Less income may require the parent to move, which in turn may cause the child to behave to change of schools or move to a poorer neighborhood with a higher rate of crime and delinquency.?(pp. 170-174) Divorce is happening every day to couples in the United States. The only problem, is that the couple thinks they are the only ones going through it when almost twenty-two percent of adult America is also. When parents get divorced the children get divorced too. Children and adolescents face a lot of stress during their lives, but divorce is very confusing, speaking from personal experience.
Children often blame themselves for their parents' divorce. Hetherington, a psychology professor at the University of Virginia, found up to 25 percent of children with divorced parents "have critical long term social, emotional or psychological problems," compared to 10 percent of children from intact families (James). Children benefit from having their parents together. Stress is one of the biggest effects that divorce has on children. Children are often torn between parents.
Over the last 70 years, divorce has become a normal occurrence in homes across the country. Even children whose parents are married can be exposed to divorce in a number of places: television, newspapers, magazines, school, and their friends. Those children who are put through the agonizing experience of a divorce are far more likely to have physical and emotional problems compared to those living in a home with happily married parents. One of the most documented changes in children from before and after divorce are behavioral problems. Children of divorce are more likely to have behavioral issues because of increased financial hardships, parenting discrepancies between homes, and stress brought on by their situation.
Premarital pregnancies, living together before marriage, marrying at an early age, financial problems, and poor communications are some of the many reasons why marriages are ending so rapidly. These numbers are not just seen today, rates of divorce were increasing as early as the late 1800s to the late 1960s. However, it was not until the 1980's and the 1990's that divorce rates started to skyrocket. The focus of this study is to show how the divorce process affects the well being of the child in all social aspects. This includes the relationship disturbances that are seen between parents and their children, how socially different their life becomes when divorce is present, and overall the future impact these children have on our society.
“In many cases it is preceded by a lengthy period of conflict between spouses. It is reasonable to expect that when this predisposition conflict, and the corresponding emotional upset on the part of the parents, may cause problems for children” (Furstenberg & Cherlin, 1991, p. 63) Adults seeking divorce often overlook the impact on their children’s well-being. The affects prior to divorce and after are far reaching. Depending on how negatively a child is affected, divorce can ultimately have negative consequences from childhood continuing through adulthood (Whitehead, 1997, p.99-98). In 2010, children in the United States residing in single-parent households, was 18.1 million.
(Trudi Strain Trueit) Sometimes, the split helps calm these tensions, but statistics show that most couples who separate, will get divorced. Other times, the fighting continues after the divorce, with children getting caught in the middle. Studies show that the divorce rate among couples with children is forty percent lower than couples without children. (Miller) The average divorce takes approximately one year to complete. In that year, your life and family changes drastically; emotionally and financially.
Parents of divorce fail to realize how much more work is placed on their back to raise a child in two different homes. “Having two homes is like putting your life in a couple of carrier bags every two weeks” (Bailey 9). This can cause confusion between the child and the two of his/her parents which can lead to poor social skill and or depression. However, parents who divorce with children of young ages have a lot to do with the mood swings, obsessive behavior, and personality adjustments later in life. Those children who feel they have been abandoned by their mother or father usually go through depression which can cause mental illnesses, such as a psychotic disorder.
As indicated by researchers “A study of nearly 6,000 children found that youth from single-parent homes have more physical and mental health problems than children living with married parent, and another study confirms single-parent children are 2-3 times as likely to develop emotional and behavioral problems” Clinton, Hart, & Ohlschlager, (2005). The impact of divorce has a high diverse impact on the entire family and continues to create an impact on how children are able to deal and cope with the negative implications of an unhappy couple. A broken family’s children can often feel as though they are causing the problem and seek to either become complaisant to the problem or as they get older seek other forms of feeling loved and happy, which may lead to teenage pregnancy or s... ... middle of paper ... ...The developing person through the lifespan (8th ed.). New York, NY: Worth Publishers.
The Effect of Divorce on Children Divorce, once uncommon in our society, is now becoming more and more frequent, disrupting our children's state of well-being. Some children of divorced families have long-term behavior problems such as depression, low self-esteem, poor school performance, acting out, and difficulties with intimate relationships. Children with divorced or divorcing parents often have a sense of abandonment, because their parents become too preoccupied with their own psychological, social, and economic distress that they forget about their kids? needs (Lamb and Sternberg, 1997). In 1988, Professor Jeanne Dise-Lewis conducted a survey of 700 middle school students.
Individuals with divorced parents are at increased risk of experiencing psychological problems in adulthood (Amato & Sobolewski, 2001, p. 900). Growing up divorced has become an alternative developmental path for a substantial number of children in this country (Kalter, 1987, p. 587). These trends in family composition have major repercussions for the life course of children and their well-being. Studies have shown that adults with divorced parents, when compared with adults with continuously married parents, report to greater unhappiness, less satisfaction with life, a weaker sense of control, more symptoms of anxiety and depression, and a greater use of mental health services. Overall, most children of divorced parents have experienced dramatic declines in their economic circumstances, abandonment by one or both of their parents, the diminished capacity of both parents to attend meaningfully and constructively to their children’s needs, and diminished contact with many familiar or potential sources of psychological support.