The Importance Of Love And Communication

1123 Words3 Pages
bulb-icon

Recommended: The development and importance of relationships

One way to try and avoid problems from the beginning is by developing a relationship with each student in the classroom. It is important for all students to feel they are unique and special. When students feel that the classroom is not complete without them, they will strive to do their best and work to their full potential every day. One way to do that is by greeting students when they come to the classroom each day. When you greet students with a handshake, a fist bump, or simply a “Hello,” you can gain some valuable feedback right away as to how they are feeling or if there is anything bothering them that morning (Phillips, 2001). I always try and greet my students in one of these ways in the morning. That way if there is something that …show more content…

There has to be a reason the student is acting this way, so figuring out what the student needs should be the first priority of the teacher (Phillips, 2001). Showing that you are willing to work with them to solve the problem lets the student know how much you care about them. This follows along with the Love and Logic approach from Jim Fay. Love and Logic’s approach to discipline focuses on “setting good limits in a loving way” (Delisio, 2008). When the focus is on responsibility and developing a good relationship, many of the issues that may have been there in the past will be …show more content…

Speaking with the student privately allows for a more intimate setting where the problem can try to be solved one-on-one (Phillips, 2001). Students will open up more and be more susceptible to advice when they are not lectured (Phillips, 2001). Simply talking to students and having a conversation with them shows that you want to help them. Asking the students why and how questions can also help the student to discover why the problem started in the first place (Phillips, 2001). Helping students to discover these things on their own is much more powerful then hearing it from the teacher. This way they can use what they learned to help themselves out when future problems arise (Phillips,

Show More
Related

  • Scot Danforth's Becoming A Great Inclusive Teacher Reflection Paper

    915 Words  | 2 Pages

    Since I have only helped out in a few classrooms and never much one on one time with students, this is a new experience for me. Therefore I feel that it requires a transition or a transformation as Danforth calls it. In his book Danforth wrote, “When asked to explain how their attitudes, thoughts, and feelings changed, the teachers described going through a personal experience of emotional discomfort and cognitive dissonance, what one teacher described vaguely but powerfully as a ‘nagging feeling I’m not doing enough’ ” (p. 11). This relates to my time in the classroom not because I was uncomfortable, but more the part about not doing enough. For example, with Joel he struggles to read his alphabet and I worry that I am not doing enough to help him. Now I know that practice helps to remember things, but I constantly worry that I am not doing everything in my power to help him. While I believe all of this I know that this is something that all teachers feel constantly. When a student is struggling you, as the teacher, want to do everything in your power to help them, but feel you are not when they continue to struggle. Furthermore, connecting back to Danforth, I need to go through the transformation of not what I cannot do for a student to instead what I can do for them. I feel that while

    Read More

  • Analysis Of When Success Leads To Failure Essay

    1349 Words  | 3 Pages

    First, Jacobson states that children need to receive better feedback from their teachers to show them that what they are doing is correct. Jacobson further describes the need for external rewards, such as a good job or keep it up. Another way to reveal feedback is to visually show them how they have improved, such as showing students the charts that reveal their reading level has increased (Jacobson). Positive feedback and encouragement from whom the students look up to, their teachers, not only pushes children to do better, but also shows that the teachers are aware and proud of the improvements that are being made. Jacobson then states that asking open-ended questions allows students to get on the mindsets of learning from their personal thoughts and less of answering just to get the right answer. By asking open-ended questions in the classroom with everyone silent, it allows the students to gather their individual response to the question and gives them time to think about their answer, which in the end builds confidence (Jacobson). Jacobson’s last idea to influence students is to engage the disengaged. He refers to this as calling on the students who seem to be avoiding your open class discussions (Jacobson). By doing this, the teacher allows for every student to build his

    Read More

  • The Value of Intimacy and Love and Civility and Trust to a Society

    889 Words  | 2 Pages

    Corruption is present in every city and government in one form or another. However, to counterbalance corruption, society needs a form of structure to function properly, whether structures involve features of intimacy and love or civility and trust. Society will see that the majority of people will react positively to have forms of love and trust. Intimacy and love are vastly different compared to civility and trust: I believe that intimacy and love works better in situation with fewer but civility and trust is better situated for larger groups. Thus, I am going to argue that civility and trust outranks intimacy and love in which trust has a greater important to society.

    Read More

  • The Girl With The Brown Crayon Analysis

    1178 Words  | 3 Pages

    I listen to my students. I allow time for their individual impute in what they are learning, and adjust accordingly. I really believe that is why students can be so into the idea of being taught, because they are all encouraged to lead the discussion and projects before them as it relates to the curriculum. I try to learn from my students by listening to their interpretation. I am learning what interest them, and feed off of it in the work that needs to be performed. Work towards a positive social society, with this education does takes place for our students, teachers, and community, all for a better future, one that is full of knowledge and acceptance. What could be any

    Read More

  • Reflections on Cooperative Discipline in the Classroom

    1959 Words  | 4 Pages

    I recently took a course on cooperative discipline and found that many of my own beliefs and practices involving discipline in the classroom were validated and reinforced throughout the class. Students do choose how they will behave and the best way (maybe even the easiest way) to get them to make the right choices in the classroom is to foster a feeling of mutual respect and to give them a sense of responsibility or classroom ownership. Kids want discipline, or maybe to put it differently they want structure and predictability. And the nice thing about Linda Albert’s cooperative discipline model is that it gives the students exactly what they need. But what are our responsibilities? Linda Albert tells us that “the ultimate goal of student behavior is to fulfill a need to belong”, so it is our job to fill that need by helping the student to feel capable, connected, and able to contribute (in a positive way) to the group.

    Read More

  • Communication and Friendship

    1605 Words  | 4 Pages

    The movie being analyzed is the Sandlot. The relationship between the two main characters is a friendship, which begins with one boy who is desperate for friends and another who is searching for The Sandlot’s last teammate. The friendship between Benny and Small’s is an accurate depiction of the development of friendship in real life. In the movie, Scotty Smalls (Smalls) moves to a new neighborhood. One of his new neighbors happens to be the best baseball player in the neighborhood, Benny, who eventually teaches Smalls how to catch and throw so that the team has a ninth player. What begins as filling a baseball position eventually leads to a strong bond between the two main characters. Throughout the summer, the team plays baseball, goes swimming, plays baseball, goes to the fair, and plays baseball. A dog known as “The Beast” lives behind the fence of The Sandlot. The Beast is said to have eaten every baseball and person that has ever been on the other side of that fence, so when the boys hit Small’s stepfather’s signed baseball over the fence, they have to come together to retrieve the baseball. In the movie The Sandlot, directed by David M. Evans, the development of the friendship between Scott Smalls and Benjamin Franklin Rodriguez is conveyed through their communication. The Sandlot shows the progression of a friendship and the importance of communication to help a friendship flourish.

    Read More

  • Engaging Students: Transforming Learning Through Teaching Styles

    1799 Words  | 4 Pages

    It will show how much a teacher wants that student to do better and the feedback they are giving out too. It will mean that the student also needs to be able to communicate with their teacher even though some students may be shy to do so. If the student does not communicate with their teacher it will most likely not be good for them since they cannot express their thoughts. Mike Rose states, “Jack MacFarland couldn’t have come into my life at a better time… MacFarland’s lectures were crafted, and as he delivered them he would pace the room jiggling a piece of chalk in his cupped hand...” (131) Rose had stated how his English teacher could not come at a better time in his life because he was suffering from the loss of his father and was having a hard time in school. He got to know his English teacher so well that he was glad that he was around because he taught him what no other teacher had. It will show how good the communication was between Rose and MacFarland. Even though teachers may seem strict or they have an ugly presentation it does not mean that they will not be good enough to teach. Rose gets taught that through communication everything can be done because that teacher taught him to think critically and write better. He was the one that got interested in Rose after that communication they had between them because

    Read More

  • Ricky In School

    702 Words  | 2 Pages

    As an adult we know that we must work for everything that we have. Some students may not realize that this is a very important value. If a student does not do his or her work they know they will not get fired. The punishment for a student not doing their work usually results in failing grades, and the student being forced to repeat the course or the grade. Students know they have a cushion until they are at least 18 years of age. In the work force if an employee we know that if we do not do our jobs or if we leave tasks incomplete we could get fired. I would like to teach Ricky the importance of doing his work and turning in completed assignments. If I could get Ricky to buy into this by telling him how this type of behavior could lead to being unemployed he may accept the challenge and start working to his full potential. Ricky must also understand that communication with his classmates is very important. It will help him transition to the workforce easier if he is able to communicate with his peers, which one day will be his

    Read More

  • The Importance of Interpersonal Communications in a Friendship

    1501 Words  | 4 Pages

    I don’t know where I would be without my best friend. The person who keeps me sane when my family is driving me crazy, or the person who will stay up with me all night to support me when I have a last minute paper due in a class; I don’t know where I would be without that support. I found this support in my best friend, my sister from another father, Regina. Regina is an eccentric, overbearing, lover of all things natural type of girl. She lives life to the fullest and never backs down from a challenge. She is funny, full of whit and sharper than a tack fresh out of the box. Although it hasn’t always been a smooth road for us we still remain friends to this day.

    Read More

  • Educational Philosophy Statement

    1333 Words  | 3 Pages

    To begin, we need to understand the nature of students. The nature of students varies between individuals. The majority of students are well-behaved and come to school ready to learn. Part of this is due to the way they have been raised, but most students are basically good. There is a small percent of students whose nature, it seems, is to make everyone miserable. I do not know if this is because of a difficult childhood at home or because the student just likes to be the center of attention. Either way, there are always students that will give their teachers a hard time. I guess this is their nature. Every individual is different, therefore, the nature of the students I will teach some day will be different depending on their background and other various things that may happen to them as they grow up. For example, a student that has lost a sibling due to an illness or accident, may become very bitter throughout life. The nature of this student’s behavior which is being shaped by this may make this student a cold-hearted and mean student. These are the students that teachers need to spend extra time with and try to make them feel loved, no matter how hard this may be. I, as a future teacher, need to look at students and try to help them out no matter how difficult that may be.

    Read More

  • Communication Reflective Essay

    1075 Words  | 3 Pages

    I speak with students on a daily basis as I teach middle schoolers everyday. There are different conversations that a teacher can have with a student. We can directly speak as in a classroom setting, we can speak as to small talk conversation, an heart to heart conversation, it all depends on the outcome needed of the conversation. This particular student I was talking to she was expressing concern about her upcoming exams within

    Read More

  • Reflective Teacher Essay

    788 Words  | 2 Pages

    This is exceptionally relevant to beginning teachers as we are new to the school culture and environment. As much as we tried to be caring and keeping them engaged, there are students that will ignore you and deem you every other teachers that gives up on them. No matter how much you reflect on where went wrong, it will still make you feel unappreciated, disrespected and exhausted. What can be done is to have enough patience in building a strong and positive rapport with them and slowly break down their walls. We should always remind ourselves of drew them to teaching in the first place, to make a difference in every students’

    Read More

  • Establishing Positive Teacher-Student Relationship Essay

    1684 Words  | 4 Pages

    Starting on day one is important, but the relationship must be encouraged throughout the school year and in some cases, multiple years. There are a number of ways to help to develop these relationships inside and outside the classroom. Communicating high, achievable academic standards, providing individual, specific, positive feedback, embracing individuality, demonstrating a caring attitude, using appropriate humor, and never giving up on a student are just a few ways to lay the foundation of a positive teacher-student relationship. Students who love school have positive relationships with teachers and feel they belong and matter (Tessione & Inlay, 2014). Teacher-student relationships can determine whether or not a student has success or failure in the classroom (Brailey,

    Read More

  • Comparison of Online Classes to Traditional Classes

    893 Words  | 2 Pages

    Another concern that some students might have is communication. Some students might not need to have a teacher in front of them and teach the course material to them, to whereas some students might need the te...

    Read More

  • Assessment Reflection

    969 Words  | 2 Pages

    ...ercent, I alter their assignments and meet with them prior to the final grading. In this way they focus on the task at hand instead of the final outcome. Too many students focus on getting it done and not taking the time to make it meaningful.

    Read More

More about The Importance Of Love And Communication

Open Document