The Benefits Of Accept Yourself Just The Way You Are

We 've all heard that Bruno Mars song where he sings that you are amazing just the way you are. He 's talking about a girl, but let 's just pretend that he 's singing to everyone. It 's a nice thought to think that we can accept ourselves just the way we are, but so many of us have trouble doing that.

The Benefits Of Accepting Yourself Just The Way You Are

Some people are scared that accepting themselves the way they are means they will stop trying to become someone better. That can happen (we will talk about that in a bit), but the truth is that when you start to accept yourself for who you are, you don 't become still and stop growing; instead, something magical happens. You stop holding on to limiting beliefs and bad behaviors that you

It is something worth doing, starting today.

How Hard Is It To Accept Yourself Just The Way You Are?

It 's pretty darn hard, especially if we are not living up to what society has told us we need to be. We have learned, by watching and listening to other people, that we need to live up to some sort of standard. Everyone has a different standard because everyone has listened to a combination of different people. However, if we were all to compare notes, we would see that perfection is the standard we are all reaching for. It just depends on what our definition of perfection is.

We say things to ourselves constantly to remind ourselves of just how imperfect we are. Thinks like:

- I 'm too fat

- I 'm not funny enough

- I 'm not outgoing

It seems as though saying these things is a way to remind ourselves that we need to become someone different, which is simply a reminder that we don 't accept ourselves the way that we are. However, psychologists say that this method doesn 't work. It only promotes more anxiety about who we are and who we are not, and as we interact with other people and do things in our life, those words suck out the enjoyment of the process and remind us of just how unacceptable we really are.

Perfection Is Not Real

You already know this! It 's impossible to achieve perfection. You would have to be a robot, and even then, you would be programmed by a human, so you wouldn 't be completely perfect.

We want perfection to be real, though. We believe that if perfection is achieved, then we can avoid all the judgement and pain that comes from being not perfect, which is the root of the problem. Learning to deal with judgement and the pain of not being perfect is one real way to start accepting yourself just the way you are. If you can handle other people judging you, then you won 't criticize yourself so much. You won 't try to pretend to be who you think they want you to be. You won 't talk down to yourself because you are not who you think they want you to