Passionately In-Love Even After All These Years? It’s Possible
It's easy enough to promise a lifetime commitment with someone. But keeping at it is almost something that is easier said than done. With temptations and issues of indifference lurking around in every corner, it is just utterly impossible to stay head-over-heels in love.
This is in spite of every good reason you fell in love in the first place. It's a bitter truth that every relationship--old and new, must acknowledge. The nightmare of it all is when things gets overly dry either of you just isn’t as excited for anything more than just seeing each other.
The secret to a happy relationship is one that starts and stays passionately about each other. Managing a career and raising children on the side can also wear you down big time.
What most couples fail to consider is that they cannot just allow passion to slip away, no matter how hectic or toxic each day gets. Believe it or not, the key to keeping that romantic fire burning in long-term couples lies in these simple and time-tested secrets.
1. Keep the communication lines open.
There is no more effective way to sustain the relationship but to always find time to talk to each other about just anything. You could talk about what when on throughout the day, how each other feel about a pressing national issue, or what plans you wish to pursue together.
If you are encouraged to talk about the simple things, there is no reason why you shouldn’t talk about the complicated ones. If you are confronting an issue, it is best to talk about it with someone who understands and who is directly involved in the entire situation.
No other person should be able to make you feel better other than your better half. The power of communicat...
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... and stop criticizing your partner for shortcomings that didn’t used to show when you were dating for the first time. When you are more engaging and fun, your partner will be drawn to you a hundred times more.
8. Choose to be a loving and partner all the time.
There will be times when you will be forced to be anything but loving. You are human and you can’t always be at your best when it comes to being in love with your partner.
But no matter what happens, always choose to be loving and forgiving. Your partner will always remember how you make them feel. Loving gestures can go a long way and it will surely be reciprocated with twice the love you gave.
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For a relationship to survive those involved have to make sacrifices and watch out for any threats to the relationship. Although there is more than just information on dating and relationship traps to ensure a successful relationship learning of the many traps to a relationship and making an effort to avoid them increases the chances of survival of a relationship.
Above all, to have a successful marriage, the couple must love unconditionally. Love covers a multitude of mistakes and wrong doings. No one is perfect, so don’t expect your spouse to be. Spouses should show their partner the type of love they would like to receive.
Believing so, some humans would say they can’t control what they do when they’re in love. For example, in The Tragedy of Romeo and Juliet, by William Shakespeare, Juliet change her last name from Capulet to Montague within days to be Romeo’s wife. She struggled with this transition in her life but wouldn’t change anything because of her obedient love to Romeo. Juliet and Romeo also threaten to kill themselves many times( and
“In any relationship, there will be frightening spells in which your feelings of love dry up. And when that happens you must remember that the essence of marriage is that it is a covenant, a commitment, a promise of future love. So what do you do? You do the acts of love, despite your lack of feeling. You may not feel tender, sympathetic, and eager to please, but in your actions you must BE tender, understanding, forgiving and helpful. And, if you do that, as time goes on you will not only get through the dry spells, but they will become less frequent and deep, and you will become more constant in your feelings. This is what can happen if you decide to love.”
“We do not develop habits of genuine love automatically. We learn by watching effective role models – most specifically by observing how our parents express love for each other day in and day out.”– Josh
With recent advancements in technology (e-mail, phone, text, social media, and video conference), couples can manage and maintain their relationship with a simple touch of a button. Foremost, communication through technology is important to couples involved in long-distance relationships (LDRs), as the demand for relational development requires constant attention.
Then, people in relationship should have communication, willing to work through the inevitable differences, and aware of their partners own live-time goals. After reading chapter 6 Relationships: Mindsets in Love (Or Not) in Mindset, I found Dweck has a really good point, she writes, “A no effort relationship is a doomed relationship, not a great relationship. It takes work to communicate accurately and it takes work to expose and resolve conflicting hopes and beliefs.” It does not really dangerous that a relationship have a serious problem, as long as people are pleased to discuss and put themselves in each other’s shoes, their relationship is going to grow and
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