Is Monogamy the Best Option?

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Is monogamy really the best relationship dynamic for everyone? Are people being honest with themselves, their lovers, or even their spouses in regards to monogamy? Apparently they are not, due to the seemingly common occurrence of infidelity in society today. This is why I will explore alternative relationship dynamics, and the pros and cons of monogamy, polyamory and other non-monogamous lifestyles. The idea of non-monogamy seems to be on people’s minds, since it has been coming up in popular culture lately, with shows like “Big Love” and “Sister-Wives.” Why shouldn’t the topic be of interest to the public? It affects everyone, concerns the way we form romantic relationships with one another, and influences the future of American family dynamics beyond traditional coupling. While many people in American society do not consider any relationship style other than monogamy to be legitimate, we often think about people other than our partners in a romantic or sexual way, and some people may be better suited for a non-monogamous relationship dynamic. To support this conclusion, this paper will explore the various styles of non-monogamy, look at the influence of genetics and biology on our relationships and counter the common arguments against non-mongamy, to show that it is a viable relationship option.

In recent discussions of marriage and relationships styles, a controversial issue has been non-monogamous relationships in American society. On the one hand, some argue, that monogamy should be considered the only valid option. From this perspective, many people feel that non-monogamous relationships are immoral, and a threat to family and society. On the other hand, however, there is the argument that the expectations monogamy sets f...

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