Education and Teaching - America Needs Single Sex Public Schools Argumentative Persuasive Essays

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We Need Single Sex Public Schools "[W]e are all often complicit in the silencing of students. The victims often silence themselves as well..."(Hall 7). Is my hair ok? How does my makeup look? Am I going to look like a geek if I answer another question? Do I have to play sports to impress the girls? These kinds of insecurities flood an adolescents mind when placed into a coed education. Instead of focusing on the task put forth by the teacher, the task that should be the most important thing on his or her mind, adolescents are distracted by others around them, especially the opposite sex. Preteens have "a lot on their plates". New schoolwork, new bodies, and new feelings are just part of their every day lives. On top of all of this they are required to navigate through a coed school. Many may argue that the coed factor is just a part of life and the faster a child learns how to cope with it the better off they will be. However, one must learn how to crawl before being able to walk. Perhaps the issue is not learning the fastest way to walk but instead learning the most proficient way to walk. With this idea in mind the way to learn with the most dexterity would be by following the path of single sex education from the fourth grade to the eighth grade or during the age of adolescence. As a product of four years of single sex education I can attest first hand that it is the path to take for one's adolescent years. Leon Podles and Elizabeth Fox-Genovese, journalists for the American Enterprise, agree with my argument for same sex education through the adolescent years. They state: "The point of separating boys and girls during adolescence is to separate the training of good citizens from the vicissitudes of mating and dating, which notoriously distract adolescents from the business at hand" (Fox-Genovese, 2). These journalists believe that the most efficient way of learning during the adolescent age is through a single-sex experience. This experience allows the student to become more confident and to find ones own identity without the strong influences of the opposite sex. From the fourth grade to the eighth grade I was in an all girls school. At first it seemed unnecessary and I felt overprotected by my parents and my school. However as I progressed through the grades I came to see the benefits of this sort of education. Roberta Hall and her colleagues state that even in a college environment single-sex education is beneficial to girls. She writes, "Another study showed that women in women's colleges participated more in discussion at the end of the semester then at the beginning, but that at coeducational institutions, women's participation declines throughout the semester" (Hall 7). Learning in a single sex environment, I became an outspoken student in all areas, even the ones I felt ungrounded in. Participation was accepted and greatly encouraged. I would not be labeled as an overachiever if I wanted to succeed. On the one hand I had my school time, which was focused around a single sex education, but on the other I was not completely isolated from the outer coed world. My school was a part of a set of schools, one all boys and one all girls. This situation gave the student the best of both worlds. During our class time we were an exclusively female school but we had a very strong connection with our brother school. Socials, dances, and the very popular Spring Musical brought the two schools together. The girls were very excited to begin working on the play and even more excited to begin working with the boys and seeing them on a weekly basis. It was more fun than work. Rehearsals quickly turned into an eye-opening experience. Most of the girls would completely change their personalities as soon as the first boy came through the door of the auditorium. One of my friends (who is a funny, outgoing, loud girl) would catch a glimpse of a boy and turn into this shy, demure, clam. All she could do was nod yes or no and smile when someone made a joke. The boys immediately saw her as uninteresting, which could not have been farther from the truth. This is stereotypical of adolescent boys but the fact that they could have such an affect on this girl was extreme. Hall refers to this silence as a double standard for boys and girls. She states, " Silence itself may be viewed differently for men and women. Silent men are thought to be "thinking". The words "strong and silent" are positively attributed to silent males. In contrast women who are silent may be viewed as unassertive and uninformed" (Hall 8). To be labeled as unassertive or uninformed at such an early age is detrimental to a person's self image. This reaction would also happen in the opposite direction. Some girls who seemed quiet and unobtrusive would turn into viscous flirting machines. These "alter-egos" that appeared every time a boy was around was a product of too many uncontrolled emotions stemming from rising hormones. In a coed educational system the same problem arises but it is on such a constant basis that it is very distracting. This is a time in one's life where many things are changing. In order to understand and to fully relish in these changes one must not be distracted. It also makes it very difficult for girls to form strong friendships with one another when they are constantly vacillating between two identities, the girl for the girl and the girl for the boy. In single sex education the pressure to act a certain way in order for the opposite sex to see you as appealing is emphatically removed. These expectations obstruct the learning procedure in a coed educational system. One can focus mainly on finding their individual selves as well as making lifelong friendships in a single sex environment. I keep in touch with at least 5 friends from my grade school. This is a large number considering that we all went in different directions after elementary school. These friendships are so strong because students in single sex education are never putting themselves on display for the opposite sex. This may be even more prevalent in girls then in the boys. Girls are far more critical of other girls in front of boys. Most of them, especially preteens, want to live up to a certain standard that is set by the opposite sex. Developing close friendships is much easier to do in a single sex environment. From preschool one until today I have been close with my childhood best friend, Rachel. Although we have grown apart in many ways due to changing schools for high school and college we still make it a point to get in touch at least once every month. Our relationship would not have been as strong if it were in a coed environment. Our attitude towards boys in the fourth grade was so different that if they had been part of our every day lives we would have surely been torn apart. When we recently talked about our experiences in single sex education she told me, "Going to a single sex school definitely helped me because I didn't have to worry about what they[boys] thought of me or how I should act around them". Robin Lakoff encapsulates Rachel's worries when she says, " If a little girl "talks rough" like a boy she will normally be ostracized, scolded, or made fun of" (Lakoff 5) Later she also states: " If the little girl learns her lesson well, she is not rewarded with unquestioned acceptance on the part of society, rather the acquisition of this special style of speech will later be an excuse others use to keep her in a demeaning position, to refuse to take her seriously as a human being" (Lakoff 5). Fear of being made fun of for knowing too much or knowing too little is a constant distraction from the learning process. Instead of focusing on what they can do to succeed, girls focus on what they will fail in when in front of the opposite sex. Joan Swann states, "In mixed-sex conversations it has been found that men's topics are more often pursued, while women play a 'supportive role'"(Swann 123). This makes for very little learning and too many worries. Some girls do have the confidence to learn and be outspoken in a learning situation with the opposite sex but many preteen girls must first build the confidence to be able to perform well in a classroom situation with the opposite sex. Rachel talked about how her confidence was built in a single sex environment. She said, "I think I've gone into high school and college more confident in myself because I had a good base to work off of." She talked about not being afraid to speak out in class because of the small class sizes and the single -sex environment. The combination of the two made it easy for Rachel to succeed in grade school. This success sent her off to a prestigious prep school and then to Princeton. The focus thus far has been on a girl's perspective of single sex education and how it affects her confidence level, however it works in a similar, but perhaps not as apparent fashion in adolescent boys. My brother, Marc, has spent four years in an all boys school and is finishing his fifth and final year. He confirmed that a single-sex education is as beneficial for a boy as it is for a girl. Marc voiced the same worries of boys being very concerned with what the girls will think of them when they speak and act. He said that seeing his friends around girls was, at times, a very revealing experience. As with my friends at that age his friends changed their personalities completely, out of fear that the girls would not accept them for who they really were. He recalled some experiences that could not have been, had he been in a coed environment. One of the most prominent was a class trip to Chewonki, a camping trip meant for making tight bonds between the boys. The trip was a week long and involved camping out in the middle of the woods and getting involved in all sorts of activities such as rope courses, scavenger hunts, and trust games. Although this experience could have been conducted as a coed adventure, sleeping situations would have been split up and activities involving strength would have been harder to accomplish. Instead of using the amount of strength necessary to successfully complete the activity, the males would have overused their strength in order to impress the females and the females would not have tried as hard as they could. This show of trying to fulfill male and female norms would have been very inhibiting. The object of the tasks (which is group bonding and working as a team to reach a goal) would have never been reached. Marc now has to make a decision between six preparatory schools that he has been admitted to. Once again it is apparent that single-sex education for the years of adolescence have truly paid off. He now has the knowledge and confidence he needs to succeed in a coed education. Without this confidence he would not have been able to excel in coed academia. Ron Geraci, who was a product of single- sex education himself, addresses this confidence, displayed by my brother. Geraci went back to his old school to observe the students in this environment. He states, "The real reason that boys' schools are looked down upon is because they are based on the notion that, yes, boys and girls are different. But men and women learn differently, grow at different rates and relate to people differently" (Geraci, 1). To be able to learn at our different paces we must get past the idea that men and women should be treated the same in all aspects. Adolescence is a time when we should be treated differently if there is a beneficial outcome. Geraci's concluding statement sums up his point concisely. "Single-sex schools have accounted for some of the best schools we have ever known. Shouldn't that be all that matters?" (Geraci, 2). In Marc's education it was al that mattered. The boy's school he attended is a renowned single sex middle school. Attending this school allowed him to focus more intensely on his work and move on from that point to become a successful high school student in a coed atmosphere. There is however a stronger argument against boys schools as opposed to girls schools. In a girl's case there is more sympathy in allowing them to be educated alone. The evidence proving that single-sex education works very well for girls is over whelming while the evidence for single-sex education for boys is very little. This needs to be changed. Single-sex education for boys' works just as well as it does for girls. As in all cases it is not necessarily the course to take for everyone but for the vast majority it is the most noteworthy path to follow. One of the most powerful arguments against boys' schools I came across was in an article about a debate between many different sources from school boards around the country. Deborah Tannen, author of "You just don't understand", a book about the differences between men and women, mediated the debate. The headmaster of a school from the east stated, "The research I'm familiar with actually shows a null effect for single sex education for men. And there have been shown to be disadvantages, one of them being intolerance for differences fostered by excluding women, the lack of female role models, who very important for young men being educated in a coed world" (Tannen, 2). This argument is one that is often put to use when speaking against single-sex education, however it is more efficient when speaking about high school. In the adolescent stages it is very appropriate and advantageous for boys to be in single-sex education. They are not taught to be intolerant of the opposite sex but rather to be able to learn in a way that caters specifically to their needs at that age. Distraction is the underlying and most crucial problem. When an adolescent is in a situation where the opposite sex is a around, learning about Paul Revere is the furthest thing from their mind. The stress of impressing others is a learning impediment that a preteen must face everyday. In stress management courses one is taught to locate the stress factor and then work to remove it to create a less stressful environment. In this case the added stress and distraction stems directly from the opposite sex. Thus, the removal of the stress (the opposite sex) would break through the barrier that is inhibiting the learning process in adolescents and lead to new paths of knowledge and confidence.

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