The Human Rights Campaign, which work to achieve equal rights for lesbian, gay, bi-sexual and transgender people, is supporting the effort to attain survivor benefits for domesticate partners. Currently, there are no programs that give homosexuals survivor benefits like the ones that are provided for heterosexuals who are married or divorced. The ones who suffer the greatest repercussions of such prejudices are the children of gay and lesbian couples. Non-biological children of gays and lesbians cannot receive survivor benefits if the deceased partner did not legally adopt them. But how is this related to whether or not homosexuals should be allowed to marry?
For example, same sex couples want children. There are so many reasons as to why men & women can only reproduce children. However, even though adoption or a sperm donor could be a potion depending on the gender of the sex couple. It does not make it right especially when children are involved. Legalizing same sex marriage is only going to send the wrong message to children.
This is a natural concern for people that might not understand or accept same-sex couples (Wheeler771). The issue that has reached a consensus is on the welfare of children that are being raised by adults that choose to share relations with the same gender, or what census researchers call a “same sex parent household.” With all the controversy about whether a couple of the same-sex is acceptable in our society, you have to wonder how this will affect a child. Some critics have suggested children are doomed to a life of struggle compared with those raised with a traditional mother and father setting (Carpenter). “It is well-established that children do not need parents of each gender to adjust healthily”(Same-sex). Jessica Larson has been raised by a parent that lived a homosexual life... ... middle of paper ... ...matters.
There have been studies that state that the child well-being is affected much more by the relationships with their parent’s sense of competence and security, and the presence of social and economic support for the family, than by the gender or the sexual orientation of their parents (Perrin, Siegel 3). The Official Journal of Pediatrics state, “Not a single study ha... ... middle of paper ... ...sible to say how being a part of a same sex parent family will affect a child well-being. I feel that being a good parent has nothing to do with a person’s sexuality or sexual orientation. Much of the research conducted on same sex parents and the effects on children have been biased and not scientific in many ways. There is so much disagreement among researchers that we cannot come to a conclusion about children who are raised by parents of the same sex.
What, if anything, is different about same sex rather than opposite sex parenting? Introduction Same-sex parenting has evolved and continues to do so currently, but parenting laws still lag behind the changing family dynamics, posing questions and challenges for non-traditional parenting. Whereas before, gay and lesbian individuals revealed their sexual orientations after having children with opposite-sex partners, now, more homosexual couples are actively planning their same-sex parenthood (Gates, Seidman and Richards). At the same time, many laws still prevent parents from engaging in non-traditional forms of childbearing, conception and upbringing. For instance, while both members of a same-sex couple consent and undergo a child
Another reason that some people think gay marriage shouldn't be legalised is because gay marriage may lead to more children being raised in same sex households which are not an optimum environment because children need both a mother and father. Girls who are raised apart from their fathers are reportedly at a higher risk for teenage pregnancy and children without a mother are deprived of the emotional security and advice that mothers provide. Although, some children who have heterosexual parents live with just their mum or their dad and that is also not considered to be an optimum environment. Everyone should have the right to marry the person they love and gender shouldn't matter because love is love. Same sex marriage shouldn't be taken away from two people who want to make a commitment with the person they love.
It seems reasonable to assume that homosexual individuals should be able to adopt children in order to put the many children stuck in foster care into loving homes. However, there is an argument against letting homosexual individuals and couples adopt. It is said that same-sex couples should not adopt because there must be two roles for parents in a family: “...the mother [who is] better equipped to pass on nurturing skills and the father [who is] more qualified to teach leadership” (Wilson). There is no need for a parent who is only nurturing/a leader; one parent can possess both of these skills, which happens frequently. If a homosexual couple cannot adopt, should a single-mother not be allowed to raise a child due to lack of a father-figure in the household?
LBGT couples raising children is mostly not considered acceptable by the public because of the misunderstanding that they are not prepared to bring up children in with proper social values. The public is not certain if children will receive proper education about society and behavior to fit in as responsible members. Same sex marriages can be performed in a secular civil ceremony or in religious setting. They should be allowed to publicly celebrate their commitment in the same way as heterosexual couples. The first laws in modern times enabling same-sex marriage were enacted during the first decade of the 21st century.38 states ban same sex marriage, same by constitutional amendment, and same by law and the majority by both.
Children of gay and lesbian parents have the same potential as other children despite living in a nontraditional household, a growing trend in America. Same-sex parented families face many struggles such as discrimination based on sexual orientation of the parents. Individuals who do not support same-sex marriage or same-sex parenting believe that the child will not be raised in a stable household. Multiple studies have confirmed that a parent’s sexual orientation does not heavily influence a child’s performance in school or their social behavior. While some individuals believe a male “father” and female “mother” are needed in the household to provide the best environment to raise a child, there is no empirical evidence that shows children with same-sex parents are raised in an unhealthy environment.
Although homosexual marriage is not allowed in some states, the anatomy of the person, whether male or female, hardly allows them to reproduce without sperm or ovaries. Since gays are not capable of reproducing, then adoption is their next option or sperm donors. The big controversy is whether or not homosexuals should be allowed to adopt children or whether the “step-parent,” which is actually the co-partner, can adopt the birth mother’s child. Adoption is another route for the children who were abandoned, were not financially stable, or were not able to stay in their current living condition. When one and one is put together equaling two, the two makes better sense and fits for everyone.