The Pros And Cons Of Stay At Home Mom

They say being a stay at home mom is easy. They say it isn 't a real job. “What do you do all day?” they ask. I have been a stay at home mom for seven years and I can easily tell you that I 'm not sitting at home with a bowl of Cheetos and a glass of wine all day. However, there are moms out there who have other jobs and careers and supposedly do it all. Who hasn 't heard the argument before, stay at home moms versus working moms? Which “job” is easier? Which one is better for the upbringing of one’s children? Which one makes someone a better mom? These questions never occurred to me until about six years ago, when I was forced to face them. I gave birth to my firstborn, Yvette, when I was at the young age of twenty. I don 't think
We quickly realized how much we had in common and became very close friends. Gloria had two children, who were the same age as my oldest, Yvette, and my youngest, Lauren. She was a speech therapist, working full time, and was away from her children for a significant amount of time every day. I was in awe as I watched her jump from client to client, and keep up with her motherly duties all at the same time. She never missed a beat, but every moment she spent with her children was meaningful and filled with love. I was so impressed with her parenting style, even though it was against everything I 've stood up for. I was slowly starting to realize that the argument I 've been making for years might not have been the right one. I was judging too quickly, putting all working moms in a stereotype, just for the sake of being right. But I was still not sure of what side I was on. Was I starting to actually think that being a working mom was, in fact, the healthier way of parenting? I was once again left confused about everything I thought was
I recently took my first vacation alone with my husband, and it made me see everything more clearly. I felt so guilty leaving the girls, but when I came back I realized something. I didn 't have anything to feel guilty about because I wasn 't doing anything wrong. My husband and I needed time alone with each other for the sake of our marriage and family. By us being happier together, that made our children happier and mentally healthier. The same also goes for me when I get some time to myself through my days. When I 'm able to take a break and go out for a little, I come back home refreshed and ready to take on my children with the right attitude and mindset. Understanding this made me crave something I can call my own, so I recently decided to go back to college. I always make sure to keep a cute note waiting for my girls when they come home from school and greet them with a huge smile when I walk through the door. I realized that it 's not about the difference between staying with my children and leaving them, but it 's the difference between how I use the time I have with them. I can be with my daughters all day, but if I am agitated and nervous all the time, I am raising them in a hostile environment. If I work all day, and come home tired, with little energy to deal with anything at home, it can make them feel alone and neglected. It’s the quality of the