There are many psychological effects that happen to people who are adopted. Many grow up in the same family as they were born to, knowing who they are and where they came from. Usually it is passed by many and taken for granted that they know where they got their looks from. For people who are adopted, it is a completely different story. There is loss when it comes to finding out who we are as people, if someone is adopted they have questions about themselves that many cannot answer. I question myself constantly, “Why was I put up for adoption. What do my birth parents look like? Do I have siblings or am I a twin? Where would I be if I was not adopted?” There are definitely more questions that could be asked, but it would lead to more wondering and to feeling more lost. Knowing only half of yourself is difficult, it is hard to grow with and accept. There will be concepts in people 's heads, and when certain events happen it messes with the mind where it is possible to shut down.
No one knows what it feels like to be someone that is adopted other than people who are. People who are adopted usually have an emotional impact as well as psychological effects because of being adopted. It took longer for me to find my own identity, and to develop what my identity is today even though I am still not 100% sure who I am. I also obtain a great amount of guilt or feeling lonely at some port in time. There are many times where I have felt unwanted or in some cases abandoned. This could mean the smallest impacts on my life such as a friend leaving or not wanting to hang out. A breakup can also be something that will impact me more than others could because of that feeling of abandonment. Though it is hard on myself it is also hard on the peop...
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...at little voice in my head, got to me. I started to feel unsure about myself, I would talk down to myself. To the point where I would have some sort of mental breakdown. When this happened, I went to the people who I knew loved and cared for me. I would get their words implanted in my head of them saying that I can do it, that I am a beautiful person, that I should not second guess myself. In these circumstances, this is where I felt like I did not know who I was. I questioned my identity of who I am as a person. Even though I have been living for eighteen years, I still do not know my true self. I will keep questioning myself, I will keep feeling a some sort of abandonment, and trust issues for the longest time. These psychological effects will not leave my mind for a long time. But at least that who I am, I finally found a part of me that is not a mystery anymore.
I have always known that I was adopted. There was never one day when I realized that my parents were not biologically related to me. Being adopted has always been a part of me, ever since early childhood. Almost every year, in my elementary school classes, I had to create a project in which I had to describe myself. Sometimes I would have to use objects or pictures, at other times I would have to write an essay or poem. Every single time I completed a variation of that assignment, I included the same three facts about myself: I like to dance, I enjoy going to the beach, and I am adopted. I remember being so proud to
It was after I had lost someone in my life that was my other half. I didn’t understand who I was, what my purpose was, what made me who I am. As far as I was concerned I was reduced to nothing more than an individual that was now alone. I didn’t realize that my identity was partly crafted from simply just being by their side all the time, that whenever I was introduced to someone, or was talking to mutuals about them, I was known for being their best friend. After the fiasco that became the end of our relationship, I felt as if I was just floating through the days and nights. This feeling went on for about 2 months until I slowly came out of it. I didn’t experience a grand epiphany of any sort that inspired me to change myself. I was painting and listening to music and the thought just slowly came to me. I love to paint, and I love listening to and creating and playing music. I began to gain back my sense of identity by engaging in activities I loved. I’m a painter, a musician, a writer, a passionate lover of movies. I’ve learned that identity can isn’t set in stone, there’s always room for
There has been an enormous amount of research conducted about adoptees and their problems with identity formation. Many of the researchers agree on some of the causes of identity formation problems in adolescent adoptees, while other researchers conclude that there is no significant difference in identity formation in adoptees and birth children. This paper will discuss some of the research which has been conducted and will attempt to answer the following questions: Do adoptees have identity formation difficulties during adolescence? If so, what are some of the causes of these vicissitudes? Is there a significant difference between identity formation of adoptees and nonadoptees?
According to American academy and adolescent psychiatry, about 120,000 children are adopted in the United States alone. That is a lot of children that need to find a new home to stay in. Not only do adoptions affect the child after they are adopted, no matter the age; but adoption also affects the parents giving their child up for adoption. There are many types of adoptions. Along with that, there are many reasons for giving the child up for adoption. There are three main perspectives that I will be talking about. One function would be the structural functionalism. How society cooperates. The second would be the conflict perspective. The third would be symbolic interactionism approach. There are many different aspects of adoption, making it
To begin, what led up to my adoption. This was very difficult part of my life, which began when my mom and my dad split up. They broke up when I was very little and my mom met a guy that I really did not like. He was a major alcoholic and always beat my mom, brother and I. There have been times that we tried to get away but he would seem to always find us. This was when finally my brother and I ran away and which caused us to
Growing older and moving through the different stages of life is phenomenal. At times when I sit and think about this whole construct of life it becomes too over-whelming for my mind to contain / comprehend . The sheer process of getting older is an experience in itself. It could be compared to an ongoing experiment with the practical session being our life. Constantly testing theories and ideas we (are living) live according to the results. And as we reach conclusions based on the assessment of (our findings) results we only go on to question those results further down the line // because our mindset has shifted and the results now can be interpreted differently. (And so (life) it can feel like constant re-evaluation of the past according the person we are at any specific period in our life). I was oblivious to many things while growing up, especially regarding my parents. It's only as I've got older that I'm able to appreciate and acknowledge what they did for me. I don't believe I'm the only one in that respect. I think we're all susceptible to the condition called emotional immaturity and their friend the blindness of youth. One of the things I've realised about my parents was how pure they were in their intentions and part of that purity was their blindness to colour. I could have easily been another child writing this and that child being Black.
I believe that an adopted child has more hurdles in developing than a biological child. I also believe that a child who is adopted later in life will have more issues than those are adopted earlier in life will have. I also believe that if the foster parents and adopted parents are have good intentions and work together the child will be able to complete each stage successfully.
As i hear all the time, many couples don’t want to adopt because they don’t want kids who do not have the same DNA as them. There are numerous reasons for this but one I hear all time is the fear of not having a connection with them or having love for them . In my point of view, I find this to be an excuse and a ludicrous kind of logic. It’s like when you adopt a pet. You are not blood related but you’re going to feel a connection with it and have a special kind of love for them. Another reason, is that when children are adopted at an older age they can be dealing with depression and other emotional problems that can make it a struggling process. Others might be curious about their birth parents and many parents have to be prepared in a situation like this. Challenging children are always having to be dealt with but this is just how parenthood works. There are going to be cons in everything but it shouldn’t be an excuse in not adopting when you are able
The parent(s), of adopted kids, feel generally more secured of their role when part of a closed adoption, because the kids have no contact with birth parents. Though that is an advantage for the parent(s), the child(ren), however, could feel rejected or unwanted by their birth parent. This shows that there are disadvantages that balance the advantages out. The feeling of being unwanted and rejected can cause a disadvantage between the child(ren) and the adoptive parent(s). It could put a strain between the two.
It is more common for these adoptive families to be transracial. Therefore there are two different races within the family. Families of transracial adoptions have many unique qualities because they have two different cultures under one roof. The problem with transracial adoption is the cultural difference between the parents and the child. The family is not prepared to understand the child’s background or the child’s culture. Relatability is also something that the child needs in the household and this would something that this family would lack. Like we talked about in class the child would suffer because they do not have anyone in their family to relate to. A child’s self-esteem would most likely be lower than a child growing up in a same race family. The child does not see anyone in their family that looks like them so they feel as if they are not good enough. It is hard for a child to fully understand as to why they are different from their families and why they were not blessed to look like their family. This creates self-identity issues for the child because they do not know who they should identify with and cannot tell where they fit in. Promotion of acceptance amongst the family would be something that could help the child’s self-esteem and
I find this to be a tricky one. Mostly due to the fact that myself I have not really accepted my situation completely. “According to child welfare, there is 5 phases that an adoptive child will most likely go through.”(child welfare) Phase 1 is no awareness/denying the adoption or the issues that come with that.” This is a pretty difficult stage to go through especially early on in a child's life, not knowing or denying can lead to more problems than they realize. “Phase 2 is, emerging awareness of the adoption process and issues.”(child welfare) This is a step in the right direction, the child is starting to experience a sense of who they are and confidence is starting to rise. They are slowly getting there, but then comes phase 3 which hits harder than most expect. “Phase 3 is drowning awareness, the adopted child has feelings of loss, anger, and sadness about the adoption. It happens to most kids going through post-adoption.”(Child welfare) There mind goes a racing and they start overthinking the situation which creates problems like those listed above. “Phase 4, the adopted child realizes the situation they were put into, and are now seeing the positive aspects and looking towards acceptance. This is an amazing step to take. Realizing the situation and working towards a positive future is great! Me personally I can say that I am in phase 4. I realize the situation
It had come to the attention of my family that I had some sort of psychological problem and something had to be done. I was always labeled as a shy and quiet kid, and like my family I had thought nothing more of my behavior. However, now it had become something more obvious. I had told my parents the kinds of problems I was having. Basically I didn't want to talk to anyone or to be anywhere near anyone I didn't know. I didn't really want to leave my house for any reason for fear that I might have to talk to someone. I was so critical and scrutinizing in relation to myself that I couldn't even enter into a conversation. Everyone seems to have a part of themselves that lends itself to thoughts of pessimism and failure, but mine was something that was in the forefront of my mind at all times. Something telling me that everything I did was a failure, and that anything I ever did would not succeed. Through discussion with my family it was decided that I should move out of my parents house to a place where I could find treatment and get a job. I was to reside with my sister Lisa, her partner Brynn, and their Saint Bernard in Greensboro.
Although I was young, I remember the day It happened. I was congratulated and welcomed by a bunch of unfamiliar faces, I was trying to get to know. On my adoption day, I was young, but old enough to know what was happening and somewhat my circumstance. I was a four year-old girl who knew I got taken from my parents, and other family I lived with in the past. Although I wasn't distraught because I was young and these new people were so nice, I still felt the need to stick by the side of my biological brother and sister who too, were getting adopted.
Issues such as very low self esteem, griefing issues, and bad trust issues (American Adoptions). He or she might start to hate everyone. However, children should know who their biological mother is because they will not be kids forever. When that child grows up he or she will start to wonder where their real mother is. The child might start to question or wonder why they do not look or act like their foster family. The might even feel like an outsider in the start of the adoptiation process.They might also want to see their real mothers for closure in their life. When this happens, they might want to build a bond with them. Also, if the child is an adult when they get to meet their mothers, they might want their children to meet their real grandmothers. If a child does not get to meet their mom, they might not understand why they are the way they are. Real parents sometimes are the reason why a child acts a certain way. According to American Adaptations, when a child is adopted at an early age you should let them know that they are adopted so that the child will not be surprised later in