiver is legal in every state, but it crosses the line to abuse when a child is injured.
Parents who are physically abusive may believe that their children need to fear them in order to behave, so they use physical abuse to keep their child in line. However, what children are really learning is how to avoid being hit, not how to behave or grow as individuals, (Child Abuse and Neglect Recognizing and Preventing Child Abuse). Parents may think that by beating a child they are managing the child’s behavior. They are wrong. If they think what their parents did to them worked, they are wrong.
Hitting also promotes anger- in children and in parents. Parents often tend to react more harshly and spank harder while they are caught in an angry moment. Parents who give themselves time to calm do... ... middle of paper ... ...important that we teach our children a system of values, and the difference between right and wrong. Where do we draw the line when it comes to disciplining our children? Spanking isn't necessarily something a parent consciously chooses.
In the end, it leads me to believe that if children are spanked after misbehaving, they will continue to grow up believing that violence is ultimately the answer. It has been said that “spanking trains children ‘in violence and domination’, even when it’s moderate” (Saunders 1)... ... middle of paper ... ...dults/parents are beating the snot out of their children with means other than a swat on the bottom, there probably shouldn’t be any law enforcers involved. Even though most people are split on the issue, the fact still stands that spanking and child abuse tends to go hand-in-hand with violence in the future. When you hear of someone disciplining a child, you typically assume the child got a spanking. It’s actually really sad that we, as humans, assume that.
Parents often come through situations where young children often disrupt their parents by ignoring the realism of the verdict they create. At this fact, some parents may select to physically punish their children and show their frustration. Before spanking, parents should consider the use all the other non-violent forms of discipline and if none work then finally the act of spanking can be justified. Parents have to understand that they will have to discipline their children for many ages. A spanking needs to be part of that discipline.
“Emotional abuse can involve deliberately trying to scare or humiliate a child or isolating or ignoring them.” (http://www.nspcc.org.uk) One of the simple things that can hurt a kid the most ignoring them. Kids need their parents attention every minute of their life if they don 't get that attention most likely they think that their parents are mad at them. Emotional abuse can be humiliating in front of your friends, other people controlling their every day move. pushing a child so much in things that they don 't want to do, not allowing them to have friends or even choosing their friends for them. A child needs to feel safe having his friends that they can trust not friends that they choice for them.
One common myth/ineffective approach among parents/caregivers/coaches is blaming a parent for their parents styles when a child is aggressive. This idea usually arises in the situation when children are forced to share toys or do a certain task that they wish not to do. A common response to this situation is for the parent/caregiver is to use power assertion, giving a child a time-out, or being physically violent. We have all heard the phrase, “why is your child so aggressive?” or “enroll your child in more sports teams so they can release the anger.” In some, aggression is a problem and it is harder to control than in others. Aggression is a common problem within many children and that if the problem is not addressed early on then it would continue through adolescence and later on in life.