Every interpersonal relationship experiences some sort of conflict at some point in time. However, some people do not have the conflict management skills needed to work past relationship disputes. Unfortunately, relationship conflicts can sometimes erupt into a partner becoming physically abusive. “On average, nearly 20 people per minute are physically abused by an intimate partner in the United States” (“National”). Due to the increase of domestic physical abuse, it has become the premise of many pop culture songs. For example, “Ain’t So Easy” is a song about a man that has physically abused his partner. His partner has packed their bags and is on the verge of leaving him and his abusive ways behind. Once the pleading, the bartering of sweet nothings, and manipulations beings, hesitation to leave can set in, but the decision to leave still needs to be made.
The integrity of any human is extremely compromised once they abuse someone, let alone within a relationship. The abuser makes it clear that he understands that he went too far. He does apologize for hitting his partner in the eye and says that he hasn’t been the man he should be. However, the sincerity of his nonchalant “I’m sorry” and repeated displays of affection is questionable. It is evident that the man
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Everybody generalizes, but the abuser in the song uses faulty generalization to make his argument valid. He generalizes that “sometimes” he has to break before he bends. He also says he hasn’t been “everything” a man should be. Both of these terms are vaguely used to sum up multiple experience and multiple qualities of a man. Hopefully his partner can read between the lines and see just how much they are being manipulated into believing that everything is going to be better. The partner is in a dangerous situation and needs to realize that he/she has been betrayed and will continue to be if they decide to
During the stage of male privilege, the intimate partner would use the following toward their partner: treating her like a servant by making all the big decisions, acting like the “master of the castle,” being the one to define men’s and women’s roles. In Whitaker’s (2013) survey, “Centrality of Control-Seeking in Men’s Intimate Partner Violence Perpetration”, describes to the reader about how male’s while in intimate relationship can be in the want of control of every single moment while in the relationship. Within the intimate partner violence relationship, the male’s main desire is to be able to control also everything the woman does which would include how she thinks, acts, and speaks while in the relationship. Alought, according to Dobash and Doash (1992) believe that men’s idea of control is used commonly used as “desire for power and control” while in the relationship. Yet, during a survey from the National Violence Against Women, it was found that, “women with emotionally or physically controlling partners are more likely to experience all forms of IPV (Tjaden and Thoennes 2000), and Raj et al (2004) found that women whose (men) partners had high levels of relationships control were more likely to experience physical and sexual
In Queen’s “Being Emotionally Abuse: A Phenomenological Study of Adult Women’s Experience of Emotionally Abusive Intimate Partner Relationship”, focused on a total of 15 women, who have been emotionally abused from an intimate partner relationship and wanted the women to describe, “What is it like to live the life of a woman who is emotionally abused by her intimate partner?” When experiencing emotional abuse, it can be express as “not easily detected; it is non-transparent in there is no physical markers.” (Bornstein 2007, Campbell & Humphreys, 1984; Evans 1996; Gelles & Strauss, 19888; Kurst-Swanger & Petcosk, 2003, O’Leary 1999; Walker, 2000). The emotional abuse can be very hurtful towards the women at times because while in the cycle of the relationship, the woman cannot tell when something bad or good will happen. While this is happening, she begins to lose strength that she once had before and in away she is trapped inside her own mind. With physical harm, individuals outside the relationship can notice the bumps and bruises on the skin. Alma, a young mother of three pre-teen girls describes her personal experience with emotional abuse as, “I was very restricted. He wouldn’t allow me to contact my mom...my family, my friends. After I had my daughter, I wasn’t allowed to go to the doctor. I could only go to take my daughter...I didn’t know anything about our checking account..I didn’t have my own money.” When thinking about emotional abuse, understand that you cannot see the “bumps and bruises” but you can still see the effect it has on the partner by using their minds as their weapon rather focus upon the individual. According to Queen and others, after their research, they would define
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Domestic abuse is a significant and threatening issue in the United States. Sadly, the rates of this shameful violence are increasing. This violence is not limited to the privacy of relationships and homes, it occurs everywhere and in all relationships. Football player, Ray Rice portrayed an act of domestic violence when he punched his wife and knocked her unconscious on February 15 of 2014. Women are heavily affected by this abuse and it’s the leading cause of injuries on women. According to crime reports (qtd. in “Domestic Violence”), one woman is beaten by her husband or partner every 15 seconds in the United States. Also, according to a report (qtd. in “Domestic Violence”), domestic violence is the leading cause of injury to women between the ages of 15 and 44 in the United States, more than car accidents, muggings, and rapes combined. Domestic abuse is not simple, it has a historical context to it, it creates abusive cycles in relationships, and it links to economic statuses.
The song is delivered in the form of conversation. In the first conversation, the victim speaks to the abuser. In lines one through five of “Love the Way You Lie.,” Rihanna sings from the victim’s perspective and her tone is heavy. It comes from a place of sadness, heartbreak, and confusion as she says, “Just gonna stand there and watch me burn? / But that’s all right because I like the way it hurts. / Just gonna stand there and hear me cry? But that’s all right because I love the way you lie” (Eminem and Rihanna). Here, the abuser is being asked if they’re going to watch her be hurt, but creates an excuse for the violent action by saying that it’s an acceptable thing to
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Domestic violence should not happen to anybody. It is a traumatizing experience that can have an individual scarred for life. Unfortunately, this form of violence does still occur today. Domestic violence consists of many different categories. This reaearch paper focuses on the signs of an abusive relationship and getting help if needed so. No one should have to live in fear of the person they happened to fall in love with
Abuse has become so common that some people do not realize they are being abused. It is important that this topic is studied because there are many gaps of knowledge to what all an abusive relationship can entail. The goal is to help someone somewhere get out of an abusive relationship before its too late. Whether its emotional or physical abuse, neither is healthy for a person to maintain in. So seeking relationship advice from outside sources, such as popular press articles may be a usual for tool for people who are looking for insight as long as they know to check up on the research involved in the article. This paper will compare and contrast the findings from the article I have chosen to the scholarly research that has been conducted on abusive relationships.
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