The Truth on Having Children

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Relationships of married couples gradually evolve over time, and certain couples believe that having children may enhance their marriage. Some couples hastily jump in to having children without any thought or preparation; others wait long months or years before deciding to have children. As one anonymous author stated, “A baby will make love stronger, days shorter, nights longer, bankroll smaller, home happier, clothes shabbier, the past forgotten, and the future worth living for.” Although, children bring joy, the quality of a marriage may decrease due to the amount of attention children require, financial support needed and the difference of opinion couples may have about how to raise their child.
Talking through and agreeing upon having children are the first most important steps to succeeding in parenthood and marriage. Joy and unity are obtained by many couples who are well prepared for the dramatic transformation that comes with having a child. Through watching their child take their first step to their child’s Kindergarten graduation, parents experience a joy that cannot be found anywhere else. Parents also get to enjoy their child’s first lost tooth, seeing the look on their child’s face when they get their driver’s license and seeing their son or daughter get married among many other joyful moments. Couples who already have a strong relationship will be better prepared for the change that evolves when children arrive.
First of all, children require a lot of time and attention from their father and mother therefore, the close interactions between couples are limited. This may cause couples to grow more distant from each other. Their responsibilities change overnight and they do not just care for thems...

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...n and how it affects their marriages. Jumping hastily in to having a child could lead to marital dissatisfaction.

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