History of the Couple:
My parents got married on December 23rd, 1990, both at the young age of 23. It was an arranged marriage, a process set up by acquainted relatives. Common to that day of time and age, both my parents felt comfortable with this idea, as it was the ‘norm’. There was a strict system of marriage, present as couples who engaged in a love marriage were looked down upon. It was common to be married off at a young age, while both the couple was continuing their post-secondary education. Being engaged at 21, my parents communicated with each other before marriage through love letters. These letters were a method for them to understand each other, discover their common interests and personality. It has been 25 years since their
Both of my parents use the rule of patience within their relationship. EXPAND
Roles: Roles consider of fluctuating power levels in the relationship, where couple change power levels appropriate to the situation, also known as the “Power Dance”. Couples must negotiate how they will share powers to avoid a power struggle. When it comes to matters dealing with children, my mother has the upper hand; as she states females can relate better to other females. There is a natural instinct to have control over situations in regards to situations…………….
Relationships: Relationships pass through a series of stages of development and change to respond to the needs of the individuals and conflict within their lives. However, couples must give time for their relationship to mature, yet be open to change at the same time. One of the crisis that arrived was financing for university education for my sister. Not knowing that she would want to pursue post-secondary education outside of the GTA, in a short-time period there had to be a plan of action. My parents changed themselves by working more hours, discussing alternate options with their bank advisor, and etc., It was a time of stress, but this was overcome by collectively negotiating the possible options, and deciding what is best. Within this conflict, both views were heard and considered. As well, this allowed my parents
This was done through effective communication beyond discussing the utility bills, changes in the kid’s life, but more about their own hopes, dreams and worries. With an open discussion, this allows trust and commitment to occur, a key foundation in a successful marriage. I believe that the time they make for each other makes their relationship flourish. Having two kids, and an extended family results in a busy schedule, however the rituals of evening walks, or their inner philosophy of having patience with each other, let’s this relationship to have stability. They make time to discuss their feelings, and bond as a couple, building their relationship one step at a time. There is always an element of strength present, to fight the bumps along the way, which makes this a successful
According to the author, Lizette Alvarez, in the article “Arranged Marriages Get a Little Reshuffling”, Arranged marriages are better than modern marriages and parents can choose good mates for young. First, the arranged marriage has changed a lot in modern time. Arranged marriages are more flexible because young people can meet several times in some public venues without family members. Parents and elders have become more lenient. Second, arranged marriages have more advantages than modern marriages. Arranged marriages can preserve religion and identity and help people to find their mates in the same social class. Arranged marriages can outlast modern marriages because couples can avoid social and religions disharmony. Finally, young people prefer arranged marriage to modern marriage. Young people would spend less time to find their mate because their parents, chat rooms and dating websites help find mates for them. Young people can easily find their mates who have the same education level and social status. As a young person, I do not agree with the author because other people migh...
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Jane and Charlize is a homosexual monogamous couple who have been together for almost three years. The couple has been married for two years and a half. They were dating six months before deciding to get married. Jane is a 33 years-old white Christian female who was born in Alaska. Jane is currently working as a teacher at an elementary school. Jane was previously in a heterosexual marriage, lasting seven years before divorce. Jane stated that her relationship with Charlize is her first homosexual relationship. Meanwhile, Charlize is a 24 years-old mixed race female who was born in the state of Washington. Charlize is currently a full time university student pursuing an Astrology degree. Charlize stated that she previously identified as a polyamorous. Charlize’s relationship with Jane is her first monogamous relationship. Jane and Charlize have sought therapy because of reported distress and conflict in their marriage. This paper will introduce the couple’s presenting problem, relevant clinical factors, hypnotized etiology, and countertransference issues related to the case. This assessment would serve to build the base for an effective therapeutic treatment with the couple.
Having a family is no easy task, especially when you are faced with many challenges that are unforeseen. Sometimes one imagines or hopes for an ideal family. The ideal family would consist of a spouse, one or two kids and live happily with little to no conflicts. The reality is that even if one tries to avoid conflict by all possible means, conflict is inevitable. Stressors and strengths within a family can be seen in almost every situation. Although stressors tend to be more noticeable than the strengths. Some of which will be discussed later on, although it will be mainly focused on the strength and stressors faced after a divorce for children. But if one focuses on the stressors more than the strengths, one will only see stressors rather than solutions.
Two themes that relate to socialization is a social constructionist perspective and the sex role theory in which explain the differences among sexes. Social constructionist explains the differences, power and the gendered institutions. It focuses on the distribution of power, and how male are more dominant than females. (R) However, from personal experience, both my mother and father equally made decisions in our household and neither of them had more power over the other. Both my mother and father were equally play a role in raising me. The sex role theory begins to understand that we learn our roles through socialization. (R) It provides an understanding of our everyday roles and expectations of both gender 's.
The main gender roles that are described include the males job is to being the bread winner, which means he provides the financial support and the females’ job is to stay home to look after the kids and do the house work. The male is the dominant one in a family, if a female is not just married her father is dominant but when she gets married the dominance is transferred to her husband. When the father gives his daughter away at the wedding, which means he’s giving up control and dominance of his daughter to her husband. An example of the husbands having dominance is that the wife has to ask for approval to drink alcohol.
The case “A Quiet Fight To Marry” is talking about a gay couple named Carol and Jean. This case is written by Coker. Basically what happened here is this gay couple is fighting for their rights. The authors strongest argument is that the People of Alabama consider gay or more like these lesbian couple degenerates. They sometimes get their basic rights denied. This couple has been waiting for years so that the government would take same sex marriage into consideration and they could legally get married but the government does not change any rule and still remains the same.
When it comes to the topic of marriage, different cultures have different customs. Some of these customs have changed over the years and some have stayed the same. One type of marriage that interests me is arranged marriage and why there are arranged marriages still going on today. That is why I have chosen to write about them in this paper and discuss why they were/are an important staple in certain cultures.
I live in a small town and the word gotten out pretty quickly. I guess a person would say my parents were #goals. The biggest surprise to me was how my church reacted. Everyone constantly asked me if my sister and I was ok. No one really asked my Mom. Everyone mainly went to my Dad. When my Mom got pregnant, during her sophomore year of college, she moved in with my Dad. So my hometown is basically fill up with my Dad side of relatives. So, when my parents announced they are getting a divorced, everyone assumed that my Mom wanted the divorce. However, it was my Dad who wanted the divorced .My Mom really wanted to work it out and go to therapy. My parents kind of put on a front and said it was a mutual decision, but my sister and I really knew it was my Dad that wanted it. A few of my aunts on my Dad side still considered my Mom as family. During this transition, I often stayed with them a few nights until my parents officially moved out and got their own
What is marriage? According to the Merriam-Webster Dictionary "Marriage is a union representing a special kind of social and legal partnership between two people”. Marriage is considered be a union in which it should last a life time. Marriage can be look at differently depending where you come from and also what you belief in. In western countries arrange marriages have been known to exist for decades. On the other hand there is also Love marriages which consist of two people who genuinely love and are attracted to one on other. Either Arrange or Love they are still considering marriages with different beliefs, traditions and customs. Arrange Marriages should not eve allow even though it is a culture in the Western Countries.
In conclusion, raising a family presents many challenges: rushing to meet the demands of jobs, children and spouse; dealing with a variety of problems, no matter if you are a single or married parent; trying to accommodate personal needs. It is important for that parents who have children and work outside the home to make sure they communicate with each other and acknowledge each other's needs, consider carefully their mutual responsibilities, and if faced with the breakdown of their marriage, work to maintain a parental relationship which assists their children to realize that each parent cares for them and remains concerned about their emotional and maturing needs.
Gender roles are extremely important to the functioning of families. The family is one of the most important institutions. It can be nurturing, empowering, and strong. Some families are still very traditional. The woman or mother of the family stays at home to take care of the children and household duties. The man or father figure goes to work so that he can provide for his family. Many people believe that this is the way that things should be. Gender determines the expectations for the family. This review will explain those expectations and how it affects the family.
A gender role attitude is an individual’s interpretation and expectation on how a woman or man should behave. These assumptions create a socially accepted “norm” about each gender. In various lectures, we examined three common gender role ideologies; traditional, egalitarian, and transitional. A traditional gender role would fit into society’s fundamental outlook on a household. An individual holding this view would believe that men should work and earn money for the family, while women stay at home to do house work and take care of the kids. An egalitarian position believes that both women and men should equally distribute responsibility throughout every situation they are faced with. This would include dividing duties up evenly despite what type it is (more strenuous chores vs. easy chores). A transitional approach combines the traditional and egalitarian approaches together. A couple who practices this attitude would split up the tasks equally but in a way that still views men as holding the majority of the “household” power. For example, women would do the dishes and clean the house while men would cut the lawn and fix the car because those jobs are “more difficult”.
Arranged Marriage In general, arranged marriage has provided people with fundamental principles about the importance of marriage and how a person can find happiness. Arranged marriage defines marriage between a man and a woman, which arranged by the couple's parents and relatives based on family ties and traditions. Although marriage is described as the oldest and enduring human institution, the reasons for marrying have differed from culture to culture. In common circumstances, cultural, religious, economic, age, educational level, and racial factors play a role in determining who the person can marry and the form of marriage. Some statistics find that the rate of divorce is low in arranged marriages and high in love marriages.
In our family there are no defined roles. My parent both worked to maintain our household when my stepfather came along. I was 10 years old. They both worked together in the home as well, as I can remember my dad cooking and cleaning just as regularly as my mother. I do understand that the man is the head of the house hold traditionally and yes my dad was the head of ours but all decisions made were made jointly by both my parents. They raised me to go after whatever it was that I wanted. They also stressed that women can do whatever a man can do in this country and told me not to limit myself because of