Chua’s explanation is that she knows this name-calling is wrong, but believes that it builds confidence in the child to hear that they are lacking. I believe in positive reinforcement, and constructive criticism is the best way to encourage a child. My discussion of the use of Chinese parenting methods is in fact addressing the larger matter of expectations of children and the intensity of the involvement of parents in the child’s life. Children need guidance and discipline from their parents to teach them the skills to become a successful adult. The traditional Chinese way of parenting is only one of the many ways to parent, however, it is the one way known to produce the most intelligent and high achieving children.
A successful parent should leave their children some options and guide them when they need help. Chua pointed out why she choose to made every decisions for her daughters by saying that, “Chinese parents believe that they know what is best for their children and therefore override all of their children’s own desires and preferences” (54). Chua chooses a Chinese parenting way to educate her daughters, and the characteristic is always being in control, which is not realistic and not good for her daughters. She blocked all the possibilities, which at the same time blocked all the pleasures for her daughters. Because there are so many unknowns in our lives, our lives become interesting.
Amy Chua does not follow these social norms parent guides. Chua is a Chinese mother that orders her children to be the best, her words of encouragement are insults to the Western parents, and there is no celebration of success because her children are expected to succeed in everything. In “Why Chines Mother Are Superior”, Amy Chua explains the effectiveness of the Chinese mother parenting style and the differences between Chinese parents and Western parents. In this passage, Chua show the differences between Chinese and western parenting styles. Even though Western parents think they are being strict with their children, they do not compete with the strictness of Chinese mothers.
Western parents would not push their children like that and let them give up. Chinese parents will tell their children what they are and are not going to do and they will override their child's desires because they know what is best for them. Chinese parents think that their children owe them everything
The Wall Street Journal published an article by Victoria Ruan that was titled “In China, Not All Practice Tough Love”. In her article, she briefly discusses what we think of as typical behavior between children and parents in China. She describes the brutal relationships between children and their parents when it comes to schoolwork and being the best possible student in the class. Ruan states how in years past children have been pushed in their studies by their parents to the point in which children start to lose their individuality and love for “not so important” hobbies. According to Ruan, chinese parents don’t just push their children to extremes in order for their children to be as smart as possible, the main goal of this “tough love” mannerism is to ensure that their children have a happy and successful life.
She doesn’t seem to be worried about her children being insecure. If children don’t meet her strict standards she might call them “stupid” or “worthless”. (Chua 3) Chinese mothers demand their children to be perfect, which is unrealistic. Children are going to make mistakes and a parent should offer encouragement following
Lots of parents think they have enough reasons for having a child, but do parents need children to satisfy themselves, to dedicate their love to him/her, or to train a good, useful person for the society they’re living in. Children are not toys whom whenever parents feel tired of them, just throw them away. They will grow up and will be parents someday. Children need to be supported. Not with neighbors, babysitters, friends, but with parents.
The daughters can not understand the reasoning behind their mothers’ decisions. However, the mothers realize their daughters are so much like them and they do not want this to happen. The daughters grow up being “Americanized,” but as they grow older they begin to want to understand their Chinese culture. All of the characters learned many valuable lessons that will be passed on to their own children. Work Cited Chinese-American Women in American Culture.
This shows how forcefully strict the Chinese parents are compared to Western parents. The Chinese parents would say anything that really has to be said to their kid’s straight forward, but the Westerns would go about telling their kids, so it won’t hurt their feelings or their self-esteem. A few of these examples come to show that Chinese parents have intelligent kids, but are they intelligent enough for society? In other words are these Chinese children capable to work in group projects compared to an American kid that lives the usually life as a kid; like going to sleepovers and participating in different school activities. This is what David Brooks actually discusses about in his article “Amy Chua Is a Wimp”, says that Amy Chua’s way of parenting which is Chinese parenting isn’t effective enough.
However, she explains that had made her a better person, and she had more respect toward her parents. Chu goes on and identified the three biggest areas that set Chinese parents and Western parents apart. The first area is the kid’s self-esteem. According to author Chu, Western parents tend to nurture their kids’ self-esteem; continue to support and encourage their kids even though the kids failed at it; whereas Chinese parents will destroy their kids if they ever failed at