Personal Narrative: Closed Adoption

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In the entirety of my life I have never met or talked to my biological parents or siblings. I do have parents and siblings; however, they are my family through adoption.I often ask myself, “What features did I receive from each of my biological parents?” or “Do I look anything like my biological siblings?” My sole point of reference is a minimal description of my biological mother. Moreover, I can not and will not know my parents’ names until I turn eighteen. That is the downfall of a closed adoption— the child is usually left in a state of speculation about who shares his or her blood (How does this affect you personally? How much do you wish you knew more about your biological parents?). Furthermore, the parents may also deny the invitation

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