Love Shouldn't Hurt

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Red Jumpsuits Apparatus said it best when they sung Head Down, “Do you feel like a man, when you push her around? Do you feel better now, as she falls to the ground? Well I'll tell you my friend, one day this world's gonna end. /One day she will tell you that she has finally had enough.” The problem for women is figuring out when enough is really enough. Dating Violence is everywhere: in movies, on television shows, songs and newspapers, but some women are not willing to confide into someone for help. On April 5, 2005, teen tragedy was reported on ABC news, 20/20. Sixteen year old Marcus McTear stabbed and killed his girlfriend, Ortralla Mosley. Before that he continuously beat his former girlfriend, Rae Ann Spence. February 11, 2009, Rihanna filed a police report On Chris Brown for beating her. May 3, 2010, twenty-two year old Yeardley Love was found beaten to death by her boyfriend, George Huguely. The Bureau of Justice Special Report: Intimate Partner Violence says that one of every three women have been or will be in an abusive relationship in high school (Alabama Coalition Against Domestic Violence). I propose that further action must be taken to inform women of dating violence before it ends tragically.

Dating abuse goes unvoiced because some women don’t completely understand what it is. Dating Violence is defined as a pattern of abusive behaviors that are used to gain power and control over a current or former dating partner. There are four types of abusive behaviors: verbal, emotional, physical and sexual. Verbal abuse is when he or she calls you negative names, yells, threatens and puts you down constantly. Emotional abuse is when he or she shows abnormal signs of jealousy, possessiveness and stalking. They are also ...

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Red Jumpsuits Apparatus. “Head Down.” Red Jumpsuits Apparatus. Virgin Records, 2006.

Ruiz, Josefa, Francisca Exposito, and Helena Bonache. "Adolescent Witness in Cases of Teen Dating Violence: An Analysis of Peer Response." European Journal of Psychology Applied to Legal Context 2.1 (2010): 37-53. EBSCO Host. Web. 16 Feb. 2011.

Rush, George, and Nancy Dillion. "Rihanna & Chris Brown Fight Started Over Text Message from Other Woman." NYDailyNews [NY, NY] 11 Feb. 2009: NYDailyNews.com. Web. 16 Feb. 2011.

Teten, Andra L., et al. "Considerations for the Definition, Measurement, Consequences, and Prevention of Dating Violence Victimization among Adolescent Girls." Journal of Women's Health 18.7 (2009): 923-927. EBSCO Host. Web. 16 Feb. 2011.

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