Conflict management is the process of removing all the negative aspects of conflict while increasing the positive aspects of conflict. Conflict management tied in with the movie, Ordinary People. The Jarrett family dealt with many conflicts as the loss of their son passed. Conflict management could’ve helped the Jarretts so they could let out all of their pain they were keeping inside. All the Jarretts dealt with the conflict/pain with silence or violence. Conrad dealt with pain with silence by not talking to any of his family members or therapist and violence by lashing out at random points to his mother (Beth Jarrett). Beth dealt with pain with silence by not talking to Conrad because she doesn’t feel connected and violence by yelling at Conrad for not telling her, he quit the swim team. Calvin dealt with the pain with silence by constantly being distracted by scenes from the night of the accident and violence blaming it all on Beth. Conrad was very close to his brother and he was there the night of the accident and was there the moment he died. He remembers …show more content…
When one of them passed, he was debated and just as heartbroken as Conrad. When Calvin lost his son, he tried to get even more close with Conrad because he's the only son left. Calvin drifted from his wife because Beth couldn't interrupt or break the bond between all of the boys. Calvin dealt with the pain with silence evrytime he was on a walk or dazed off in conversation, events from the night of the accident fled into his mind. He never talked about his visions or his flashbacks he was seeing because he thought they would go away. Calvin also dealt with the pain with violence by constantly lashing out on his wife because she would yell at Conrad, not connect with Conrad, or not care about Conrad or Calvin. He was torn between trying to rekindle his romance with his wife or reconnect and get his son feeling better and open about his
There are many important themes and subjects addressed in the book. Most importantly is how Conrad deals with his emotions and comes to accept and forgive what has happened to him. And the author shows us that this can only be done by love, support, and trust. Conrad thinks by not expressing his emotions he is less vulnerable but instead he drifts farther apart from his family. The ordeal of attempted suicide and treatment has left him feeling insecure and vulnerable and he instinctively puts up shields. Trying to appear calm and determined on the outside, he is still very confused, angry and is afraid he slip away again only to kill himself. He still feels responsible for his brother's death due to the fact his mom doesn't want to forgive him and the only way to punish himself is to deny, suppress, and control his feelings lest they give him away. It is not until the very end when Conrad?s father, Calvin finally stops skirting around the subject but tells him that he loves him and that they finally develop a sense of trust and security in one another: -
...lt that he caused problems to everyone with whom he had contact. After much struggle, however, Conrad realized that he was not the problem and that he did not need to hold back his feelings. Calvin originally thought that Beth was perfect and was confused as to the extent of his responsibility as a father. With Dr. Berger's help, Calvin came to understand that Beth was not the ideal mother and that the things he blamed himself for were not really his fault. The conclusion can be drawn that one needs external help in order to develop psychologically. Calvin and Conrad voluntarily met with Dr. Berger in search of assistance while Beth refused his aid. This may be the reason that Beth was not able to reach emotional maturity while Calvin and Conrad matured greatly.
In one instance, when Conrad is on the phone with Dr. Berger at school, Conrad has periods of silence where Dr. Berger thinks he has hung up on him. This is probably due to the fact that Conrad knows there is a problem with himself, however, he is unwilling to get help for himself; therefore, making him unsure of himself when he is talking to Dr. Berger. In another instance, Conrad loses his temper on his parents when his father is trying to take a picture of himself and his mother. Conrad is resentful towards his mother for not loving him enough, and as a result, is reluctant to take a picture with her. So when his father insists, Conrad yells and curses at his father, redirecting the anger away from his mother. Conrad’s favorite most often used conflict management strategy is contrasting. Contrasting is differing from, be at variance with, be contrary to, to conflict with, go against, be at odds with, be in opposition to, disagree with, clash
In the movie Ordinary People, Beth Jarrett is unable to cope with the loss of her eldest son, Buck who died in a boating accident. This situation creates a strain on her relationships with her husband, Calvin, and her youngest son, Conrad. Moreover, Beth is bitter towards Conrad because she believes he is the sole cause of Buck’s death. Meanwhile, Conrad begins meeting with a psychiatrist named Dr. Berger to help deal with his suicidal tendencies. Unlike Beth, Calvin Jarrett longs to connect with his son and give him the love that he needs. The Jarrett family could have avoided these problems if there had been stronger communication and conflict management skills. All the main characters deal with conflicts in one of two ways: silence or violence.
Calvin and his son have two sons their oldest Buck is extremely popular at school and their youngest Conrad who looks upon his brother. The family seems financially privileged but becomes dysfunctional when buck dies in a boating accident. Buck and Conrad were boating when Buck died and Conrad cannot stop blaming himself. He is so emotionally distraught that he attempts to kill himself. After being in the hospital for a month he is physically cured but he is still emotionally distraught and cannot stop blaming himself.
In this movie tragedy had struck this family extremely hard, and it blew everything apart. There were arguments, depression, sadness, loneliness, and many more. Conrad seemed to be one of the most distraught from the event where his older brother had died from an accident. He had lost his only sibling, and did not feel very good about it. He became depressed, and did not say much. His parents were oblivious to what he was feeling, because he showed very little signs of non-verbal communication. Conrad felt that it was best to hold all of his emotions
...l- this same method is used when Beth leaves. Calvin is able to recognize his role in things as well as what happened and simply acknowledge the after-effects and continue to move on. Beth, however, did not to do in any way, shape, or form. Although she physically ‘moved on’ from the situation, she was unable to emotionally come to grips with things and as a result was unable to achieve change for the better. Overall, there is no way to tuck messy emotions into neat packages just as there is no typical response to loss as there is no typical loss. Our grief is as unique as our lives.
Did you know that in 2014, shoplifting and worker’s theft cost the retail industry a loss of thirty-two billion dollars (Wahba, 2015)? According Wahba “a common misperception about shoplifting is that retailers can ‘afford’ the loss of a candy bar or a pair of jeans” (2015). This type of reasoning certainly does make more sense when explained through the context of a criminological theory. For example according to the Rational Choice theory individuals weigh the costs and benefits associated with a criminal and or deviant act and then make a conscious choice. Other criminological theories explain criminal and deviant behavior using a biological, psychological, social, conflict, or multifactor component. Taking that into consideration in this
troubles, Calvin would keep trying and didn't give up. Calvin really cared for Conrad and wanted him to share his feelings and emotions. For example, there was a scene when Calvin would walk into Conrad's room just to make sure he was doing fine. Calvin not only showed his affections nonverbally, he showed them verbally also. He wanted to see his son back to life, back to who he was.
Conrad was a suicidal boy who didn’t know what to do with his life. Confused and hopeless someone needed to help, shape his life around and make everything better. Someone with experience, someone to help make him better, someone to help turn his whole life around. His brother died and he witnessed it. When Conrad witnessed a death of a close one his soul and heart were broken for ever and it needs someone to help heal and bandage it up. He also heard about the girl he was in the hospital with committed suicide at the end of the book. He was devastated and he didn't know what to do, so we would go to talk to one person he trusted which was Dr. Berger. Dr. Berger changed his whole life around and helped him be a man that he always wanted to be. Conrad looked up to his brother, that was his role model and he couldn't do anything to help him in the last moments of Buck’s life. Dr. Berger helped him in so many ways, get through obstacles he would of never got through alone. Not only was Dr. Berger his Doctor but he was his friend, his only friend he could really trust. Dr. Berger helped Conrad get his life more in “control”.
Walmart can be studied using structure functional theory and social conflict theories. Social functional theory is the relationships among parts of society and how these parts are functional(have beneficial consequences) or dysfunctional (have negative consequences. Most Americans today love to shop at Walmart because they continue to give consumers the best prices on over 120,000 products and are one stop shopping.
Lack of communication and poor communication is a big problem in the novel. Beth thinks she and Conrad have poor communication. This is clear when Beth gets mad at Conrad be cause wasn’t the first to know that he quit swim team. Calvin and Beth have communication issues too. They always have different views on things. Beth wanted to go on vacation and Calvin thought it was best to stay home until Conrad is settled again. Calvin wants to talk about everyone’s problems when Beth feels it’s best to move on, and forget about the past and only think about the future. Their lack of communication to agree on things turns their marriage from good to bad and Beth ends up leaving Calvin and Conrad.
Conrad experienced a tremendous amount of psychological pain because of the loss he felt, he had no one to talk to about the death of his brother and best friend in the boating accident which resulting in a suicide attempt. The relationships he had with his mother Beth and his swim team friends suffered dramatically because of all of the pain he held
...ld have been furious. But he stayed calm and by doing that Conrad could trust him and knew he was a good person. The third piece of evidence is when Conrad wouldn’t tell Dr. Berger anything about himself, he didn't scream at him saying you're wasting your money or anything like that. He opened him up with techniques and stayed calm. Conrad wouldn't tell Dr. Berger much. He kind of just painted a vivid picture in Dr. Berger’s head. But dr. Berger didn’t get frustrated he kept working at Conrad calmly and soon saw the picture in HD. So By Dr. Berger stays calm at all times made Conrad feel safer and better, faster even when Conrad would scream and swear at Conrad Dr. Berger stayed calm and content. In conclusion Dr. Berger helped Conrad and Calvin a lot by treating them as family, Dr. Berger being there for him at all times, and Dr. Berger staying calm at all times.
Interpersonal conflict is very common with many relationships. It occurs when two people can not meet in the middle or agree on a discussion. Cooperation is key to maintaining a healthy debate. More frequently; when dealing with members of your own family, issues arise that include conflict and resolution. During this process our true conflict management style appears “out of thin air”. (Steve A. Beebe, 2008, p. 191).