The Importance Of Love In Eros

The final aspect of Philia that sets it so apart from the other loves in its unnatural ways is its exclusivity. In Eros, there is little choice in whom a person falls in love with and in Affection there are the factors of proximity and exposure. Friendship is different from both those types of love because it is the choice of the individual. They are able to choose one another, or as Lewis more explicitly says are chosen by God. There are many circumstances that must align in order for people to enter into friendships that God orchestrates. Lewis wants to make it clear that the pleasures of friendship are not rewards from our choosing. It is in a friendship that the beauties that lie in all men are found because it is from Him that these beauties are derived (90). Friendship is a peek into the true identities of other humans or the “chosen guests” of God’s coming feast (90). Lewis argues the point that friendship is the freest love, however, God is always in control of the details that pull individuals together. The sovereignty of God is the greatest gear in work within Lewis’s view. Lewis is most qualified to speak on this type of love out of the four covered in his book because of his life experience. His understanding of

Lewis believes that friendship is defined by the similar value of a truth while Goodrich believes that it is based solely on similarity of self. Goodrich agrees with the idea of friends choosing one another, but only to an extent because he believes that subconscious forces may be at work. They both agree on the presence of a spiritual aspect of friendship and the . Goodrich would say it is the combination of both parties creating a stronger unified spirit while Lewis would argue that it is just the betterment of the individuals. Lewis would disagree with Goodrich’s ideas that friendship is hard to identify, but would agree of friendship going beyond this realm of