I was abused by Daniel in the following ways:
Economic Abuse:
• Daniel controls all access to our financial information. He refused to give me money. He always got upset whenever I asked him for money.
• Daniel constantly told me that he doesn’t have any money and not to ask him for any.
• Daniel interfered with my efforts to maintain a job by persuading me to leave all my jobs with some type of excuse. For example, he would say stuff like you are wasting your time working there because you aren’t making any money, or why don’t you leave the job if you don’t like it.
• Daniel would not include me in our family financial decisions.
• Daniel would not allow me access to the family finances or his accounts.
• Daniel makes me beg for money over
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• Daniel would give me his debit card to go shopping, knowing that there is no money on the account. When I get to the cashier the card would be declined.
• Daniel constantly tells me that he is tired of taking care of me. He said he is doing enough for me by having me stay with him. Sexual Abuse:
• Unwanted touching. Daniel was always grabbing my breast, even when I say no. I told him over and over that I don’t like it.
• Forcing me to engage in prostitution. Daniel came home one day insisting that I start selling my body to make money. He said that if I want money to pay my bill I must sell my body.
• Refusing to use safe sex practices. Daniel refuses to use a condom even though he has multiple women that he sees.
• Controlling my decisions about pregnancy. Daniel would not ejaculate in me because he fears I would get pregnant. He said that he doesn’t want to have interracial babies with me because he doesn’t know how to talk to them about their race.
• Withholding sex as a form of control. If I initiate sex Daniel denies me sex. He has to be the one to initiate sex.
Physical
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Daniel always talked about his guns in a way to make me feel uncomfortable. He would make stupid comments to me about his guns. For example, he would tell me that he better go hide his gun from me so that I don’t use it on myself.
• Stalking. Daniel admitted to me that he follows me sometimes.
Verbal Abuse:
• Name calling, making fun of me and my weight gain. Daniel would verbally abuse me all the time about my weight. He insulted me with jokes like he needs to put me on a diet cause I too fat.
• Daniel would always tell hurtful “jokes” despite my requests to stop. He would make jokes about my big thigh, legs and stomach. But, I was the smallest one out of all his girlfriends.
• Daniel made humiliation jokes about the way I walk and such.
• Daniel criticized me for everything that he can’t control including my weight gain, jobs, money, bills, etc. Then he would turn it around and used it against me.
Emotional Abuse:
• Daniel controls my life and plays mind games with me.
• Daniel does not value my thoughts or feelings; he makes all the decision by himself.
• What I say to Daniel does not matter.
• Daniel gets angry and jealous if I talk to someone or if someone compliments
he's the devil in disguise but an angel inside. he will say anything & everything to bring me down just to get me back up again. he used to be in the military, and i understand why he's so abusive, angry and vulgar to me. because he's so hurt and let's out all his anger and frustration on me because he's so very hurt inside from the unpleasant, torturing past , and i understand that but i don't understand why you're telling me i'm worthless and that you always wished i wasn't ever alive and would rather have me dead , i don't understand why you hate me, but you care so much for me to become a better person when all i can think of is nothing but about the negative within myself. i try to be positive, humble and always have a smile on my face
keeps me in the house as often as he can showing no empathy for how I
that he got my mom pregnant and I was on the way. He couldn’t get a job after he
Physical abuse is the most horrifying and most noticeable of them all, but it is only one of the many types of abuse. Here are some of the names for different categories of abuse: Physical abuse, Sexual abuse, Psychological and Verbal abuse, Forced confinement, abuse towards pets or property, Financial abuse, and Child abuse. The two abuses that I will be focusing on will be physical and mental abuse. & nbsp; I decided to pick the topic of abuse after viewing the movie The Yellow Wall paper. After watching the movie and seeing how badly Mary Wollstonecraft was treated, it made me want to know more about abuse on women and what could be done to break the chain of abuse. I believe that no abuse is acceptable and that any man that has ever abused a woman in anyway should face major consequences.
It started slowly, with just him not wanting me to go to one type of social event because he didn’t like the people there. Then it got worse and worse. He was trying to control me by alienating me from my friends. After a bit I started fighting back, which made his obsession with controlling me as his possession stronger. When I finally asked him to leave he threatened to kill himself. I finally got him out, and he was staying at his mother 's house, but then the stalking started. On page 92 in the book, Cooper-White explains stalking by outlining the Justice Department 's Stalking Victimization Survey 's seven types of harassing behaviors: "1. Making unwanted phone calls, 2. Sending unsolicited or unwanted letters or emails, 3. Following or spying on the victim, 4. Showing up at places without a legitimate reason, 5. Waiting at places for the victim, 6. Leaving unwanted items, presents or flowers, and 7. Posting information or spreading rumors about the victim on the Internet, in a public place, or by word of mouth". My stalker did every single one of these things to me. When I read the chapter on Sexual Harassment and Stalking, it was almost a validation of what I went through as a victim. Thankfully in my situation, I kept track of his stalking and took him to court. The judge was able to identify his actions as stalking, (probably unknown to me she probably used this
PHYSICAL ABUSE: Grabbing, pinching, shoving, slapping, hitting, hair pulling, biting, etc. Denying medical care or forcing alcohol and/or drug use. SEXUAL ABUSE: Coercing or attempting to coerce any sexual contact without consent, e.g., marital rape, forcing sexual contact after physical beating, attacks on sexual parts of the body or treating another in a sexually demeaning manner. ECONOMIC ABUSE: Making or attempting to make a person financially dependent, e.g., maintaining total control over financial resources, withholding access to money, forbidding attendance at school or employment.
abusive to the point that it caused him to runaway from the only home he had. For
Physical abuse can be more than one being hit, it also includes “Withholding access to resources necessary to maintain health, for example, medical care, food or fluids, sleep, hygienic assistance, etc.” (“Five Forms of Domestic Violence,” n.d.). Sexual abuse can include: forcing one to commit a sexual action against his or her will, rape, or even “undermining one’s sexuality (“Five Forms of Domestic Violence,” n.d.). Psychological abuse can contain, but is not limited to: threats, intimidation, or stalking. Emotional abuse has a range of many factors, but some things are: criticism, name-calling, and insults. As for economical abuse, it is usually referred to when the abuser withholds money from the victim, but it can also include the abuser forbidding the victim from employment, harassing one at his or her job, control of the money, etc. (“Five Forms of Domestic Violence,”
Sexual abuse includes any sexual act in which one person has not agreed to it. A woman can be sexually abused by means of, but not limited to force, coercion, blackmail, threat, or embarrassment. Sexual abuse may occur when a woman is forced to perform, watch, or in any other way engage in sexual acts. This includes but is not limited to vaginal, anal and oral sex, fondling, touching, disrespect of privacy, such as showering, being forced to watch pornography or view pornographic pictures, being forced into sexual poses, or being verbally abused in a sexual manner (Morris and Biehl 36, Haley 14).
Sexual abuse is “The use of psychological abuse tactics to keep an intimate partner in a submissive position of power. Strategies include sexual degradation, non-contact unwanted sexual experience (e.g., being forced to watch pornography), and reproductive and sexual control,” (Bagwell-Gray, Messing, & Baldwin-White, 2015, p. 323). It is low in force, because non-physical control tactics are used, and it is low in invasiveness because no sexual penetration is involved. Sexual abuse is different than sexual coercion in that the perpetrator is not coercing sex but is rather controlling sex-related decision making. Some examples of sexually controlling acts are refusing to wear condoms, having sex outside the primary relationship, and birth control sabotage (Campbell & Soeken,
Molestation is the first type of sexual abuse that’ll be discussed. Molestation is a form of child abuse in which an adult or older adolescent uses a child for sexual stimulation. Most people think sexual abusers are strangers to their victims. But the truth is most abusers know their victims and use their stand in their relationship to try to make the victims do what the abusers want them to do. Most children who get molest are by family members. “More than 90 percent of juvenile sexual abuse victims know their perpetrator in some way.” (Snyder, Howard). According to Dr. Elizabeth Forsyth and Margret Hyde, research done in the 1980s and 1990s suggests that almost all abusers are males who are known to their victims and that most abuse occurs within the family. (pg. 21) One in three girls and one in five boys get sexually abused before the age of eighteen. (Arta, C)
Control and emotional manipulation are more commonly used in the beginning of a relationship as the “captain” of the house. The abuser starts to control who their spouse can be friends with, when and how they can spend money, and when they can go to town. If the victim of the relationships does anything without their permissions, he or she is emotionally punished by the abuser by threatening to leave the victim, uses guilt, rage, or criticizes. An abuser feeds off of these two types of abuse. A relationship that starts out like this can grow into something potentially more dangerous for the victim. The last three types of abuse are the more dangerous kinds of abuse. Verbal abuse is harmful to the victim’s confidence and self-esteem. Name calling, cruel jokes, and humiliation in public places are all types of verbal abuse that will bring someone into deep depression. Sexual and physical abuse is harmful to the victim’s health. In a healthy relationship, sex is wanted and meaningful; however, if the spouse is being forced to have sex, use unprotected sex, or not allowed to decide about keeping the baby, than this is a health hazard. It is an unhealthy relationship that is untrustworthy and disconnected; therefore, transmitted diseases can spread to the victim. Physical abuse is the more commonly known type of abuse. It is intentional pain from
just trying to make a decent living but cannot because of the way he is being
Abuse can happen to anyone, at any age, at any time. This is repetitive acts of behavior of wanting to maintain power and have control over someone whether it be through childhood, adolescents, or adulthood. This subject is sensitive as it impacts so many different people around the world. The topic of abuse is not just a family matter, it comes in all forms, such as sexual, emotional, and physical. Abuse is accompanied by the long term emotional tolls, especially on children because their brains are still developing and can take abuse harder than others. One question to ask, is how does one overcome abuse? As children and adolescents develop, how do they function emotionally and physically? These traumatic experiences that happen through