The word marriage, a simple word that could change all of our lives. What does marriage mean? Simply put it means the joining of two souls as spouses in a personal bond. When we think of marriage what other word comes to mind? Most likely the word love, we associate love with marriage. Although in the earlier centuries such as the medieval era there didn’t seem to be much love. Marriage was more of an act to keep wealth within the family, it wasn’t an act of love. Over the centuries the views on marriage have changed,those views include premarital sex, age, and divorce. Having sex before marriage can be seen as a normal thing in today’s world, almost no one today waits until marriage to have sex. However, in the medieval period “ Marriage …show more content…
However , now we “... can wait longer to get married…”(Rob Pascale) , today we marry whenever we decide to, but then almost everyone was being married at legal age because “The arrangement of the marriage was based on monetary worth.” ( Medievaltimes ) Most marriages then were arranged and today we choose who we want to marry. We make all our decisions for ourselves, who we talk to, who we date, and who and if we marry. Every decision made represents our own and we also shouldn’t let others influence our decisions. We should stay true to ourselves trusting in ourselves to make the decision we believe to be right. We can let people tell us right from wrong, but how does that help us learn from our mistakes or even learn who we …show more content…
If we just try to imagine having to walk down the aisle or watch someone walk down the aisle that we know nothing about and soon we are going to be wed and living our lives together,we could imagine that to be frightening or even angering. Who wants to marry someone they know nothing about? What if we were to hate one another? We would then be living an unhappy life unless we could get a divorce. But what if we couldn’t? “Divorce as we understand it today did not exist. The only way to end a marriage was to prove it had not legally existed in the first place.”(Mason) Today it almost seems as if everyone gets a divorce that being because it represents something normal for us today and not disgraceful whereas then it was. Marriages fall apart all the time, it just happens to be apart of life. Sometimes people just grow apart or aren’t in love with each other anymore. Although sometimes there can be other reasons for divorce such as committing adultery or even just arguments. However , “...breaking up a marriage is acceptable and the reasons for doing so is nobody’s business”.(Pascale) No one today has “... to stay married if they’re not satisfied.”(Pascale) Representing exactly how it should be, we want to be happy in a relationship especially if we are married and are going to be spending the rest of our lives together. No one wants to live an unhappy life. Life
A century ago, divorce was nearly non-existent due to the cultural and religious pressures placed upon married couples. Though over time Canadians have generally become more tolerate of what was once considered ‘mortal sin’, marital separation and divorce still remain very taboo topics in society. Political leaders are frowned upon when their marriages’ crumble, religions isolate and shun those who break their martial vows and people continue to look down on those who proceed to legally separate their households. With that being said, couples do not just decide to get a divorce for no particular reason. There must be something driving them towards marital dissatisfaction and further, driving them towards divorce.
Before the eighteenth century, marriage was far less complicated. Verbal consent and consumation constituted legal marriage: "once the knot was tied by such verbal exchanges it could not be undone: a valid marriage was technically indissoluble. Such vows could be made, moreover, by boys the age of fourteen and girls of twelve" (Outhwaite xiii).
Divorce can be caused by problems such as drugs, adultery, abuse, and money. The United States is a fast-paced country with little to no time to spend on the basic family values it was founded upon. Jobs are more demanding, kids are spending most of their time with people other than their parents, and the economy drains marriages by causing worry and stress. The foundation upon which marriage was built has been shaken.
One tough thing about today's American family is divorce. In 1816, one marriage out of one hundred ended in divorce. Then between the years 1869-1888, divorce increased up to one hundred and fifty percent. And the worse, between the years 1960-1980, the divorce rate increased up to two hundred and fifty percent. Divorce rates peaked in 1981 and then started to decline a little during the mid 1980's. However, divorce rates now are as high as they have ever been. Now fifty percent of all marriages end in divorce. There are five reasons for the increase in divorce. The first reason is in modern societies; individual happiness is regarded to be important so when people are unhappy with their marriage, they break-up and split. The second reason is it is easier to get divorced financially. The third reason is that women's economic independence has contributed. The fourth reason is the stigma of divorce has lessened so people are not
Some’s definition of Marriage is when two souls coming into one soul –still distinct but forming one entity. Being raised in the church, marriage is when two people come together, declaring their wedding vows to each other and to God. Marriage is
A husband and wife do not appear to be a choice that means ?forever? anymore. When a person plans to marry, it should be when they are ready to start a family and begin acting responsibly. All marriages have their ups and downs, and we are prone to argue; but we need to let love conquer hate, not the other way around. The divorce rate is too high and it affects everybody. There should be no reason for a person to give up their marriage for selfish reasons. Arguments between husband and wife occur, of course; but when something is wrong, it should be worked-out peacefully. The meaning of a divorce is betrayal; it?s unfair and the cruelest situation to put your ?loved? one through. For instance, if a man wants to divorce his wife aft...
I've heard on numerous occasions that one of every two marriages ends in divorce. Although I believe this estimate to be high, there is no question that divorce has become a common occurrence in today's society. I think the biggest cause of divorce is people getting married too soon. Couples should live together before they marry.
About states: In Ancient Rome, girls married between the ages twelve and fourteen as well as some young men married at the age of fourteen also. However, during the middle ages, women married as early as fourteen. But men usually waited until they were well on their feet and able to support themselves as well as a wife. In 1371, the average age for women to marry was 16 and the average for men was 24. However the age changed in the year 1427 to men marry in their mid 30's and marrying women about half their age. (1) However that's when marriages were accepted by society.
Many pamphlets and books were written during the reformation era which explained how to be a good wife or husband. At this time there was a widespread change in the way people viewed the roles of husbands and wives.
With this ring I thee wed…. For better or worse, for richer or poorer…. Traditionally, two people speak these words on their wedding day, the day that two become one, the day that two people begin a life together and share an unbreakable union. This may be so in some cases but not all. Divorce among Americans is rampant. In society today divorces are as common as marriages themselves. Couples meet, date, fall in love, marry, and have children and then one day: Wham! Something is just not right with the relationship anymore, so they opt for the easy way out, the big "D". They get a divorce, is this really the easy way? The legalities and dissolution of the union may be easy and painless, but what about the emotions that are still in tact? Although a divorce may be hard on the adults involved, what about the children? What happens to the kids of these broken marriages?
Historically saying, divorce has always been known as a deviance of society and people who are involved in divorce were being looked down on. However, as the world slowly evolves, people’s sense of individualism also amplified; this created the
“You change for two reasons: either you learn enough that you want to, or you’ve been hurt enough that you have to.” While maturing, young adults start searching for other peers to settle down with and marry. Although glamorous to picture, marriage is a commitment two partners make for life. To stick by one another “for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness or in health” (Sample Marriage Vows, 2004). Unfortunately, the promise to stay true to one another through everything diminishes. Resulting in what modern day society’s term as divorce. There are many paragons to justify on why individuals consider such deviances from their oaths. This does not mean, however, that every marriage will end in a catastrophe. Matrimony involves learning throughout life on how to work as one. Some couples play by the books and develop a system that agrees with both parties. Differing partners, on the other hand, fail at the teamwork category in their relationship. Therefore, the cause and effects of divorce in the United States of America illustrates different reasons on why and how the term comes about.
There are some reasons for divorce. An inevitable outcome of a divorce can be emotionally and mentally challenging for them. Some reasons for a divorce are purely selfish and have no sensation at all. One of the nonsense causes is jealousy. The spouse who constantly feels jealousy has some sort of confidence problem. There are some other reasons, the couples have conflicting personal beliefs, their marital satisfaction decreases slowly, adultery comes between them, cruel treatment occurs, irretrievable breakdown of some kind, feeling imprisonment, and having an affair with someone else. Whatever the reason is, it is easy to fix.
In this twenty century, divorce is very common; especially in the America today, the country that focus on their citizen’s freedom. The term "common" here is not that every marriage couples will end up divorce, but it means that the society already accept and have an open might about divorce. In the article "The Making of a Divorce Culture" by Barbara Dafoe Whitehead, she had mention that "divorce is now part of everyday American life. It is embedded in our laws and institutions, our manner and more, out movies and television shows, our novels, and children 's storybooks, and our closest and most important relationships." Everyone should have seen or at least hear about it once in their life from their own experience or from someone they
To be partners in life, and to be happy in the union, couples should be open and honest, love and respect each other. This should be the "way of the world".