What Is Parent Abandonment Affect Me Today?

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How does parent abandonment affect me today now that I see things differently? Back in the summer of 2015 I thought I had changed because I had temporally adjusted to abandonment because I felt I was so independent. But I realized that I didn’t really answer my questions, and I just went around avoiding memories, and I felt I was always right because I was noticing a huge change in myself. Now that I am in my second year of college, I want to connect thoughts and feelings to answer to what I thought I had answered a long time ago. This question has great urgency for me because I don't really have answers that I could use to help my younger siblings and myself over the abandonment we are going through. Parent abandonment has a personal meaning to me because I feel that it has impacted my life and still is at a great level, and I am still confused into what I need to think.

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I will most definitely let her know all the wonderful things she missed out when she walked away from my life, like my high school graduation, or my little brothers fifth grade culmination. I will let her know how I didn't have anyone at the opening and closing ceremony from the Summer Bridge, while everyone else was with their family. I will certainly let her know all the lonely birthdays, mothers days I had because she wasn't around. I would let her know how I hate my birthday and mother's day because it reminds me of her leaving. I will let her know where she stands in my heart, why I hold a grudge against her. But I will most definitely thank her for choosing such an amazing father for her children because he has played his and her role and did such an amazing job that it made up for her lack of love, care and

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