Twenty-Something Women And The Parados Of Sexual Freedom

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Society places expectations upon everyone. We can either accept or refuse these expectations, and in the end, this decision will impact our identities. Each of us has the freedom to choose how we let these assumptions influence our life. This personal freedom we have is crucial to the development of our identities. If we did not have the freedom to choose who we wanted to be, then we would have no identity. Leslie Bell’s Hard to Get: Twenty-Something Women and the Parados of Sexual Freedom, selections from Reading Lolita in Tehran by Azar Nafisi, the article “The Naked Citadel” by Susan Faludi are three pieces of work that help to demonstrate how different women all have to the choice to explore their freedom in order to help them achieve an…show more content…
Outside factors, such as society, government and culture attempt to enforce identity categories upon people. Leslie Bell gave an example of a woman who broke free from expectations in Hard to Get: Twenty-Something Women and the Parados of Sexual Freedom. Jayanthi played the role of the “bad girl” by rebelling against her traditional and religious Hindu family. Tired of being her parents’ ‘ideal child’, she thought, “Fuck the standards, fuck the expectations of what I’m supposed to be” (Bell 33). It was evident that Jayanthi was sick of being exactly who her parents raised her to be, a traditional good girl, who was supposed to have an arranged marriage. By having expectations placed upon you, you start to feel trapped in your own body and have no control. So, Jayanthi went out and had a lot of sex and one-night-stands. Up until that point, she felt as though she had no control of who she was. Being bad gave Jayanthi a better sense of self, one that her parents and other men weren 't in control of. She refused the tradition that was placed upon her in order to feel like a strong women. Susan Faludi gives another example of a woman who refused to follow tradition in “The Naked Citadel”. Shannon Faulkner applied to the Citadel, a previously all-male military school. Many young cadets and faculty did not want her coming to the Citadel because…show more content…
Without freedom, there is no way to be who you want to be. After Jayanthi rebelled against her family’s tradition, she knew she would have the freedom to explore her sexuality. To make sense of why she wanted to break free she said, “I’m liberating myself, this is liberation…” and “I want to have stories, I want to have a history. I didn’t have a history, so I wanted to create a history” (Bell 34). Jayanthi needed a new history filled with sexual experiences. Freedom to her meant creating a history that wasn’t expected of her, and doing things she wasn’t technically supposed to do. Not only was she having a lot of sex, she was doing it just to do it. She didn’t care about whether she wanted to or not, or whether it was even enjoyable. The freedom itself was much more desirable than the freedom of being able to go out and have sex. There is a guilty pleasure in using freedom to do things that aren 't expected of you. Azar Nafisi furthers this claim in selections from Reading Lolita in Tehran when she explains how the women and girls in Tehran had the freedom to do things that weren’t allowed in private. They were able to take off their black robes, let their hair down, listen to music, and read banned fiction in Nafisi’s private classroom. Technically, in order to gain this freedom, they had to rebel against the government, just like
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