As for others, spanking is wrong because these parents think there can be a future problems from the effect of spanking. Spanking children can lead to emotional, mental and even physical problem as they grow up because the later effects of spanking and abuse caused by the disciplinary action of spanking. While I am against spanking a child, I understand that spanking a child can discipline him/her. Parents control the correction of their children; every parent knows how to make their child listen to them. Some parents threaten to spank their child so the child stops misbehaving immediately because the child does not want to get hit.
It’s not right to hit your child, while teaching them not to hurt others, it can often confuse them, and that’s when they start to make up their own rules. “Spanking teaches your child to fear you -- not to listen to you or respect you. He may also be humiliated and resentful, and retaliate by being uncooperative.” Spanking teaches your child that they should fear adults, and if they fear adults, how are they going to advance? How are they going to get guidance from you and family, or teachers in school? Spanking your child affects their whole life, and not in a good way.
Physical punishment has been a problem in hitting their children so they can have discipline or not hitting them because it is not right, so what can parents do and what can they not do? Should the parents hit them to learn discipline, or should they not hit them and figure out another way to make them learn what discipline is? Because many parents do not know or are confused in showing their children how to gain discipline they do not know whether to hit them or not to hit them. Many people think that by hitting their children that they are showing them violence but other people say that if you do the children would understand that they did something wrong and would not repeat it and gain discipline. What can parents do?
Hitting also promotes anger- in children and in parents. Parents often tend to react more harshly and spank harder while they are caught in an angry moment. Parents who give themselves time to calm do... ... middle of paper ... ...important that we teach our children a system of values, and the difference between right and wrong. Where do we draw the line when it comes to disciplining our children? Spanking isn't necessarily something a parent consciously chooses.
“Emotional abuse can involve deliberately trying to scare or humiliate a child or isolating or ignoring them.” (http://www.nspcc.org.uk) One of the simple things that can hurt a kid the most ignoring them. Kids need their parents attention every minute of their life if they don 't get that attention most likely they think that their parents are mad at them. Emotional abuse can be humiliating in front of your friends, other people controlling their every day move. pushing a child so much in things that they don 't want to do, not allowing them to have friends or even choosing their friends for them. A child needs to feel safe having his friends that they can trust not friends that they choice for them.
Why treat one with violence, which will eventually lead to one maneuvering their way when treating his parents to avoid the violence against him or her. Not only that, but also one will also use violence against his parents when one grows up to protect oneself from their parents’ violence. Parents Violence against children lead to many negative effects in their children’s life and even leads to crimes. People might think that violence discipline the kids and prevent them from arguing with their parents and following their orders without even asking. I agree that it does discipline the kids only when they are young but as they start to grow up it all turns upon the parents who should have known that a turning point in his or her life would come where they treat their parents the same way they treated him when he or she was young.
When someone confronts an abusive parents they may deny that their actions can be hurtful. The parents that think they are helping their kids by being tough on them may deny the child 's hurt feelings. This makes it very hard for the child to come out and tell someone, especially the parent, that their feelings are being hurt. This is why emotional abuse is hard to come by, children may in fact lie or over exaggerate making it incredibly difficult to know if the parent is indeed in denial. The real cases of abuse when the child is not lying or over exaggerating the parents actions of words, can be so threatening.
Spanking teaches children to act in a desired way only because of fear of being punished. Being a victim of spanking, I only feared the idea of being spanked, and that is why I changed my behavior for the time being. I did not actually understand the reasoning for why I was being punished. Spanked children do not understand the positive and important reasons for acting properly. Being physically aggressive by spanking your child leads them to be physically aggressive as well.
They think they know the person who abused their child, so their mind is set “he/she wouldn't do that” and it's hard for them to actually give in and say “I believe you” for most parents. The mind is powerful and parents don't want to believe it, they are shocked and feel guilty. In reality it is neither the child’s fault, nor the parent or guardian, the abuser is the one who takes the whole fault. To prevent a child from being abused, parents can start at an early age to educate their children. By teaching them what are and what aren’t appropriate ways or behaviors.
Secondly, physical abuse is purposely causing physical harm or injuries to a child. Being physically abused includes being hit, kicked, or shaken. Parents who are abusive to their children often claim that their abuse is a form of discipline. There is a significant difference in abusing your child and trying to show them discipline. The whole point of using discipline is to show a child right from wrong.