Personal Narrative: Coming Out Of The Closet

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When I came to terms with and accepted the fact that I was gay, the sudden realisation of why the call it “coming out of the closet” hit me like a giant blue pick up truck that every lesbian must mandatorily own. I realised what the term “the closet” meant on a much deeper level rather than my previous, quite stereotypical, assumption of it being called that just because us gays seem to have such great fashion sense. Although looking at myself I should’ve know that that wasn’t the case (I would wear pjs all day long if I didn’t have to interact with the human race and get shit done). But enough of my lack of fashion sense (if only I could give my friends the same break…).

The closet holds such a symbolic meaning, and to each LGBT+ individual the experience is different. But we all converge in some way or another on the way that we feel, the process of acceptance and the big one (arguably), coming out. The closet represents the dire feeling of isolation from your peers, your family, the world and sometimes even from the sense of yourself. It is dark, small, frightful and at times brings upon the feeling of complete hopelessness (with the …show more content…

But just know that whether you choose to stay in the closet or to come out, it will all be okay. Whether people accept you for who you are and continue to love you or decide to turn their backs on you, it will all be okay (at least you won’t see their nasty faces). You might feel so so alone but just remember that there are people out there who are going through something so similar to you and you are not alone in the way that you feel. Days might get shit and things might feel hopeless, but there are people out there who love you and support you. If you feel like you don’t have anyone that already does, then hold on. Because they will come into your life and they’ll end up giving the love that the oceans can’t

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