Help them understand why they are being pushed so hard to accomplish certain things. The day they know the day they will be doing the things they need to do without even being asked just knowing it needs to be done. Being too strict can lead your children to not care later on in the future, for some but for others they may just give up on school or just stop listening to their parents because they feel they are too pushy and are just tired of it all.
Should parents’ still force them to participate in such unenjoyable acts? The parents’ should take a moment to analyze what they are really doing to their children. Rogers’ claims that children should play not compete is useful because parents’ should allow their children too over achieve on activities they truly love to pursue. A child should not be obligated to perform a task they do not enjoy because their stress levels will increase. Stress can be one of the primary effects a child will encounter if forced to do something they do not love.
A lot of parents think that raising their kids a certain way is what is best for them. But every child is different, no matter how you bring them up, and sooner or later they are going to start wanting to make their own decisions. Some parents believe it is better not to expose your children to certain things such as sex, drugs, and alcohol because it would beneficial to them to stay away from these things. But what they don’t know is when their child finds out about it from friends or peers, the outcome of that is going to be worse than the parents letting them know ahead of time. I feel as though parents need to ask themselves if there is a middle ground in how they raise their child.
In order to reach this success, children have to get a good ac-ademic result. Children also want to make their parents proud of having them in life therefore it causes the pressure for them to study harder and harder. Sometimes people forget that the way teenagers think is really different from adults. “Their brain is not grown up yet”, said Richard Knox (2014), they will misunderstand their parents’ true intentions. They tend to ignore their happiness and dreams to make their parents happy until the point that they could not handle the stress and give up.
Which I find funny because they are always saying I was a kid once too but then they just seem to forget what it feel like because they are too busy being a parent. I think thats one of the biggest reasons that they don’t understand, if they had a kids perspective i truly believe that they would handle a lot of things differently. Some parents don’t care about trying to understand they just try to use their children to make their lives better even at the cost of their children's happiness. While some parents do know a lot, in cases like they are asking you to do something dangerous, if they want you to do something that goes against what you believe, and if they don’t understand the situation. Obviously you should not listen to your parents if they are telling you to do something that is dangerous or something that could harm you because they clearly don’t have your best interests in mind if they are asking you to do that.
Typically a parent would not endure in such actions, but it varies from parent to parent. When left with the situation of discipling their kids, some parents feel guilty for taking measures into their own hands, and other parents feel no remorse. The whole purpose of discipline on children is to set them in place. By that I mean to help guide the child down the right path to a prosperous life and responsible adult. If it means physical or verbal discipline, then it is all for the greater good.
When, it comes to raising a child a parent doesn’t really have guidelines. They want their kid to be successful, intelligent ,with what they need in life to be a good adult. But what do they need? I think three good things that a parent needs to teach their kids is good morals, respect, and independence. If these three things are integrated into a childhood, then I think that that child will be able to become a good human being.
First of all, it helps children develop a sense of what is right and what is wrong. The child doesn’t inherently have a moral code which he/she can follow and have guidance is necessary. Also, kids need some kind of reassurance after performing certain tasks; for example, when they do something well, they need to be told that they did well and need to be encouraged for their good behavior. This boosts their confidence and makes them motivated to do well. Thus, being a laid-back parent is not really a positive thing, even though teenagers always wish their parents weren’t so involved and
However, this means that it takes a lot of time for children to develop independence, and being surrounded by people who can always help you and assist you does not make the situation any better. Dictators have the desire to separate young children from their families because children begin to learn how to do everything on their own, and they become self-sufficient individuals. In order for children to be self-reliant and complete various orders from dictators, they have to be tough and able to manage on their own. Parents influence children to remain children, meaning that they have less responsibility and expect that most things should be done for them. This is one of the major reasons that children live separately from their family in totalitarian societies.
Parental friendships will surely help build a solid base for future relationships. At some point during a child’s development, the parenting role must turn into friendship. Many people feel that there should be a thick line between parents and children but I strictly disagree. Being friends with your children can come in handy because it is also a type of supervision, which helps parents see if they are walking in the right direction. As soon as they ensure their children are safe, they will be able to manage these aspects of their lives by themselves.