Parenting Styles As a parent, your approach to your child is as unique as you are, expressing different types of affection and discipline that fits your expectations which result in three major parenting styles, authoritarian, permissive, and the best approach authoritative. Each type of parenting approach has its own benefits and also disadvantages resulting into categories for which fits best for each parent. But also expressing the superior advantages of being an authoritative parent. Let’s start with Authoritarian parent, which revolves around the idea of “my way or the highway.” This particular way is a parents know best approach emphasizing obedience instead of love and nurturing. While a child grows it is important for the child to know they can express opinions or choices but with an authoritarian parent it seems to be “impossible,” as the parent will utilize punishment with no explanation or reasoning. Authoritarian parents think they know exactly what is best …show more content…
As an authoritarian has very strict rules and is not considerate of how their child feels, a permissive parent conceals only the idea of pleasing their child and not obeying the rules. Inconsistent obedience. For example, when you are in a grocery store and you see that one child screaming and yelling over a snack he/she wanted and starts throwing a tantrum, where the permissive parent comes into play is when the parent decides to try and please the child rather than recognize the child 's bad behavior. A permissive parent has few rules and expectations in their child, not promoting discipline or obedience. As a permissive parent may not have many expectations but they are very loving and nurturing towards their child showing them they will always be loved. The only disadvantage of that, is the child will start to look at their parent as a friend considering bribery for good behavior tends to be an often
However, in this type of parenting style, authoritative parents are more responsive to their child, more willing to listen to questions and more forgiving rather than punishing when their child fail to meet expectations. These parents are more supportive, rather than punitive, also, they focus on making their child confident and socially responsible.(Baumrind, 1966). In authoritarian parenting style, children are expected to follow the strict rules and regulation established by the parents. The parents are too demanding and directive but not really responsive towards their children. They are also status-orientated and children are expected to obey their rules without any explanations (Baumrind, 1991). Then, there is the permissive parenting style in which the parents rarely discipline their child because they have low expectations of maturity and self-regulation. Permissive parent is more responsive, non-traditional and lenient towards their child. They are nurturing and very open with their child (Baumrind, 1991). Lastly, neglectful parenting style is those parents who have both low demandingness and responsiveness towards their children. These parents are generally detached from their child’s life and in some cases; they may even reject or neglect their child’s needs (Maccoby & Martin,
In permissive parenting, the guardians are more of the child’s friends and not a disciplinary figure. Permissive parenting embraces avoiding confrontation and being lenient as the key to success. Imagine a trip to the grocery store. You are walking down the cereal isle and you approach a child screaming because he wants his favorite marshmallow filled cereal, rather than a healthier choice. Fulfilling the child’s want in order to appease the child, rather than being assertive and making a healthier choice is a perfect example. A second contrast of permissive parenting is expectations of education. We saw that in authoritarian parenting an A plus grade is expected. The dissimilarity between parenting techniques would be that a B minus would bring praise in permissive household. This is similar to how I was raised. As a child, my siblings and I were expected to achieve good grades but that did not translate into an A plus on every exam. Our academic achievements were to be considered excellent and praiseworthy even if we brought home a B on a test. In hindsight, if we were to earn a C in a class we could expect some sort of restriction and forced remedial training in that area. Permissive parenting is a style of parenting that yields lower expectations and lenient rules for children. This parenting technique embracing fun and friendship between guardian and the child is believed to foster a positive environment for the child to succeed in
The problem with some methods of parenting is the effects that they can have on the child; therefore, it is so important to fully understand the differences between parenting styles. Authoritarian parenting is when the parent demands their child to obey them, no matter the circumstances. This type of parenting
I benefited from having authoritarian parents as they taught me about the importance of rules and boundaries, but there are more cons than pros for the authoritarian style. What I dislike most about this style is that my parents did not provide emotional support to me as I was growing up. They believed in setting standards, rules and regulations that were too punitive. My parents were too caught up in demanding complete obedience, and they did not take int...
There are four main types of parenting style. This includes (1) authoritative, (2) authoritarian, (3) indulgent, and (4) neglectful parenting. Authoritative parenting is a type of parenting style which is both demanding and responsive. It is often referred to as assertive democratic primarily because the parents encourage their child to be independent, but at the same time, they tend to place limits as well a...
Diana Baumrind, a developmental psychologist, was the first psychologist to identify parenting styles in 1967. The three parenting styles are authoritative, authoritarian and permissive. At one time, these three were the only parenting styles but later on, uninvolved parenting was added to the list of parenting styles. The four parenting styles are described on how much love, rules and the child’s behavior. Looking back to my childhood, I can see how all the parents showed the different parenting styles, including my parents.
This style of parenting is best described as the child having more control over the parent. There are a lot of parents today that seem to have no control of their child actions and even words. This in which can make the parents question what are they doing wrong when it comes to raising their child. This type of parent have very low demands and are highly responsive, maybe even too responsive to the child’s needs. Although these parents are very loving of their children they do not have many rules that their child should abide by (Cherry, K. 2017, para.1). Not setting ground rules gives the child the freedom to do whatever they want and know that they will not receive a harsh, if any punishment at all. Also, parents who are permissive tend to want to be their child’s best friend. The child in this parent in child relationship tends to have more control than the parent. If there are not any rules in place to be followed the child will eventually resort to negative behaviors, and may even be insure because of the low discipline from their parents (Cherry, K. 2017, para. 9). Permissive parents should give the child rules to follow and discipline them if broken, to ensure that their child follow the right path throughout
First, authoritarian parents are the ones with the most rules, they establish them and the child is expected to follow them without exceptions. This cause the child to view things only the way the parents say and having very little room for involvement in problem-solving tasks.
These two styles; authoritarian, and permissive both have deleterious results that are often visible throughout different developmental stages, such as rebellious behavior. As well each style has its own advantages such as; acceptance by peers with commonality. Child rearing for most parents is an evolving set of skills. It could be said that, with any style of parenting, there is no explicit set of rules for every situation, and what works for one child may not be effective for another. Even though authoritarian and permissive parenting may have some minor similarities they are remarkably different from one another in their approach to raising children.
The first type of parenting style is called authoritarian. In this parenting style the parents are the boss. They make strict rules and they enforce them. They focus more on restrictions than a loving relationship with their child. They believe it is their job as parents to catch their children being bad and punish them. These parents use external control on their children instead of taking time to tell the kid what they did wrong and why they should not do it again. Something these parents do not realize is that they do not catch their kids being good. Authoritarian parents are firm and unsympathetic. Authoritarian parents love to use discipline.
The authoritative approach to parenting is the better way because you are enforcing rules but you are also giving justification for them, raising children to become responsible and independent for themselves. And to think about the consequences that their actions may lead to, which is something that the other two styles seem to be lacking in. How children are parented definitely affects their lives and the way they grow up to be. It is important to know which style one is and which one a parent wants to take the role of because it is the foundation to your relationships with your children.
What exhibits the best approach to parenting? According to Bright Horizons, the four main types of parenting exists as authoritarian or disciplinarian, permissive or indulgent, uninvolved, and authoritative. However, which one displays the most suitable for a child? Well, that depends on what one defines best as, and typically (for a decent parent) what is best for a child manifests itself in becoming a mature and equally responsible adult. Therefore, the best approach for a parent to use if they want their child to turn out possessing character arrays itself in the authoritarian or disciplinarian form deemed ‘tough love’.
The authoritarian style of parenting is control focused and militaristic in approach. This parent has high expectations and demands strict obedience. They often rule by fear and punishment. Dr. Gwen Dewar states, “… Little nurturing, lots of psychological control” (Dewar). On Consistant-parenting-advice.com the author communicates this type of parenting can result in abusive discipline that can be emotional and physical; however this writer is also including verbal abuse to the list.
...ues come with a lot more disadvantages then advantages. Children of authoritarian parents are unhappy, and have low in self-esteem. They receive poor grades in school and they become bullies. These children become dependent and they have a very poor relationship with their parents because they are scared of them.
Authoritarian-parents who are punitive and focus on gaining a child's obedience to parental demands rather than responding to the demands of the child.Authoritarian parenting styles give little to no options to a child. What the parent says goes. It is a rigid approach to raising children that may have been most effective in times of great famine or toil. It was used most commonly in large, traditional families in which the father was the patriarch, and everyone else was called to follow his command. Times have changed greatly since. Doctors see a problem with this approach in modern times,it creates a distance between parent and child in which the child doubts the parent's love for him. It is based on punishment, which can easily create anger.