How Women should Act to Achieve and Keep Love

How Women should Act to Achieve and Keep Love

Why do relationships commonly end in disaster or slowly wither away to nothing? That question could be answered in many ways. Whether the answer lies within the women’s actions, the men’s actions or both, it is something that has been an ongoing occurrence for many years. A valid explanation is that society has different expectations for acceptable male and female behaviors, which ultimately ends is a double standard that ruins relationships. However, another idea that has been more commonly researched in today’s society is that women and men think completely different and just do not understand each other. Steve Harvey’s book, “Act like a Lady, Think like a Man” is a prime example of the assumption that women do not understand how men think or how they feel when it comes to relationships. This book specifically, gives a direct representation of how most men function in relationships and it provides guidelines and advice for women from a man’s perspective about how to have a successful relationship. Furthermore, Steve Harvey’s book also explains many stereotypes that are common in today’s society about relationships and sex.

“Act like a Lady, Think like a Man,” starts of by describing how men think and the status they need to achieve in order to feel like a man. The most consistent point made in this part of the book is that men respond to life, their career goals and relationships differently than women. Harvey first put an emphasis on the idea that men need to be able to gain a title and also need positive reward from the title they have achieved. From that idea, it can then be assumed that until men do so, they are commonly not going to commit to a relationship purely because the...

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...he was able to make it. Ever since relationships were openly discussed in society, women have really only been given the roles of the house wife, mother, or “prize” but it seems as if those roles are becoming harder to obtain since men do not feel obligated to commit. Therefore, the purpose of this book, even though some might not agree with the stereotypes presented or advice given, is a step toward hopefully allowing women to really understand men and find love.

Works Cited

Harvey, Steve, and Denene Millner. Act like a lady, think like a man: what men really think about love, relationships, intimacy, and commitment. New York: Amistad, 2009. Print.

Sommer, Kristin L., and Roy Baumeister . "What Do Men Want? Gender Differences And Two Spheres Of Belongingness: Comment On Cross And Madson (1997).." Psychological Bulletin 122: 38-44. ProQuest. Web. 30 Apr. 2014.