Reflection On Learning To Sit In The Fire

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Learn to “sit in the fire” is probably one of the most challenging things I will have to push myself through and learn as a social worker. Extreme emotions are overwhelming, and intense experiences are often very hard to process. One thing that I tend to do is try to jump in and fix people’s problems, whether they be small like not knowing the answer to a question, or big like conflicts between friends, but as I have gone through the process of learning how to be a social worker, I have learned the importance taking a step back and realizing that not only can I not fix everyone’s problems, but also, some problems can’t be solved. The text discusses not simply being a passive bystander, but to be engaged in other peoples’ lives and what they are experiencing. Finding this balance will be a critical skill to combat burnout as I grow into a professional social worker.
This skill is particularly important to me, because I have seen it modeled throughout my life unconsciously, and through learning …show more content…

This is quite possibly the biggest challenge I think I will face in my career and life. It is easy to want to advocate for others but the role of an ally is delicate and doesn’t always come naturally. Being an ally, just like sitting in the fire, does not mean fixing people’s problems for them, but supporting them. Allies are critical for support to people in oppressed statuses, yet it is important that their voice does not overpower the voice of the oppressed. This balance is hard to find and it is easy for allies to become overeager in helping a cause. One phrase discussed in the text, that I find most challenging states “Do not try to be my friend. I deserve more than that. Get to know me. We may become friends. . . . Do not tell, correct, and lead. Listen, support, and follow. Do not work on me. Work with me.” This school year has taught me a lot about being an

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