One thing that is commonly stated about divorce is, once two married parents with children decide to divorce, that they are no longer a family (66). Although, they may not be living together in the same house it does not mean they are still not a family. No matter what, the parents will always be linked to each other because of the children. Is that not the definition of a family? In addition, assumptions are made that if people are married with kids that they are an ideal family This is not the case, if the marriage is not working out and is only causing problems amongst the parents and kids than that is not considered a family either.
Lakaya Peyton ENG 1110-02 Ms. McCarthy 8 April 2014 Single Parent Households: Thesis statement: Therefore, having two parents in one household assuming equal responsibility in raising a child does not always advance the child’s education level, decrease emotional stress, and enhance financial support. I. Some people believe missing one parent may affect a child emotionally. II. Children may request additional attention from the favored parent.
Dealing with conflicts between parents during divorce causes children to lose their sense of security. Children feel secure when they are with both of their parents. If this feeling of security is diminished, children will have a slight possibility of developing psychological disorders. Children with divorced parents tend to be alone or have fewer friends because of the separation of their parents. Divorce and separation are emotional processes in which the child is affected just as much as are the parents.
Divorce will affect a child varies from their age. If the children's parents get divorced when they are nine or younger, then the children will tend to blame themselves for the divorce and think that their parents will eventually get back together. The children having hope for their parents getting back together is not good, because it is very unlikely that they do get back together. If they are between the ages of nine and thirteen, then the children will start to become more dependent and have a feeling of betrayal from their parents for getting divorced. When divorce will affect a child the most is when they are in a serious relationship, they will start to think that it will fail or they will eventually separate.
Many times when children have divorced parents, they suffer from growing up too rapidly. The children’s main care giver, whichever parent the child lives with, must assume more responsibility upon becoming a single parent. We know that one parent assuming more responsibility can lead to a bad relationship due to lack of time spent together, but it can also prevent the child from completely acting as a child. The cooking, cleaning, and child care now falls on one parent instead of two. This results in a child with divorced parents caring for themselves.
The child may have to change schools with any move that may result from the divorce. Also, if the child is not old enough to take care of himself or herself and the now single parent works, the child would probably have to start attending a child care program. A child could have to alternate between parents in different houses which is also very hard on a child. The adjustments to different settings and what days he or she is at which house can be confusing and stressful. In a divorce, the parents usually do not get along and may have different opinions on items.
Many parents don’t think about a divorce will affect their young children as they grow older, but divorce affects children even into their adult lives. Children of divorce grow to develop negative relationships with their parents, they tend to have poor self-esteem, and they may even find themselves unable to maintain an intimate relationship in their adulthood. Divorce affects every child differently, but it can cause many social issues into their adult lives. Not having both parents in
The degree of psychological effects depends on the age of the child. Children of ages 6 or lower tend to have less developed cognitive abilities which will increase as the child matures. At this age, children experience egocentrism which causes them to blame the divorce on themselves (Foulkes-Jamison, 2001). These children are emotionally dependent and will... ... middle of paper ... ...dial parent wants to relocate to escape the guilt they may feel or to start over. Depending on the situation, I believe that if the custodial parent has to relocate, it should be to an area close enough for the child to attend the same school and be around their old friends.
The relationship between the child and the parent take a huge impact. Children in divorced families receive less emotional support, financial assistance, and practical help from their parents. Divorce, makes it harder for a child to trust their parents. Therapist Steven Earll states “For a child, divorce shatters this basic safety and belief concerning the parents’ ability to care for them and to make decisions that truly consider their well-being.” During the first year following the divorce, mothers tend to become less affectionate with their children. They often lack the communication that they once had with their child.
Boys with mothers who remarry are more likely to do less of these things with a father figure in their life. The girl’s motherly attention has been abandoned while the boys gain a male figure. Remarriage can be very rough on children and spouses. Especially, when spouses do not get along with the children. Those who get along with their stepparents still have the underlying issue of the fact that they are really not their "parent".