Throughout life you will make a countless number of decisions. From small decisions like what to wear, to huge decisions like deciding when is the right time to have a baby. And throughout your journey there will be people who judge your decisions. Then, you might question yourself and think “Did I make the right choice?”, but you must not let others’ criticism get in your way. You will always receive criticism but it is up to you to decide how you will handle and capitalize off it. Not all criticism is bad. People will give you constructive criticism to try and help you improve yourself. You should then take it into consideration and make changes to better yourself. Accepting destructive and constructive criticism is something we must all learn to do because it is part of our daily lives.
Criticism can be defined as “the expression of disapproval of someone or something based on perceived faults or mistakes” (Oxford Dictionaries, 2016). Destructive criticism has only one purpose and that is to point out faults and mistakes and to tear
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The first option is just to ignore it. If a critic notices that it doesn’t affect you in any way they will stop because they can’t bring you down. The second option is to acknowledge it and prove them wrong. Whatever it is that they are criticizing, show them that you can and will succeed. Let the haters be your motivators!
But, not all criticism is has a negative connotation to it. Constructive criticism is “criticism or advice that is useful to help or improve something, often with an offer of possible solutions” (Dictionary.com, 2016). This is the type of criticism that you want to receive. It will improve your work ethic and the workplace. You don’t even have to wait until you receive it; you can ask your coworkers or boss for constructive criticism. It will open your eyes to how others view your work ethic. From there, you can decide how you will improve
It could also be a parent at home criticizing you about a grade to do better in school. When a coach would say something to me that would sting, it would motivate me to do better. I would notice when the coach would say the same thing to a team mate they would get upset and cry. I never understood why they would not just better themselves, instead of pouting over a simple criticism. This is because of differential sensitivity. Differential sensitivity is “the idea that some people are more vulnerable than others to particular experiences” (Berger, 2010, p.21). I was able to take this criticism from the coach because I was used to having someone at home, criticizing my weaknesses, so that I could better myself. When someone criticizes me, I do not take it to heart because I work harder on that subject to show them that I can do better. The other team mate was more sensitive in the situation and took it to heart. This may have been because the team mate was going through a sensitivity period. Some small comments to children can still affect them later in life, but some may forget about it an hour later. Differential sensitivity is used to, “aid prediction and thus target intervention” (Berger, 2010,
Firstly , Tannen introduces the term “culture of critique” by beginning three successive paragraphs with the term so that the reader will not forget it. Tannen then identifies the problem presented by the “culture of critique”, that is, a tendency to attack the person making an argument, or misrepresenting the issue, rather than arguing against their position itself. She points out that instead of listening to reason, people who are caught up in the culture of critique debate as i...
With all the different types of literature we have in our world, we also have a similar amount of interpretations of those pieces of literature. Each interpretation is as valid as the other. Literature not only allows the writer to create a wonderful world and a story, it allows the reader to fully embrace the story and find meaning out of it. There are also many different types of literary criticisms. These criticisms are vehicles or guidelines for us to use to understand the reading in a very specific way and really pinpoint the issues and overall theme of the story.
When many people write, including myself, they get attached to their writing. Although writing can be a personal thing, I’ve learned that it is important to step away from your paper, and take the feedback on an objective level. The first time I got feedback, I had an overwhelming urge to defend myself. I remember reading that my introduction wasn’t complete, and that my evidence wasn’t properly introduced. I wanted to walk up to those who critiqued my paper, and spit right in their faces. ‘How dare they say bad things about my paper?’ I thought to myself. From here, I went back into my essay, and looked at what they had told me were errors. It was then that I realized that they were right. My introduction needed more background information, and my evidence should have had more of an introduction. They weren’t trying to be mean; they were just helping me receive a better grade, by looking at my essay through an objective view. Now, I go out of my way to ask people for feedback, and tell them to be honest. I want my paper to be the very best it can be, so it isn 't helpful when people hold back. I now understand that those giving feedback aren’t insulting me, or the paper; they are just suggesting ways to improve, or enhance my ideas. Giving and receiving feedback is a hard, yet important skill to learn, and hope to continue improving in this
Her research has shown that daughters describe a mother’s criticism as “ a magnifying glass held between the sun rays … concentration the rays of imperfection” (971). But for a mother a criticism is just a way to help her daughter improve. As sighted by Deborah “ Mothers subject their daughters to a level of scrutiny people usually reserve for themselves.” Meaning a mother will be a tough critic not because their daughter does not please them, but because a mother only wants what is best for their daughter.
I can handle constructive criticism very well. If I do something wrong then I would rather someone fix what I'm doing then to keep doing it wrong. I don't get sad, I am perfectly fine if someone fixes my mistakes. I don't take it personally and I know that I'm not perfect. I understand the benefits of getting feedback.
I have been blessed with many leaders and pillars in my life that challenge me daily. My parents, teachers, community leaders, and even figures in my church all know they can openly challenge my ideas. I try not to take constructive criticism as a put down; but rather as a compliment.
“Choose something that you’re good at.” This was the advice given to me by my mom before applying to college. “Choose a major that will get you a good job, but also something that you like.” These are the words that came out of her mouth; these are words that say one thing but really mean another.
Instead of being happy or proud that I want to be a best person I can be, which I feel is to earn a degree. They feel it is selfish and that I am abandoning responsibilities at home, however my husband and children feel the complete opposite and thankfully are extremely supportive. How I plan to deal with this challenge is simply by ignoring their rude comments and look the other way. I can’t change their thoughts or feelings regarding the choice I have made, but I can control my reaction, which is to show my children kindness always wins. When they have a problem with another child not being kind to them, they will tell that child that they will pray for them, which we do. That will be the kindness I show to those negative people. I will pray that God shows them my heart is working towards something that he wants. Something that is bigger than I am and will one day hopefully understand why he has guided on this
Criticism is something that we all deal with daily and many of us believe that when we give criticism we are expertly doing so but as we receive criticism we tend to believe the other person is degrading us personally. Since criticism is mainly to judge merits and faults of a person or their actions, it is natural for us to feel defensive as we act the way we do based on the knowledge we have and we feel that the criticism questions our knowledge. Many of us may see criticism as such and act defensively towards it but according to an article called Giving and Receiving Criticism the author Sue Hadfield states, “Constructive criticism, however, can be helpful and lead to better working relations.” (Hadfield, 2013) With this in mind we can process that criticism can be used to give feedback to better ones position or knowledge in that which is being criticized. But how do we give criticism while staying in the favor of the criticized and when receiving criticism how do we differentiate between constructive and destructive criticism? Continuing in the article the author presents certain...
The book I'm a Stranger Here Myself, written by Bill Bryson, is based on a collection of written articles. Bryson writes about everyday events and shows their negative qualities through whining or creative criticism. He attracts the readers' attention by writing ideas that relate to a normal persons life. His methods are very powerful because it attracts his main audience of common people through his simple vocabulary use and everyday middleclass situations. Also between his "complaining" he throws in little jokes that make his stories entertaining. This makes the reader continue reading because it constantly grabs their attention. Another reason of why Bryson's style of writing is very effective is because all of his stories have a main theme that gives a strong and important message to the reader. Some of these messages may be a little controversial to some readers but are very thought out and well explained.
People who are criticized tend to go in the opposite direction from where the feedback
Humans are imperfect. We often need to step out of ourselves and look back as a third person. I am imperfect. Accept constructive feedback that shows us our weaknesses, so that we can work on it to be real, not perfect. However, for some of us, it 's not easy and I understand it. It 's not about how old we are, how rich we are or even how talented we are, but it 's about how real we are to accept the fact that we are still imperfect.
Self-confidence is very important in every area of our life. Self-confidence is a belief in your ability, skill and experience. If we lose self confidence in ourselves, we will not be able to go further in life. Sometimes I have faced some challenges about who I am and the things I do. I believe I was created for a great purpose by God, and I also believe I am an important person. I do not let anybody to treat me as if I am nothing or the way they like. When we do not know who we are, we will be misled by other beliefs or opinions. I believe in myself. I know there is the ability and power in me to become what I want to be. I do not need anybody’s comments or opinions to know who I am. I always remind myself who I am in Christ and the purpose I have made. I always stay away from individuals who put me down and shred my confidence. Similarly, I believe in doing what I believe to be right, even if others mock or criticize me for it. I do not expect people to like the things I do. When you have a confidence, you do not fear being responsible for the decisions you make. Confidence helps to know what to do when mistakes happen and in decision making. Most of the time people do not appreciate the things you do until they see the
Some are raised being built up all the time, and they think they are on top of the world. They will never battle with being scared of what people think, but they will fight their own type of battle. They will have to deal with the word cocky and overconfident being thrown around at them. While others are raised being torn down all the time, and are scared of what everyone thinks. People raised like this will often have some of the most problems with confidence in themselves. They are constantly scared of being judged all the time. Once in a while there are parents who raise their children to be humble and that encourages them to be the happy medium in society. In today’s world, people should strive most for being the person who can say, “I can do it no matter what they think,” but they have to be careful not to say, “I am going to be the best at it no matter who is against me.” Our society we live in today has created many types of confidence. It is the job of the people to help each other become that humble yet confident