As for others, spanking is wrong because these parents think there can be a future problems from the effect of spanking. Spanking children can lead to emotional, mental and even physical problem as they grow up because the later effects of spanking and abuse caused by the disciplinary action of spanking. While I am against spanking a child, I understand that spanking a child can discipline him/her. Parents control the correction of their children; every parent knows how to make their child listen to them. Some parents threaten to spank their child so the child stops misbehaving immediately because the child does not want to get hit.
Physical punishment has been a problem in hitting their children so they can have discipline or not hitting them because it is not right, so what can parents do and what can they not do? Should the parents hit them to learn discipline, or should they not hit them and figure out another way to make them learn what discipline is? Because many parents do not know or are confused in showing their children how to gain discipline they do not know whether to hit them or not to hit them. Many people think that by hitting their children that they are showing them violence but other people say that if you do the children would understand that they did something wrong and would not repeat it and gain discipline. What can parents do?
Hitting your child, is teaching them that it is okay to become violent when you’re mad, which is not a good lesson to learn. Also, it could result in your child, bringing these lessons to their own children, and maybe even reflect it on their spouse. Why is it seen as correct, to hit a child for hitting someone else? The irony is that you’re doing wrong, just as they are. You need to teach children, that violence is not the correct way to go about things, so they spread that to everyone around them.
Although it can seem very practical the moment it is given, it does not improve the child’s behavior and can bring serious effects on the long run. Parents ought to prevent themselves from spanking their children for it can lead to long-term effects to the child such as anti-social behavior and cognitive development. To begin, spanking is seen as an innocent form of physical discipline. However, parents are not aware that spanking contributes to anti-social behavior such as aggressive and violent behavior of children. Children spanked repeatedly become accustomed and learn to believe it is an acceptable behavior, “…spanking sets a bad example, teaching children that aggressive behavior is a solution to their parents' problems” (Park1).
While many adults would argue that hitting people is wrong, spanking children continues to be used as an acceptable form of discipline. Many parents think spanking will teach children not to do things that are forbidden, stop them quickly when they are being irritating, and encourage them to do what they should. So what do children learn from being spanked? The hitting itself doesn’t teach them anything. How contradictory is it for you to say that your child cannot hit or hurt anyone else—but that you can hurt him whenever you think it's appropriate?
Spanking teaches children to act in a desired way only because of fear of being punished. Being a victim of spanking, I only feared the idea of being spanked, and that is why I changed my behavior for the time being. I did not actually understand the reasoning for why I was being punished. Spanked children do not understand the positive and important reasons for acting properly. Being physically aggressive by spanking your child leads them to be physically aggressive as well.
Parents who are physically abusive may believe that their children need to fear them in order to behave, so they use physical abuse to keep their child in line. However, what children are really learning is how to avoid being hit, not how to behave or grow as individuals, (Child Abuse and Neglect Recognizing and Preventing Child Abuse). Parents may think that by beating a child they are managing the child’s behavior. They are wrong. If they think what their parents did to them worked, they are wrong.
When parents spank their children are they guiding them or controlling them? Nancy Samalin, author of Love and Anger, believes that spanking is nothing more than a big person hitting a smaller person and it can do damage to your child’s conscious. “A child who obeys because of the fear of being spanked,” she explains “is most likely not to develop a sense of right or wrong without being policed by a more powerful authority figure.” (Samalin, p. 154). She believes that spanking the child you have not set an example that you want your child to follow in the future. New studies have shown that children who are abused by their parents physically, emotionally, or sexually grow up and become abusive parents themselves.
Parents who spank their children argue that spanking gets their children to stop the incorrect behavior quickly. In truth, spanking only a temporarily solves the issue because the children do not know why the action was incorrect, so they will repeat it (Pitzer, 2011). Children also learn a new lesson; smack someone when he/she cannot have his/her own way which proves that spanking is unorganized discipline (Pitzer, 2011). Next, parents should avoid spanking their children because it lowers their self-esteem. Children believe that the... ... middle of paper ... ...unt, J.
Why treat one with violence, which will eventually lead to one maneuvering their way when treating his parents to avoid the violence against him or her. Not only that, but also one will also use violence against his parents when one grows up to protect oneself from their parents’ violence. Parents Violence against children lead to many negative effects in their children’s life and even leads to crimes. People might think that violence discipline the kids and prevent them from arguing with their parents and following their orders without even asking. I agree that it does discipline the kids only when they are young but as they start to grow up it all turns upon the parents who should have known that a turning point in his or her life would come where they treat their parents the same way they treated him when he or she was young.