Did you know, that some studies show that compared to “Western” parents, “Chinese” parents spend about 10 times as much time schooling their children in mathematics? Though many people have evaluated their parenting techniques, since the release of Amy Chua’s book Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother, I personally believe that we should portray the idea that there is no perfect parenting style.
All parents raise their children differently, using various methods they probably learned from their own parents. Parents like Amy Chua raise their children with tough love, discipline, and a multitude of rules, coining the name "tiger mom." Chua views her parenting technique as supreme, but it is highly controversial to the public and it brings up many questions of the effect it will have on her children 's ' future. In Chua 's "Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior," she emphasizes that Western parenting is not strict enough which cause children to grow up being disrespectful and less achieving than children brought up by tiger moms. I believe that tiger parenting is damaging towards the child and that the Western style of parenting is
It is obvious that the methods adopted by Chinese women are highly effective due to the strictness of their nature and so, have led to positive reformation among children. I would suggest that Western mothers should adopt the method employed by Chua and other Chinese mothers to raise their children. A strict upbringing will have a positive consequence among children and that these children will further develop a good understanding of positive social behavior. As a result of a strict upbringing, majority of the Chinese children are well educated, but at the same time, social life is critical in as far as child development is concerned, therefore, creating a balance between the western and Chinese upbringing methods is imperative in order to enhance a positive child
There are very few roles in life that are as wonderful, exhausting, and criticized as being a parent. Part of the hardship is that parenting comes with no instruction manual. One moment you are a singular person with your own personal concerns. The next moment, you have this tiny little being peering up at you and a realization sets in that everything you do or do not do is going to impact this minute person. This insecurity in parenting abilities is where parenting books find their niche, including Amy Chua 's Battle Hymn of a Tiger Mother, where she states her belief that only extreme Chinese style parenting is effective at raising intelligent children that lead to successful adults. Not surprisingly,
Diane Baumrind’s typology has two major dimensions. The first dimension is responsiveness. In the text it mentions that responsiveness “refers to the extent in which parents respond to and meet the needs of their children.” (Knox 364). This is when parents support, encourage, and foster their children’s needs.
“Your children need your presence more than your presents.” While Jesse Jackson’s words may ring true for many parents, these words have actual theoretical evidence, which support different parenting styles that one can adopt when raising children. Many parents want the best for their children, but sometimes can go too far when they respond to their children’s needs and demands. However, one has to ask which style is appropriate in order to have a well-balance child, and if that is contingent upon the situation. Focusing on one particular theorist, this essay will summarize, analyze and provide a critique of Baumrind’s three styles of parenting on the basis of practical methodology and flexibility.
As a parent, you may assume that you know the best way to raise your child. In fact, we are raised to blindly believe “Momma knows best” and parents are always right. In society today, everyone seems to offer their advice on parenting. You do not have to ask for it and advice may not come from fellow parents. Most can agree, there is a right and wrong way to parent; however, the right way for one child may be the wrong way for another child. Thanks to Diana Baumrind, who presided over the extensive studies of parent-child relationships in the home in the 1970’s, we know there are four different types of parenting styles: Authoritative, Authoritarian, Permissive and Rejecting-Neglecting. Each one of these styles affects the child differently at certain stages of that child’s life. Based on two dimensions, nurturing, which is love, and discipline, which is structure, we can classify parents to determine where they fall in Baumrind’s parenting styles.
Parenting styles are different across different cultures, religions, social economic status, political ideologies, and socially accepted constructs (Class, 10/11/11). The Macoby parenting paradigm of psychological constructs, describes four parenting styles based on parent’s demandingness and warmth (Class, 10/11/11). Parenting styles also reflects the disciplinary techniques used by parents. The parent-child relationship is a crucial factor in shaping the lives of a child. However, this causal association may be disproportionately unequal.
As Amy Chua (2011) points out, there are three differences in the mindsets of Chinese and Westerners when it comes to parenting. The author starts the article with several stories to demonstrate these glaring differences: Chinese parents believe their kids are "the best;" Chinese parents force their children to practice a subject until they master and enjoy it; and Chinese parents call their offsprings "garbage" and "fat" to make them improve. However, according to Chua, the Chinese parenting method, strange to Westerners, has created successful sons and daughters.
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