The first chapter talks about how to not complain, and criticize, how to become truly interested in other people, and how avoid an argument. The thought of criticism is very dangerous because it can hurt a person deep inside, hurt his or her pride and make them feel unimportant. You always have to great people with a lot of enthusiasm and excitement, make them believe that you are please to talk with them. The second chapter talks about how to smile, give great appreciation and show respect for other people’s opinions and actions. Everyone wants to be appreciated and the best way to make someone like you is to appreciate and encourage them in a good way. Always remember that actions speak louder than words, so smile more often. Never tell someone that they are wrong because it will not make them be on your side but make them try to attack back. The continuation of the book talks about how to remember the person’s name and understand that it is very important to them, always act quickly if you wrong and admit it, talk about your own mistakes before criticizing others. Always be humble in everything you do. It takes a lot to understand your mistakes and then come clean, others will appreciate that. It is always better when someone is able to talk about their liabilities because this brings you at a humble level and accepting level. The next part the book talks about how to be a good listener, inspire people to talk about their past and current life, and ask questions to find problems instead of giving harsh orders. If you want to be good at talk with people and letting them enjoy your company, be a good listener to what they have to say. Always ask good questions that people will like to talk about because people... ... middle of paper ... ... and how to influence them in a way that they will love you to become their leader. You have to get out of the idea that everything is straightforward and easy and give yourself new thoughts and ideas and set your mind to new dreams and new motivations. This book will help me make better friends that are longer lasting and understanding quicker than ever before. I do believe that it will help you increase your prestige and your ability to get things done with other people. It will increase your power to earn more than ever and make you a better leader, a leader who not only leads but one who is willing to get to other people’s level and help drive the situation. It will help me become a better speaker and handle conversations very well. Dale Carnegie really made a masterpiece that should be read to young kids when they are still in the elementary school stages.
...grips with who we really are. In literature, just as in life, bad things can sometimes happen for good reasons, or so that something good can come out of a tragedy, and we can learn about ourselves and just what kinds of tragedies we can overcome.
However, three ethical decisions that this learning will make after viewing the film is to always assist individual to the best of your ability, despite personal issues with loved ones or friends; next, always report crimes, no matter the consequence they may have; and last but not least, stand up for what’s right, even if it leads to misfortune. The pros of each of these decisions is peace within yourself. However, one of the cons is dealing with negative pressures. For example, when you report a crime, you may be summoned to court, and have to deal with the negative criticism.
...and “shame”. Being able to develop this values will build a character strong enough to control your temper in hard, circumstantial situations, and what’s even more important, itll guide you through the correct path between choosing whats best vs. what’s the right thing to do.
The book then talks about how to get people to like you. Humans should be more genuine towards other human beings. People should realize that when making friends it takes more than just having people be interested in you, the person making friends should be interested in the other people as well. The next part talks about how to get people to think the same way as you. One should realize that when confronting an argument it would be best to avoid it but just be nice and show respect and never tell the other person they are wrong. Take their opinion into consideration and if they are wrong take care of the situation in a quick, forceful manner and let the other person do all the talking. The last part of the book talks about how to be a leader with out creating any problems. The book explains that this can be done by appreciating and praising even the slightest improvements or work in another person. Always be honest and when criticizing someone else criticize yourself first and make the fault seem easy to correct by being encouraging and make the other person happy
Part one is included the fundamentals and provides the context for people to know what they need to do to become better leaders. In part two, authors discuss the necessary elements of the first fundamental, Believe you can which is about how important it is for leaders to believe in their capacities and have a mindset that leadership can be learned. Chapter three is about second fundamentals, Aspire to excel, which talks about the importance of knowing what is important for leaders and who they are. Chapter four discusses the third fundamental, Challenge yourself which is about how the challenge is critical to learning. Chapter five expresses the fourth fundamental, Engage support, and it points out that leaders who achieve excellence get support along the way. The fifth fundamental, practice deliberately, is the focus of chapter six which it mentions that leaders need to spend time practicing the essential skills for becoming a great leader. In the last chapter, authors summarize the key messages of the book, and they offer leaders to have the commitment to learning (Kouzes & Posner, 2016,
First of all, listening to others may lead to success as the words said could be a support. People receive compliments from others in conversation. For example, in
Dale Carnegie's book How to Win Friends and Influence People gives several proven methods and examples on how to succeed in the business world. The book's chapters are comprised of how to handle people, how to be a successful leader, and how to win people to your way of thinking. The preface provides several ideas and suggestions that will help the reader get the most out of the book. The author suggests that the reader keep an open mind, and also suggest some other reading materials that will also help.
"The greatest challenge in life is discovering who you are. The second greatest is being happy with what you find."- Unknown. I have learned so much this year alone and taking an interpersonal communication class has broadened my view of myself and others. I am going to take you on a journey of what I learned and what I am continuing to learn. First I have chosen four chapters of the book that I think I have developed and learned the most from. From these chapters I picked the concepts and the theories that I have revised within myself. Starting with chapter two Considering Self, Perceiving Others, Experiencing and Expressing Emotions, Managing Conflict and last but not least Relationships with Family Members. I think that
The irony is that speaking to others is one of the most important, if not the most important, professional and personal skill students must have to be successful (Doyle 88). The student needs to understand the importance of this skill and realize that in the future many opportunities and career successes are directly impacted by working with others. Students are also encouraged to take charge of their learning. Giving the student control and as many choices is a good way to optimized their learning.
Fundamental Techniques in Handling People. The next section is called: Six Ways to Make People Like You. The third chapter is titled: How to Win People to Your Way of Thinking. The final segment is called: Be a Leader: How to Change People Without Giving Offense or Arousing Resentment. The titles to the sections are somewhat blunt and imply manipulation instead of understanding or compromise but the book stresses seeing things from the viewpoint of others and resolving conflict in mutually acceptable ways. The emphasis of the book is teaching the skills necessary to use the collaborating conflict style and behavior modification. The first section, Fundamental Techniques in Handling People, has three principles. 1) Don't criticize, condemn or complain; this is the most difficult one to manage. 2) Give honest, sincere appreciation. Everyone has some positive traits. 3) Arouse in the other person a desire to please. Using these principles promote the ability for the individuals to have an open, honest conversation.
For my in-school counseling group, I am developing and leading a group with the topic of ‘Friendship’ with six to eight sixth grade female students. These students were pre-screened for membership and mentioned concerns of friendship skills; how to make and keep friends and how to avoid gossip and ‘drama’. These students were selected for pre-screening based on the needs assessment completed by the site supervisor for practicum, which will be discussed in the next section. Based on my review of available and current literature on the topic of relationships in female adolescents, I am going to use relational-cultural theory (RCT) as a conceptual framework for my in-school counseling group. The emphasis of this framework that has been used in groups with female adolescents for similar topics includes the importance of power and relationships with others. I will use this framework to understand the issues at hand in the group, and also to develop techniques to help resolve these issues within an eight week time frame.
On a daily basis, we come in contact with individuals that we have to communicate with, wither it be for work purposes, educational purposes, or social practices. As active humans we cannot escape the idea of socializing or communication, therefor; we make it a daily routine who we communicate with, how we communicate with them, what we listen to and how we listen it. With this routine habits are formed, some are strengths but others are weaknesses that diminish the communication quality. It is extremely important for individuals to recognize these strengths and weakness within their communication routine. By recognizing their strengths, they are able to improve even further and use their ability to get them closer to goals they may have set for themselves. Recognizing their weaknesses is just as important if not more important.
After the self-assessments from the book, now I know what kind of leader I can be, what are the weakness I need to work on and how I can influence my team and the people outside my work environment. This course has taught me many different type of leadership style and one cannot be an effective leader but just following one specific style. To be an effective leader you need to assess the situation and act according to the situations.
One of the main aspects in communicating is listening. An effective listener is one who, not only comprehends how the speaker feels but, also understands what they are stating. Building a strong connection between the speaker and the listener is one of the first steps to become a good listener. By building this connection speakers should first be in an environment with open minded listeners, it makes them feel more comfortable to state their opinions, feelings and ideas. Listeners should avoid being judgmental. The individual does not have to agree with the ideas, values or opinions of the speaker; however, to fully understand them, one must put aside their criticism. Speakers will believe that they can trust the listeners with their information when they know that they will not be judged. Miscommunication happens frequently, listene...
Making new friends can be intimidating, but it’s definitely rewarding. After all, friends form a big part of our life. They are the ones who walk through life together, share our ups and downs and joys and pains. Without friends, life wouldn’t be the same at all. We wouldn’t be who we are if not for them.