This is why they keep asking their parents to come back together. Their parents will often keep rejecting their request of coming back together, which also causes negative feelings to appear again during divorce. This is not only because their parents reject the child’s request, but also because children compare themselves with other children whose parents are not separated. Furthermore, some children tend to blame themselves for the divorce of their parents because it is emotionally easier for children to blame themselves than to put the blame on someone else. If the child blames himself or herself, he or she would think that they are the reason for the damage that happened in the relationship between their parents.
Some narcissistic parents are emotionally and mentally abusive to their children, this can often make the child question their worthiness. Since some parents are dependent on their child and form a dependency bond between them, it affects and strips the child from having a normal childhood. Most who suffer from narcissistic parenting are left wondering why their experiences are much different than their friends. Some parents would also pretend to be sick or unhealthy in order for the child to continue taking care of them; this cripples the child from developing their own independence. The effects of this tactic can last through adulthood, taking away the individual’s ability to move forward and starting their own life.
Divorce will affect a child varies from their age. If the children's parents get divorced when they are nine or younger, then the children will tend to blame themselves for the divorce and think that their parents will eventually get back together. The children having hope for their parents getting back together is not good, because it is very unlikely that they do get back together. If they are between the ages of nine and thirteen, then the children will start to become more dependent and have a feeling of betrayal from their parents for getting divorced. When divorce will affect a child the most is when they are in a serious relationship, they will start to think that it will fail or they will eventually separate.
Whether it’s biological or environmental, personality disorders including depression, narcissism, and anxiety in parents directly affect their children. Everyone has someone they looked up to as a kid; children look to their parent to see how they should behave in society. When a parent has a psychological disorder, they have an inconsistent parenting style that can confuse the child as to how adults want them to act; a depressed parent can express anger one day, urging their child to get away from them, and sadness the next, looking to their child for comfort. Other symptoms are withdrawal, and a sudden lack of interest in things they used to enjoy. Depressed mothers view their surroundings negatively, which causes them to see negative characteristics in their child, making their parenting style cold, detached, and inconsistent.
What did they do? Therefore, it is an inequity for parents to divorce with children, because their kids' lives will be impacted tremendously. A separated mother and father has a dissatisfying affect on children. It is very hard for a child, who has been raised by both parents; to one day only have majority access to one parent. This is a situation through which kids develop inaccurate thoughts as to why their parents are not together.
Although divorce can be solution to cope with problem between the husband and wife, it still has dangerous effects especially on children. Children with divorced parents are vulnerable to risk. Divorce affects their entire lives. Divorce of parents lead children to have problems in their lives particularly in education, resources, behaviors, emotion, and health. A divorce of parents can lead children to have loss of knowledge, skills, and resources from parents.
Parents and children usually become very distant after a divorce because they are both trying to overcome a hard time in their lives, so they keep to themselves instead of talking to each other. When children realize the distant that has come between them and their parents, they become upset, and that is what leads to the depressed state. Children are also trying to understand and deal with the new way of life they are living with only one parent in the househo... ... middle of paper ... ...Cited Lach, Jennifer. “The Consequences Of Divorce.” American Demographics 21.10 (1999): 14. MAS Ultra – School Edition.Web.
The relationship between the child and the parent take a huge impact. Children in divorced families receive less emotional support, financial assistance, and practical help from their parents. Divorce, makes it harder for a child to trust their parents. Therapist Steven Earll states “For a child, divorce shatters this basic safety and belief concerning the parents’ ability to care for them and to make decisions that truly consider their well-being.” During the first year following the divorce, mothers tend to become less affectionate with their children. They often lack the communication that they once had with their child.
The Effects of Divorce on the Children I decided to write on the effects of divorce on children because it touches home with not only me but for many children in the world today. Divorce can have a positive effect or it can have a negative effect on your children.In most case when the parents decide that there is no reconciliation but to separate they do not take into consideration the effect that it may have on the children. There is a sense of uncertainty and fear for the unknown circumstances and the children fear the outcome. They tend to blame themselves for the separation and the arguments of their parents. They also, develop resentment towards one of the parents and in some cases they resent them both because they do not know who to blame.
Many parents don’t think about a divorce will affect their young children as they grow older, but divorce affects children even into their adult lives. Children of divorce grow to develop negative relationships with their parents, they tend to have poor self-esteem, and they may even find themselves unable to maintain an intimate relationship in their adulthood. Divorce affects every child differently, but it can cause many social issues into their adult lives. Not having both parents in