Divorce of parents causes many problems and affects children negatively. The loss of a parent can cause loss in knowledge, skills, and resources from the parents. They loose such things as support from the parent in finances, emotions, and care. Children tend to have a harder time dealing with a divorce the more divorces their parents go through. The better the parents adjust to these losses, the better the children will adjust, and the fewer problems that will come about.
This is why they keep asking their parents to come back together. Their parents will often keep rejecting their request of coming back together, which also causes negative feelings to appear again during divorce. This is not only because their parents reject the child’s request, but also because children compare themselves with other children whose parents are not separated. Furthermore, some children tend to blame themselves for the divorce of their parents because it is emotionally easier for children to blame themselves than to put the blame on someone else. If the child blames himself or herself, he or she would think that they are the reason for the damage that happened in the relationship between their parents.
Some kids do not want their parents to get divorce because they would feel like they are being left by the parent that is leaving the home. Kids will have mixed feelings about the divorce, especially if they know the parents were not very happy. It is very important to tell children that the divorce is not their fault. When the couple gets a divorce, the mother usually gets the children unless she is unfit to keep the children. The children are sometimes very stressed from the divorce.
What did they do? Therefore, it is an inequity for parents to divorce with children, because their kids' lives will be impacted tremendously. A separated mother and father has a dissatisfying affect on children. It is very hard for a child, who has been raised by both parents; to one day only have majority access to one parent. This is a situation through which kids develop inaccurate thoughts as to why their parents are not together.
Going through a divorce is typically traumatizing, not only to the married but also to the entire family. The separation of couples is due to a wide range of factors that vary accordingly. These include but are not limited to affairs, financial issues, distrust, inability to communicate, lack of intimacy, loss of feelings for one another, and stress. Without a doubt, divorce is a very discouraging thing for people to endure. The people often overlooked throughout the process of a divorce, surprisingly enough, are the children.
Parents do not realize in how hard it is for a child to deal with a divorce from their parents. In addition parents should understand that the divorce is affecting more their children than their personal lives. In a divorce may lead a child to have dramatically changes in a daily live; and the divorce can be stressful, sad, and confusing for kids of all ages. Children that experience a divorce have more chances on developing a psychological problem and bad behavior. Children suffer from the separation of their parents and their adulthood may be affected.
Sometimes families who seem to have it all from the outside are hiding a different story behind closed doors. Parents who suffer from depression, anxiety, bipolar disorder, or another mental illness that cause them to have trouble taking care of themselves are less likely capable of taking care of a child. A mentally ill of traumatized p... ... middle of paper ... ...ial development, leaving lifelong psychological scars. That is why people of all ages need to go to therapy and get help if they lived through their traumatizing past because they cannot deal with everything emotionally on their own. Works Cited Baxamusa, Batal.
A broken family refers to a family that has gone through a separation, abandonment or divorce leaving the children with only one parent instead of the much needed two. In the beginning of a divorce parents tend to argue non-stop and just have a sense of despair around the household. Children around that type of atmosphere can get confused and blame themselves for such arguments and the overall unhappiness. When dealing with divorce the effects on the children vary depending on their age, time of separation and personality and family relationship (Anderson "The Effect of a Broken Family on Development"). For example infants and young children may experience some negative development effects, older children and teenagers tend to suffer more and have a more lasting effect on their social, emotional, and educational day to day life (Anderson "The Effect of a Broken Family on Development").
The trauma for children who face divorce is magnified because they do not know how to handle the unexpected. If there is more than one child involved, both children need to be approached differently and at separate times because they may respond to the divorce differently. It is very important to keep the children connected to both sides of the family, immediate and distant relatives so that they don’t feel like they have lost their entire family. “Child Psychologists agree that keeping the strength of exte... ... middle of paper ... ...e. However, divorce does not have to result with a negative effect on your children; it could have a positive effect if you pay attention and make sure that the love from both parents, family and friends remains the same. Citations: Internet Article base.com “According to the US census bureau, fatherless homes account for 90% of homeless and runaway children, 85% of children with behavior problems, and 85% of youths in prison, 71% of high school dropouts, and 63% of youth suicides and over 50% of teen mothers.” “Researchers have found that in most cases, children will adjust within three years.” “Child Psychologists agree that keeping the strength of extended family intact will provide a good structure for the children.
For a young child the concept of divorce is something that creates many misconceptions. Children do not understand the true meaning or reasoning behind why their parents would ever want to be separated. The initial reaction for most children is to blame themselves or to create a type of reasoning that they can relate to. Due to this, many children often concentrate on rebuilding their family structure instead of engaging in normal childhood activities. Sudden changes in a household can disturb a child's psychological well being.