Authoritarian parenting style consists of strict rules. Rules are set in place with the expectation that children will follow them. If said rules are not followed, the child receives a punishment without an explanation. According to Baumrind, authoritarian parents “are obedience-and status-oriented, and expect their orders to be obeyed without explanation” (1991). Passive parenting style rarely discipline their children, as they hold low expectations of maturity and self control.
Typically a parent would not endure in such actions, but it varies from parent to parent. When left with the situation of discipling their kids, some parents feel guilty for taking measures into their own hands, and other parents feel no remorse. The whole purpose of discipline on children is to set them in place. By that I mean to help guide the child down the right path to a prosperous life and responsible adult. If it means physical or verbal discipline, then it is all for the greater good.
Although these parents are very loving of their children they do not have many rules that their child should abide by (Cherry, K. 2017, para.1). Not setting ground rules gives the child the freedom to do whatever they want and know that they will not receive a harsh, if any punishment at all. Also, parents who are permissive tend to want to be their child’s best friend. The child in this parent in child relationship tends to have more control than the parent. If there are not any rules in place to be followed the child will eventually resort to negative behaviors, and may even be insure because of the low discipline from their parents (Cherry, K. 2017, para.
Authoritarian parents fail to elucidate the rationalization behind these rules. If questioned, the parent my simply reply with a “because I said so… that’s why!” The children are looked upon as miniature adults, and forced to grow up too quickly. The idea of a child being faultless isn’t realistic, no human is perfect. Holding ridiculously high expectations and possessing complete control are qualities an authoritarian pride themselves on. Children raised with an authoritarian-style are frequently good at submitting to authority but rarely have a strong sense of self-restraint.
These parents want their children to be independent and they generally are. They can regulate their own behavior effectively because they understand why and when the... ... middle of paper ... ...switching their parenting style it will make for a very confused and unsure child. Although such classification systems are useful ways of categorizing and describing parents’ behavior, they are not a recipe for success. Parenting and growing up are more complicated than that! (Feldman, 2011 pg.
The way one chooses to parent their child really molds the child into who they will be as they grow older. Authoritative parenting has the most successful child outcomes. This parenting style is known to be a good choice for all ethnic groups and for children with all different backgrounds. Authoritative parents encourage independence and nurture their children while also maintaining high expectations and consistent discipline. These children normally have control over their emotions and develop good social skills.
Not all parents are the same because they are different individuals with different perspectives on how they want to raise their kids. Because of these perspectives, the types of parents are but not limited to authoritarian parents, authoritative parents, permissive parents, and neglecting parents. Authoritarian parents, though severity varies, are those who exert complete control over their children and expect complete and unquestioned obedience. They often punish misbehavior and do not reason with policies. This type of parenting is unsympathetic and reserved creating space between them and their children.
Each parent is different; they all have different ways in parenting and disciplining their children. One’s own parenting style is usually derived from the way one was raised or the society one lives in. Parenting styles include authoritative, authoritarian, and permissive, and it is very important to know which style one falls in because it can have an effect on how one’s child grows up to be and develops. Authoritative parenting would be the better parenting style because it is in the middle of the parenting styles; it is not at the extreme ends of the spectrum. It can be very beneficial to parents to understand that how one raises their children can give them a foundation for good development for years to come.
The word discipline, to me, does not necessarily mean punishment. Parents can use discipline as more of a teaching moment for their child. I believe that this characteristic makes for good parenting and I feel as though every parent should do it because discipline provides the foundation for children’s self-control. It is important that we consistently express what we approve or disapprove when it comes to a child’s behavior as the child will start to internalize those standards and begin to act on them. I also believe that discipline is a key part in being a good parent because it teaches children important life skills.
For example, a warm connection between a parent and young child could be when the child is hugged and showered with affection, both physically and verbally, after playing well with other kids and not hitting or bitting another kid. The most intolerant of the parenting styles are considered authoritarian parenting and is characterized by the parent's high sense of control and structure within the family combined with low warmth. Authoritarian parents can be unrealistic and unjust with the enforcement of their rules and in combination with the distant emotional attachment parents implementing an authoritarian style might provoke resentment from their children. Second is the authoritative style of parenting, distinguished as a