What does loving oneself mean? It means taking care of oneself regardless of the negative messages that have been pounded into one’s brain over the years. Some people learn as they grow through adulthood. Some never learn because of oversensitivity to what others have said during the course of their lives or from severe trauma that occurred throughout childhood. The purpose of this paper is to demonstrate the meaning and importance of what loving oneself truly means and the common misconceptions thereof. There are several steps to the process of loving oneself unconditionally. According to Deepak Chopra MD, the first step toward a person loving oneself is taking quiet time for oneself to reflect upon what one wants to change and secondly, getting in touch with one’s inner child. Meditation is an effective method for self reflection. It is also imperative for him to …show more content…
One of the biggest misconceptions is that loving oneself is considered selfish. In fact, this is far from the truth. There is a big difference between being selfish and genuinely loving oneself. Everything in life has a balance. Love doesn’t have to be limited; there is plenty of it for all of humanity. Another misconception about self love is that its focus is on one’s physical image. “There is a lot more to self love than the outside package that we present.” Sadly, society is very preoccupied with physical appearances and people just follow it. It is obvious that insecurity plays a big role on one’s self image. An additional misconception about loving oneself is that one sees himself superior to others. Self love doesn’t have anything to do with that. A good example of a person who deems herself superior is a prima donna. The word “prima donna” is well known due to media’s popular use of this kind of character. The principles of loving oneself teach that every individual is important and special. Respecting others is another valued
We created our ego self in our attempt to protect ourselves from the losses we fear loss of self, loss of other, loss of security, loss of face. As children, when we didn’t get the love we needed, we decided that our true Self must be unlovable. In our attempt to feel safe, we buried our true Self and created the false self the ego, our wounded self. The ego self then went about learning how to feel safe through trying to control others and outcomes. The ego believes that having control over how people see us and feel about us, as well as over the outcome of things, will give us the safety we
As Grogan (1999) explains, one’s estimation of his or her appearance referred to as body image. Body dissatisfaction develops when negative judgments about one’s physical body contradict the ideal perception of the perfect body (Szymanski & Cash, 1995; Grogan, 1999). Having issues with body image and dissatisfaction during the most critical developmental period may place adolescents at a high risk of developing eating disorders. The effect of social media on body image and eating behaviors can be explained by a number of theories. The sociocultural theory, which is described by Thompson, Heinberg, & Tantleff-dunn (1999), can provide a structure to better understand the phenomenon of body dissatisfaction along with eating disorders. This theory
Self-concept is an individual’s compilation of feelings, self-perception, and an idea of the basis of human personality. Self-esteem, usually identified in a positive approach, is the concept of one’s confidence in abilities and self worth, and the idea of self-respect. Self-evaluative standards evidently have a vital role in shaping future emotions and subsequent behaviors (Kuiper & McHale, 2009; 143.4: 359-76). According to Abraham Maslow’s Theory of Self-Actualization, self-esteem, notably confidence in oneself, respect for and by others, is achieved after physiological needs, safety needs, and love and belonging needs. Self-esteem, then, is combination of several characteristics, which result in a physiological
People can never experience their true character when hiding behind a façade of self-doubt. Not only are these individuals hurting themselves, but they are also harming their relationships with others. Insecurity comes from the lack of confidence in an individual. Wanting approval is shown in those who are insecure. When this emotion grows it becomes something as ugly as jealousy. As well as an addiction to the dependency of another person. Nevertheless, insecurity is a powerful emotion that creates a negative effect on an individual’s ability to view themselves positively and impacts their
...-love is the basis of all love.” says Traherne (2014). You cannot properly love anyone before first loving yourself because self-love is true love.
Love is arguably the most powerful emotion possessed by mankind; it is the impalpable bond that allows individuals to connect and understand one another. Pure love is directly related to divinity. Without love, happiness and prosperity become unreachable goals. An individual that possesses all the desired superficial objects in the world stands alone without the presence of love. For centuries love has been marveled by all that dare encounter it. Countless books and poems have been transcribed to explain the phenomenon of love, but love surpasses all intellectual explanations and discussions. Love is not a definition, but rather a thought, an idea. This idea, the idea of love, burns inside us all. Instinctually, every soul on Earth is
Self-esteem is about self-worth against what others think. For instance, assuming your value for yourself
If you don’t have self-love, it’s hard to find what you aren’t familiar with. “Over and over again, Celie accepts abuse and victimization”(Henderson 67). Through victimization, self-blame starts to form over time. Celie wanted a clear statement of what was actually happening to her and why. She redirected her thoughts to the higher power, God.”Dear God, I am fourteen years old. I have always been a good girl. Maybe you can give me a sign letting me know what is happening to me.”(Proudfit 53) Blaming themselves, woman often search for the missing piece in their
“The nature of self-love and of this human Ego is to love self only and consider self only. But what will man do? He cannot prevent this object that he loves from being full of faults and wants. He wants to be great, and he sees himself small. He wants to be happy, and he sees himself miserable. He wants to be perfect, but he see’s himself full of imperfections” (49). When I was in Vancouver I tried so hard to be able to love myself, but all I could see was imperfections within a very lost soul. I tried to continually fuel this inner pain by turning to drugs to imitate the love and feeling that I was so strongly wishing for, and found that I was pushing myself even further into depression through the continual follies I was making by catering to these wants. “Truly it is evil to be full of faults; but it is still greater evil to be full of them and to be unwilling to recognize them, since that is to add the further fault of a voluntary illusion” (49). I was full of faults and was unable to recognize them until I was able to step back and reconsider my position and the choices I made. Through my wise decision of moving to Calgary, I was able to realize that I was not perfect and I am full of faults, but that it is something that I have been working on and I have been able to love who I am a substantially larger amount in
In the Tripartite Model there are three processes to develop self-esteem: being, becoming and acquiring (Weiss 22). In the being stage, the individual is taught to see themselves as an essence of the universe, part of humanity or an aspect of nature. The self-esteem arrived at through the ‘being’ stage is innate to humankind. The individual is taught the value of existence as they build self-esteem based upon their sense of being and living in the world (Weiss 22). The second stage, becoming, focuses on the development of qualities that are intrinsic to the individual and relates primarily to the development of one’s inner core (Weiss 22). The individual is taught to value themselves based upon their unique qualities and abilities. In the final stage, acquiring, the individual learns to value all of the other features that contribute to their self-esteem such as skills, accomplishments, positions, worldly goods, and appearance. The Tripartite Model seeks to build a full and complex sense of self-esteem for the individual as the model focuses on teaching the individual to have a more balanced self-esteem that is not solely based on their skills and
This book recommends that people ffocus on and understand their needs first and by doing so they remain in an ttractive state and be able to attract vibrant, positive relationships into their lives.Until you love yourself,others cannot love you. Simply put 2 matched people start by loving themselves and then start loving the other,forming a strong bond.Let's address 3 main rules to follow: respect yourself , love yourself and take care of yourself.Let's address
In conclusion, whether it be my three sisters, my parents, my boyfriend, or my friend Seth, we all deserve to be loved. The people around you are the people we should love the most because they are the people we have to interact with. If the world cannot learn to love, then we are doomed to war and famine. Love is the strongest thing in the world. I love others so they can love one another. Love is what my world revolves
In our daily lives, we always mention love and experience love. However, no one can truly, completely know what “love” is. That is the reason why love has been a topic that many philosophers, psychologists or common people keep discussing for decades. Besides, we often talk about “self”. There are classes to teach people how to build up their self-esteem and self-confidence. Also, the importance of self-discipline is taught at schools. In this essay, I am going to talk about how love and self are related to me with my personal experience as explanations.
Love is the core of who you innately are. It’s highly important to practice loving yourself day to day because it will bring you true and everlasting happiness, inner peace and will improve your heath and wellness. How you speak to yourself is how your feel about yourself deep within, and reflects the
...he process of looking at oneself in order to assess aspects that are important to one's identity. Various studies consistently show that one of the major components important to ones identity is physical appearance. Young people with issues regarding physical appearance are at risk for developing low self-esteem as socioemotional problems, that focuses on negative variations that occur in an individuals personality, emotions, and relationships with others during ones lifetime. Thus this week is the central focus of what this program is essentially targeting. Through self assessment tools such as the Rosenberg self esteem scale, a scale that has been extensively used in cross-cultural studies in more than 50 nations, we will be able to obtain data on how one sees themselves thus allowing for individualization of the curriculum based on the indivuals self reflection.