The victims are blinded from the danger they are in because it is all they know in a relationship or feel it is their fault. Another reason victims do not leave their abusive spouse is fear (Rafenstein 6). The Article “How to Plan Escaping From An Abuser” says: “Such a woman faces two major obstacles: fear and finance -- fear for her safety and that of her children and a lack of money to support herself or them. The most dangerous time in the life of a battered woman is when she attempts to leave her abuser. Threatened by the loss of control, the batterer is likely to become even more violent and may even try to kill her.
Has a friend or daughter ever been wrongfully accused of a crime she did not commit? Abused women today are having to spend years in prison, crying out for freedom from a title of accused murderer, yet they were just protecting themselves from the abusive killer. Although some believe abused women should be accused of murder for killing their husbands, the truth is they should not because it could be an act of defense, or a form of protection. In situations where abused women feel harmed or threatened, their immediate reaction of protection for their children or themselves is the death of their abuser. The act of self defense comes from the principle stating that one who is unlawfully attacked by someone else should be able to defend himself/herself
Many times, women are too afraid to report abuse to the police in fear of losing their husbands or making matters worse. Women sometimes are afraid of what... ... middle of paper ... ... domestic violence, we can change the world one woman at a time. Works Cited “Clarkprosecutor.org.” Domestic Violence. Clark County, n.d. Web.
Actual or threatened physical violence, psychological violence and the denial of physical and economic resources all have an enormous impact on women 's mental health. These problems take many forms, all affecting women 's ability to attain a basic quality of life for herself and her family. Abuse is strongly associated with alcoholism and drug use in women (Facts About Domestic Violence). It also can lead to "fatigue and passivity coupled with an extreme sense of worthlessness" (Violence Against Women in the Family, 78 ). These symptoms together remove any initiative and decision making ability from the victim.
SAFE HAVEN “One in three women may suffer from abuse and violence in her lifetime” (Nicole Kidman). Abuse has an effect on women that cannot be put into words. It makes women feel lost and ashamed. In their confusion they hide in their abuse without moving forward. In Nicholas Sparks’ novel Safe Haven the author demonstrates the importance of overcoming obstacles when being faced with abuse.
A woman who is in love will do whatever it takes to have a relationship with the person they love, which makes it even harder for her to leave when there is abuse involved. Sometimes it is very hard for a woman to recognize the abuse because they are so in love with their partner. It’s very important to recognize the patterns of abuse and domestic violence. All women should take the signs of abuse very seriously. When women start seeing these signs of abuse they need to leave or call for help and not stay with the abuser.
Law enforcement, have a difficult time trying to charge the offenders because of the different regulations under Native and Federal law. The victims face a constant problem of feeling ashamed for speaking out and being a victim of rape or abuse. This explains to us, why so many cases go under hiding or never come to light. As I have previously said in my last essay, in the example of my mother it is extremely difficult for her to speak about the abuse she suffered in her previous relationship. Which is why I understand the difficulty these women have in speaking out against their offender or about what happened to them.
Whether these men decide to hit, disrespect, or degrade them in any other way, these women would allow it because that is what they are use to. As unfortunate as this may be, this can hurt themselves mentally (Edleson). When women accept abuse, whether it be physical or emotional or mental, it scars them for life. For example, if a women were to be pushed to the floor everytime she does something wrong, she will learn to be fearful of making mistakes. This can hurt not only women’s relationships but their friendships or careers as well.
Maybe because they are worried about their children or other people they loved, leaving cannot solve the problem. Moreover, escaping may enrage the abuser which makes victim getting more hurt or even being killed. So, don’t ask them why they are not leaving, what they need is actual help. Help them to record the abuser’s behavior as evidence. Help them to contact the shelter programs.
Another reason that woman stay in an abusive relationship is that they are afraid to leave. Many batterers threaten the victims of bodily harm, and they will degrade them in public. Batterers also threaten to take their children from them, stating that they have proof of the victim being an unfit parent. Woman are also afraid that the abuser will also abuse the children if they leave. Woman seem to be in a "catch 22" situation.