She voices out her opinion of western parents being too “soft” that will not contribute anything to the child’s growth. According to her, “her ways” may seem strict to people’s point of view, but it will prepare the children the most for their future. I think that Amy Chua is not all wrong yet she was not all right either. I believe the best way of every parenting is to be balanced and adapting because everyone is different and needs to be treated differently. “What Chinese parents understand is that nothing is fun until you 're good at it.” ( Chua ).
A successful parent should leave their children some options and guide them when they need help. Chua pointed out why she choose to made every decisions for her daughters by saying that, “Chinese parents believe that they know what is best for their children and therefore override all of their children’s own desires and preferences” (54). Chua chooses a Chinese parenting way to educate her daughters, and the characteristic is always being in control, which is not realistic and not good for her daughters. She blocked all the possibilities, which at the same time blocked all the pleasures for her daughters. Because there are so many unknowns in our lives, our lives become interesting.
However, she explains that had made her a better person, and she had more respect toward her parents. Chu goes on and identified the three biggest areas that set Chinese parents and Western parents apart. The first area is the kid’s self-esteem. According to author Chu, Western parents tend to nurture their kids’ self-esteem; continue to support and encourage their kids even though the kids failed at it; whereas Chinese parents will destroy their kids if they ever failed at
Chua’s explanation is that she knows this name-calling is wrong, but believes that it builds confidence in the child to hear that they are lacking. I believe in positive reinforcement, and constructive criticism is the best way to encourage a child. My discussion of the use of Chinese parenting methods is in fact addressing the larger matter of expectations of children and the intensity of the involvement of parents in the child’s life. Children need guidance and discipline from their parents to teach them the skills to become a successful adult. The traditional Chinese way of parenting is only one of the many ways to parent, however, it is the one way known to produce the most intelligent and high achieving children.
The mothers also try to bring the best of both worlds to their children to make their children’s lives better. As the children mature, they realize the true worth of their Chinese heritage and try to retain to the Chinese characteristics that they have. In The Joy Luck Club, old world and new world traits are gained and lost by the characters in the novel to benefit themselves and make their strength of mind stronger. The children in The Joy Luck Club gain many characteristics of the old world and the new world that compose new people. The novel introduces us to characters that have lost their inner soul spirits that contain their Chinese heritage.
All parents have their own way of raising their children. Some parents are more likely to discipline their kids. Chinese mothers tend to be more harsh than other mothers. Hispanic mothers are more lenient but can also be strict. While Chinese mothers and Hispanic mothers have some similarities, both tend to control differently when it comes to raising children.
Through this passage Chua was able to show and express the effectiveness of “Chinese mother” parenting style. Chua was able to explain that a Chinese mother goal is not to see her children fail but it is to see them succeed and to be the best. While the parenting style that Chinese mothers adopted are extremely strict and at times a very harsh style, the mothers believe that this parenting style is the best because “it prepares their children for the future, letting them see what they’re capable of, and arming them with skills, work habits and inner confidence that no one can ever take away (Behrens and Rosen 265). To the Western culture this parenting style is seen as a wrong way to raise children, but to Chua this is the way to raise successful
This was basically how Chua classified one of the primary differences of “Chinese mother” parenting from Western styles (52). Most often Chua expressed it through believing her children already could do something and overriding any incli... ... middle of paper ... ...(46). In the end, most of the parenting equation comes to time. While effort is involved, there must be enough time spent in focus on the children, both working and relaxing with them, in order to raise them well. For both Amy Chua and her daughters, growing up under the "Chinese" parenting style has been a trial.
Their miscommunication also has a part in this, as their communications are limited and they both struggle with the expectations that they have for each other. Therefore, as the daughters learn more about their cultural heritage, their comprehension of their Chinese heritage improves. In conclusion, The Joy Luck Club tells a powerful and strong story that shows the importance of how the daughters develop their understanding to their Chinese heritage amongst their mother’s love, learning about their past, and their cultural heritage. As the daughters grow up to be adults, they start to realize how their mothers show their love to them, and as they become more appreciative of their mother, their attitude changes over the course of time to create an appreciation and respect that had not been there before.
The mother’s firmly believed that if you were obedient to your mother you would grow up a good Chinese woman – but that was the problem. "One of the major conflicts between the mothers and their daughters is the desire of the young generation to become more Americanized" (Ballantine Teacher’s Guide on The Joy Luck Club). The daughters were raised in America, which meant that they were influenced a great deal by American ways. There was no preventing that. The significance of the relationships between mother and daughter were a result of a clash of culture between Chinese belief and American tradition.