relationships in Ordinary People
analytical Essay
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Beth and Calvin
The relationship between the husband and wife seems initially to be perfect. They both show each other expressions of love. There is understanding, harmony, financial security, and good communication between them. The couple spends a lot of time together, discussing future plans, and talking about the good moments they had in the past. However, behind all of this positive interaction between the two of them is something they are both not able to face. The tragic loss of their son, Buck has caused a great amount of pain and anger they are not expressing.
The wife lived in denial, trying to live the life of a perfect person unaffected by what had happened to her son Buck. A certain image had to be upheld and everything else was secondary. Even the love for her husband was not as perfect as it was shown..She tries to keep these feelings and memories of her lost son buried deep inside her. She finds it very difficult to show any emotion concerning the fact that one of her sons is never coming back. She tried to portray an image of things being just perfect. Her portrayal includes not wanting to discuss anything that may upset her, she is always walking away from the conversation. It seems as though she does it in every scene. The scene that caught my attention the most was at the end, when she walked away from Calvin after he said he wasn’t sure if he still loved her. That is a pretty powerful statement, and you would think she would want to know why. I’m sure she did, she just didn’t know how to discuss it. So par for the course, she walked away, with something else she will have to tuck away for the rest of her life.
Conrad and Calvin
Conrad and his father, Calvin, had a very good and strong trusting relationship. Although Conrad was stubborn and didn't want to speak of his troubles, Calvin would keep trying and didn't give up. Calvin really cared for Conrad and wanted him to share his feelings and emotions. For example, there was a scene when Calvin would walk into Conrad's room just to make sure he was doing fine. Calvin not only showed his affections nonverbally, he showed them verbally also. He wanted to see his son back to life, back to who he was.
In this essay, the author
- Analyzes how the wife lived in denial, trying to live the life of a perfect person unaffected by what had happened to her son buck.
- Analyzes how mother resented conrad in many ways. she blamed him for buck's death, and she favored him over him.
- Analyzes how the relationship between the husband and wife seems to be perfect, with understanding, harmony, financial security, and good communication. however, the tragic loss of their son, buck, has caused a great amount of pain and anger.
- Explains that conrad and his father, calvin, had a strong and trusting relationship. calvin cared for his son and wanted him to share his feelings and emotions.
- Explains that although their relationship had nonverbal communications or silence at times, their feelings were strong for one another and they knew that they could count on each other.
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In this essay, the author
- Analyzes how divine secrets of the ya-ya sisterhood hit the bestseller lists for its intricately woven tale of a mother-daughter relationship. callie khouri directed the story for the big screen in 2002 with little success.
- Compares the plot of the book and the movie. sidda is plunged into a mother-daughter feud when she describes her mother, vivi, as 'a tap dancing child abuser'.
- Analyzes how khouri transforms vivi's on-screen persona into something that is nothing short of undesirable.
- Analyzes how khouri failed to make connections to portray the ya-yas, an important link in sidda's upbringing.
- Analyzes how wells' depiction of sidda's marriage in the movie tops khouri’s characterization of the relationship.
- Analyzes how the movie illustrates vivi's contrived love life disastrously.
- Analyzes how khouri uses flashbacks in wells' novel, but alters them in a way that makes the story more compelling.
- Analyzes how the ending of the movie leaves something to be desired. sidda has grasped the meaning of her mother's disorderly life and feels enlightened after the mother and daughter team is reconnected.
- Opines that wells' story is the paramount depiction of self-discovery. she dives into the intricacies of the relationship and those around it.
- Describes the rev. of divine secrets of the ya-ya sisterhood, by rebecca wells.
- Explains rebecca wells' rev. of divine secrets of the ya-ya sisterhood, barnes and noble.
- Opines that hornaday, ann., "vodka and sympathy." rev. of divine secrets of the ya-ya sisterhood, dir. callie khouri.
- Explains rebecca wells' "library journal." rev. of divine secrets of the ya-ya sisterhood, barnes and noble.
- Describes mccarthy, todd, and callie khouri's rev. of divine secrets of the ya-ya sisterhood.
- Describes o'sullivan, michael, and callie khouri's rev. of divine secrets of the ya-ya sisterhood.
- Opines that ya-ya is so-so except for burstyn, bullock.
- Analyzes tatara, paul, and callie khouri's rev. of divine secrets of the ya-ya sisterhood.
- Opines that vidimos, robin, and proquest newspapers, “ya-yas’ bloom, blanched of previous color.” denver post, 10 apr. 2005.
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In this essay, the author
- Analyzes how tannen states in her article that women should know what they want without her telling them. the problem arises when the writer doesn't list all the details in a paper and the reader has to read between the lines.
- Opines that the writer's job is just as important as the reader-writer relationship because readers don't realize they have advantages because they set the rules and expectations of the assignment.
- Opines that a good writer must be able to connect with the reader so that misinterpretations arise. deborah tannen explains how women communicate and interpret certain things.
- Explains that readers can't understand writers because they're influenced by their environment, and the writer's job is to make it easier to understand a story.
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In this essay, the author
- Explains malcolm gladwell's book "outliers" about a city in pennsylvania called roseto. the rosetans have strong relationships with their parents, siblings, and friends.
- Explains how their parents affect them in a negative way because sometimes we agree on decisions we make together.
- Opines that their siblings treat them as if they're their own child. when their parents are out of town, they don't give them a break about the rules.
- Narrates how their friends satisfy each other with a simple change of the original idea. they always try to do things together and have an adventure.
- Opines that relationships should be like "the roseto mystery" because everyone is nice and has each other's backs.
- Explains gladwell, malcom, outliers: true story of success.
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In this essay, the author
- Explains that interpersonal relationships define us. when we are fortunate enough to experience a loving relationship, we achieve positive characteristics such as security and confidence.
- Analyzes how leo buscaglia discusses the importance of relationships in his film.
- Analyzes how paul simon's song "i am a rock" communicates that interpersonal bonds, or relationships, cause so much pain, so it is better to be alone.
- Opines that conflict and mistakes are inevitable, but not all relationships are doomed from the start. thoughtfulness, caring, sharing, giving, forgiving, and communicating are learned traits on the road to a healthy relationship
- Analyzes how john donne's poem suggests that man cannot survive by himself, but that every man is part of something larger.
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In this essay, the author
- Explains that as a peer educator in training, they were given the opportunity to act out various cases where intervention was the focus point. the following case scenario addresses the underlying dynamics of the situation.
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- Opines that an effective social support system on campus will provide the student body with diverse coping mechanisms that are healthy and realistic.
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- Narrates how they hurt and harassed a talented soccer player named aziz while playing soccer. they became good friends and he helped the poor financially.
- Narrates how they met rachid, a nice, handsome man, while studying in nice, france, and left him behind due to tough financial conditions. he followed the same patterns in his new life in paris.
- Opines that negative relationships are hard to maintain and may easily end so hard work and heavy maintenance are required. the ease and difficulties they encountered in their relationships shaped their behavior and taught them the true meaning of unconditional support.
- Narrates how gladwell shows the role of friendship, family, and social fabric in the people of roseto, pennsylvania's success.
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- Explains the importance of honesty and mutual indulgence in a romantic relationship.
- Opines that the romanticism of the husband and wife should be the essence of a marriage.
- Explains the importance of time management, stating that a good communication between the husband and wife is essential in maintaining romance.
- Opines that romance does not equal glitz to be paid handsomely. every moment in everyday life can be used to build up the romance.
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In this essay, the author
- Analyzes how the vulnerability-stress-adaptation model evaluates each partner's behavior. chris is a hardworking father who resents having to be the sole financial provider and not being able to spend time with his children.
- Argues that couples should discuss the benefits and potential drawbacks of cohabiting, based on their own opinions and facts.
- Explains that marriage is based on each partner contributing something that the other would be hard-pressed to provide. the couples' lack of communication is likely a result of marriage distress.
- Explains gottman, notarius, bank, yoppi, and rubin, m. (1976). behavior exchange theory and marital decision making.
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In this essay, the author
- Opines that a loving relationship should not be full of pain and sorrow, so it's time to take action and work on healing the relationship.
- Explains that sometimes a separation can heal the relationship when love hurts too much. it's hard to do, but giving each other space does positive things.
- Explains that space allows seemingly large issues to be minimized. when you don't give yourself any space, negative situations become huge and the negative emotions grow stronger day by day.
- Explains that space gives you clarity that what you were doing wasn't working. when your emotions are allowed to cool down, you can build a new plan on how you need to move forward and take new, more helpful action on healing your relationship.
- Explains that space allows you to re-evaluate your relationship and your role in it. people realize the importance of the relationship on their life and get a clearer perspective.
- Opines that it is important to be honest about your relationship and the negative cycles you are stuck in.
- Recommends going to a relationship therapist to figure out where the problem is and develop new systems and behaviors in the relationship to fix it.
- Recommends seeking help from others who can inspire you or give you a new perception on how you can approach your relationship.
- Advises that it is better to get advice from someone who is not invested in you or your partner. this will ensure the advice isn't coming from a biased place.
- Illustrates how a traditional family's advice is to stay in the marriage because they don't want to bring shame on the family.
- Explains that their advice has caused her to stay stuck and unhappy. their friends and family may not be as drastic, but they will still be invested in you or your partner's life.
717 wordsRead More - Case Study On Personal Relationshipsexplanatory essayCase Study#1 Teesa McKinley Upon first meeting with my manager about a potential job change, I was feeling conflicted with a career promotion possibility and my family situation. Things have been tense at home and I feel I am doing less than my share in taking care of the kids since I have such a long commute.
In this essay, the author
- Narrates how teesa mckinley was conflicted with a career promotion possibility and her family situation. they felt they never had enough time for all the things in their life that are important to them.
- Explains that as they pondered their decision many questions came to their mind such as: what is important? what matters in life?
- Explains that they would relocate to a gym's franchise that is closer to their house, since they value strong personal relationships. their parents live close to the gym and want to help them.
- Opines that being part of an elite travel and teaching team is something they will revisit when the time is right in their life. with small children to raise, too much travel would not fit well with their family values of spending more time with the kids and husband.
- Opines that option 5 and option 6 have little appeal to them since both involve staying at the current location.
- Opines that they would never choose option 1, since they view getting a promotion and doing split shift as an even bigger investment of time to their job which ultimately means more time away from family.
- Explains that the things they value are not related to a certain career path or money but rather by their love of family and the relationships with those around them.
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