Chinese Customs Related to Marriage Presented By: Yours Name here Date : March 14, 2016. Introduction Chinese culture is rich in customs and traditions. In this speech, my audience will discover brief portrayals of a determination of traditional customs in specific regions of life (marriage). The degree to which these customs will be watched will shift between zones inside Greater China and between Chinese groups all through the world. A few traditions might never again be watched separated from in little pockets of exceptionally traditionalist Chinese. Customs Related to Marriage In a culture where the propagation of family familial heredity and the family as a social organization are focal, marriage is a critical establishment …show more content…
Cont…. Two critical parts of Chinese culture-the need to maintain a strategic distance from embarrassment and to prominently show wealth and success come intensely to the fore in marriage, particularly where the marriage is of the eldest child. Failure to give a rich wedding is liable to bring down the status of the family, bring disgrace upon them and bring feedback from relatives sprinkling downward on them. Stages in a Chinese Wedding There are a different stages to a Chinese wedding, as a rule under the administering of the man of the hour's parents (or more seasoned relatives). Weddings are smaller scale arranged and arranging is exceptionally tedious. The procedure starts when the parents are educated of their child/little girl's expectations and, in the event that they are in agreement, a meeting between the two families is arranged. Cont… Following are common stages in Chinese culture related to wedding: Information Gathering Negotiation Engagement Wedding Dowry …show more content…
On the off chance that the parents are not content with the ancestry and status of the other family, a wedding won't happen. The 'information gathering' phase of a wedding includes the groom's family determining the notoriety and genealogy of the bride's family, and the character and conduct of the bride. This is of incredible significance as the notoriety of the groom's family is in question. Prior to a meeting happens, the groom's family will have effectively made surreptitious request through companions and associates. Cont…. A meeting will be arranged for the two families to meet-for the most part without the bride and groom present-and a straight to the point and open exchange will follow. Some lean toward the underlying meeting to be held over a meal in an eatery with individuals from the more distant families, for example, close relatives and uncles present. Sharing a meal will break the ice and reinforce the bonds between parties impending
First, the parents of the groom must visit the bride’s parents at their home to ask for their daughter’s hand. In the visit, the groom’s parents take the bride’s parents cigars to smoke as they discuss about the marriage. The bride’s parents then inform the groom’s parents they’ll talk to their daughter to see if she actually wants to get married. So they say to send their son between two to four weeks.
In her book, The House of Lim, author Margery Wolf observes the Lims, a large Chinese family living in a small village in Taiwan in the early 1960s (Wolf iv). She utilizes her book to portray the Lim family through multiple generations. She provides audiences with a firsthand account of the family life and structure within this specific region and offers information on various customs that the Lims and other families participate in. She particularly mentions and explains the marriage customs that are the norm within the society. Through Wolf’s ethnography it can be argued that parents should not dec5pide whom their children marry. This argument is obvious through the decline in marriage to simpua, or little girls taken in and raised as future daughter-in-laws, and the influence parents have over their children (Freedman xi).
The role of women in China has changed dramatically, from one servitude and repression in ancient China, to one of equality in modern China. China women were sometimes subject to their father but when they got married they were subjected to obey their husband without and questioning. ?This study considers family development and attitudes toward motherhood in light of changing roles of women in China. The effects of revolutionary events and government policies on marriage and the traditional family are presented based on interviews conducted in China and a review of the literature? (Hare-Mustin and Hare 67-82). I think that women in any culture should have the same role because it seem like China women have no freedom. Some women went to night school, or worked at the factory until laws were passed to equalize women under the law.
The Sun of the Revolution by Liang Heng, is intriguing and vivid, and gives us a complex and compelling perspective on Chines culture during a confusing time period. We get the opportunity to learn the story of a young man with a promising future, but an unpleasant childhood. Liang Heng was exposed to every aspect of the Cultural Revolution in China, and shares his experiences with us, since the book is written from Liang perspective, we do not have a biased opinion from an elite member in the Chinese society nor the poor we get an honest opinion from the People’s Republic of China. Liang only had the fortunate opportunity of expressing these events due his relationship with his wife, An American woman whom helps him write the book. When Liang Heng and Judy Shapiro fell in love in China during 1979, they weren’t just a rarity they were both pioneers at a time when the idea of marriages between foreigners and Chinese were still unacceptable in society.
The fact that the fictional mothers and daughters of the story have unhappy marriages creates a common ground on which they can relate. However, marriage has different meanings for each generation in this book. In the mothers’ perspective, marriage is permanent and not always based on love. Especially with their marriages in China, which was a social necessity that they must secretly endure in order to be happ...
Today marriage is defined by the Merriam-Webster dictionary as the relationship between a husband and a wife or a similar relationship between people of the same sex. For the purposes of this paper, it will focus on marriage between a man and a woman and how marriage is differently defined between the American and Chinese cultures. This paper will discuss the cultural differences found between the American and Chinese culture with emphasis on age and mate-selection. The cultural differences between American and Chinese culture related to marriage practices shows that Americans value individualism and Chinese historically value collectivism.
parents reach an agreement. After both sides reach an agreement, then the bride has to
The culture aspect has been at a standstill essentially since its introduction to China, and it has produced the long living China that is now on display. The family aspect of China set up the social culture in the home, which then spilled over into other aspects of China, such as their hierarchical government system. This idea of social order was seen in the foot binding practice that made women more suited to find a husband, furthering the legitimacy of the Confucian relationships. Lastly, it is seen how the intellectual few rule over the physical multitudes and how this idea of social order has sustained China in its cultural practices for over a millennium. The longevity of this country is something to truly marvel at, yet also to disparage, because it is the main source of the lack of cultural
...ues the Chinese chose instead to uphold their values and some societal relations such as the position of women and the definitions of public and private space between men and women came under scrutiny. The duties of filial piety have a place in traditional Chinese society and have to value to continue to evolve with the country, but values are only worth keeping if they do not hinder the progress and growth of a nation.
Chinese cultural traditions such as arranged marriages, different religions, and superstitious notions, all which repress women, also influenced their character. A great deal of importance is placed on the variety of traditions that were placed on them. The theme of tradition being passed down from mother to daughter is also stressed. This particular tradition is not explicitly expressed. In order for it to be preserved and handed down it is to be observed, absorbed, and understood.
Marriage in the Victorian time period was carefully contemplated, as Rosenberg addresses that “Wedding ceremonies were seen as an expression of Victorian social values that that the Queen wished to renounce, while on the other hand, such occasions were viewed as having national and collective significance” (Rosenberg 98). Love played a very tiny role in the Victorian Era marriages. An engagement was more approached as a business deal. Once married all possessions went to the husband as property. Anatolyevna emphasizes how “Victorian weddings should be transformed from a formalized procedure to a celebration, a holiday for a young couple in honor of their initiation” (Anatolyevna 1) The Marriage and Wedding Customs of the Victorian time period are interesting because they are religious, strict, unique, and elegant. First of all, the Victorian time period wedding mores were intriguing because of their strong connection to religion. Terpening explains that “in the sense that marriage is an act through hardship and trial, people who led Christian lives were rewarded by enjoying years with their spouse” (Terpening 22). Even though in the Victorian time period their marriages were arranged, if you and your spouse had the same religions beliefs your marriage will be strong and last longer than other couples. People during the Victorian time believed that if you didn’t practice the same beliefs of your partner your marriage would fall apart or be in great bitterness. Religion played a big role in the Victorian wedding ethnicities but the harsh laws of marriage were a huge part for weddings during this time period. Next, the Victorian time period Wedding traditions were remarkable because of the firm traditions. Author Kat Stromquist ment...
Family acceptance is important to interracial relationships. One way a couple can tell if their family approves of the wedding is by how many people attend the ceremony. “Of these ceremonies, whether religious or civil, the gatherings were small with only a few close relatives or friends attending” (Porterfield 103). Family members, who do not agree with interracial relationships, will show how they feel by not attending the wedding. Close family members will support the bride and groom but not the marriage itself. After the marriage, the newly weds will sense tension at one another’s family gatherings (Porterfield 105). A newlywed couple needs to feel a substantial amount of acceptance because marriage is one of the biggest steps in one’s life, and newlyweds need to know they have not made the wrong decision. The family of one’s partner can cau...
Having the support and involvement of parents and grandparents in the ceremony brings a special blessing to the couple and also expresses honor to the previous generations of marriage unions.
Historically, the Chinese have considered the family as the basic unit of society. Familial principles such as obedience, loyalty, and kinship have been cherished in all states. In premodern China, many philosophers discussed their own beliefs about family. Confucius and other philosophers defined that an exemplary family was the one in which parents cared about their children, and children obeyed their parents. The Analects of Confucius discusses filiality, a traditional obedience to parents and ancestors, as its central theme. When an individual understands the concept of filiality and practices it, he can establish his moral way of behaving. Deference to elders in a family is considered the roots for accomplishing one’s comprehensive ethics. In the Han dynasty, filial piety was a political ideal as well as a familial virtue. Thus, emphasis on this familial virtue increased significantly. Confucius argued that filial piety begins with serving one’s parents and continues with serving the emperor. Being obedient to one’s parents was a prerequisite to being loyal to the emperor. On th...
Planning a family celebration would prove rather difficult for me since the majority of the members of my family in my genogram have passed away. However, for the sake of this assignment I am going to pretend that is not the case. Family dynamics can have many sources of tension relating to many causes. According to my genogram and homogamy analysis, we are pretty similar, we are all Caucasian, and lower to upper middle class, however one big difference is our religious beliefs. The majority of our family tensions are not due to the analysis of our homogamy, but to social issues. Knowing my family dynamics, I can foresee three potential sources of tension that may occur at my family celebration, the difference in religious beliefs between family members, the shattered relationship between my mother and father, and my grandmothers mental disorder.