It can be demolishing when it serves only a person’s own needs who is a sender and fails to consider the requirements of the person. It must be kept in mind that it should be given for improvement, not to hurt. We also, most of the times give feedback because it makes us feel happy, improved or gives us a mental advantage. Remember: To truly learn to respect yourself, you have to be aware of yourself that what kind of person you really are. If someone gives you constructive feedback, you may use that for self-improvement.
On the other hand, Constructive criticism is designed to point out your mistakes, but also show you where and how a person can improve. This type of criticism should be viewed as useful feedback that can assist individuals to improve themselves rather than putting them down. With constructive criticism, even though it still hurts a little, it is usually easier to accept. In either scenario it is crucial to keep in mind that criticism can always be used to your
No one likes being told what they are doing wrong. Some people know how to accept criticism in a positive way and begin to make changes. Some people don’t know how to accept criticism; they always get offended when you tell them they are doing something wrong. All criticism is a way for people to help you or give advice on something you may not be doing right. People want to see you doing the right thing and learning more.
Nothing gets resolved and the possibility of further problems developing becomes a real situation. Understanding the value of Criticism Constructive criticism: “ is designed to not only point out your mistakes, but also to show you where and how improvements can be made. Constructive criticism should be viewed as useful feedback that can help you improve yourself rather than put you down.” Taking criticism in a constructive way is a character strength that a lot of people don't recognize or have the ability to do. Many people have poor self awareness and poor self management skills. Along with this they have issues with taking ownership of their actions and how they can potentially directly and indirectly affect others .
You should always use that information to change your performance, service, or exhibition. Constructive criticism can guide you from bad practices and steer you toward good ones. Try to be objective and look at what you’re providing as though its not yours. Also, the language that you use in response is critically important. Don’t take it personally if someone doesn’t immediately like your work.
How you choose to accept both forms of criticism depends heavily on you but also on the person giving the criticism. Some people are naturally very critical and may be unware of the criticism that they are giving. Acceptance means to give consent, believe or come to recognize. It is important to realize that acceptance is a crucial part of criticism. How you choose to accept the criticism that you are being giving will determine how beneficial it will be to you and also your ability to work in the work place with that person .You need to have high self- esteem and feel positive about yourself and your abilities to be able to receive the criticism especially if it is negative.
Focus on your convictions; be confident in your abilities and be proud of the work that you do. Do not allow insecurities to damage your focus. Only you can set your moral compass. Make an effort to see change as an opportunity to grow in a different direction and develop new strengths and insights regardless of external influences. Although it is easier to react negatively and feel inadequate and to listen to negative comments from others, you have the power to change your perspective and so will your attitude change.
I also believe if given an opportunity most people will be able to see the good in others and forge a relationship of some sort. Conerly (2004), further states two things attribute to the way conflict is managed. One is the importance of meeting your own goals and the other is the importance you attribute to relationships and wanting to get along with others. Conflicts arise when people’s interest, values, actions, views or expectation come into contact and there is a difference of opinion and thus a disagreement (Conerly, 2004). The way people view the conflict will determine whether the resolution will negative or positive consequences.
This chapter also taught me that too much negative feedback can really take a toll on a person negatively. When you give somebody too much negative feedback, that person can start to think that they’re doing everything completely wrong and can really be detrimental to their self-esteem. To give good feedback, you should give the person more positive feedback than negative. You should use constructive rather than destructive feedback. Constructive feedback is more information specific and issue specific based on observations without using judgement.
Studies can show many ways of how to deal with criticism but what you have to take from it is positive-ness as long as you’re positive then what is there to hold you back or hold you back? I realize criticism doesn’t always come gently from someone legitimately trying to help. A lot of the feedback we receive is unsolicited. Maybe there’s a lesson in every criticism, if only we’re willing to find it. We can’t control what other people will say to us.