My older brother had enough of his crap, he exclaimed to our father to not treat our mother this way. They were in a never-ending dispute, which later ended in a physical fight. We all left my dad, I thought this was the last time we’d live with my dad or even talk to him; I had no emotions at the time. I didn’t feel remorse for leaving him. As we left, my older brother cried.
He later found out that his father was killed in a fight over drugs, in which Steven was the source of. It was at that moment that Steven felt the worst he has ever felt in his entire life. He felt like he was to blame for his father’s death and his mind went blank. Without hesitation, he got his father’s handgun, held to his mouth, and thought of his mother. The loving mother that he used to have, the one that was to afraid to help him, the one that was just there.
My whole mentality did a 180. I lost my grandfather and my now 11 year old sister in a custody battle with my mother. At the age of 14 I viciously had my 7 year old sister yanked out of my arms by a police officer while my mother sat back and enjoyed the show. I would like to say hatred had no part in my new found motivation but I would be lying. At that point in my life i felt low but as always i knew that there was someone who felt worse which was my dad and being the strong person that he is, he hardly let it show.
My older brother who was 6 at the time remembers the situation. To this point my brother has hate towards my dad because he actually remembers something him and he thought my dad would be the last person to let him down. My brother is now 21 and he still has the same feeling towards my dad. My mom remarried a few years later to my stepfather, but when she divorced him it affected my younger brother. When my mom divorced my stepfather my little brother became the worse little 5 years old.
As a result, when Celie's mother passed away, she felt that she killed her mother, when in fact her mother was terminally ill. After two pregnancies, Celie was unable to produce anymore children because her father injured her reproductive system. The children Celie had, her stepfather took them away from her, while in her heart she yearned to find them even years later. Celie's stepfather degraded her and always wanted to keep her self-esteem low by constantly telling her "she is a bad influence on my other girls...she ugly don't even look like she kin to Nettie...she aint smart either"(9). After Celie got married, the way men treated her did not change too much. Celie got beaten in the same manor Mr. _____ beat the children, but only because she was his wife.
As a teenager, James McBride did not make the smartest decisions when it came to education. After his step father died, he began acting impetuous and doing poorly in school to the point he stopped attending at all. His obsession with drugs, especially marijuana was his way of recovering from his step father’s death. All he wanted to do was to dispel all his problems even though they were ineluctable. However, the problem was that his mother was falling apart physically and emotionally from the death of her second husband.
Then she would run out of the house in a fury. Over the years from fighting with her dad, she has gotten numerous scars on her hands. Alcoholism in a family affects every single member in a negative manner. Today my cousin lives with me and my family because there came a time when her father tried to kill her when he was drunk. And now after many hard years my cousin is learning how to stand on her own two feet.
Consider the quote after her father's death, “We remembered all the young men her father had driven away, and we knew that with nothing left, she would have to cling to that which had robbed her, as people will” (241). In this quote the author uses words like “Robbed” to emphasis that her life with her father was not that of a normal girl, she was unable to experience, which is what her father “Robbed.” Her life as the daughter of a strict man, was traumatic because she was so used to being with only one man is her life, her father, that when he passed away she could not handle that change. The big change for her caused her to be unable to cope with his death, therefore went out very little. Going out very little is associated with depression because the side effects include “Withdrawal from normal
In our senior year of high school, she died after a long, painful battle of six years. This shattered him, not only did he lose his mother, she suffered so much and he suffered with her only to ultimately lose her in the end. I remember him telling me how he did not want her to suffer; she was tortured so much she did want to live like this. If she had the choice of euthanasia, she would have asked for it, because it would have given her control over her life and it would have possibly not damaged her son so deeply. He visited her everyday only to watch her in misery and cry by her side, year after year the symptoms only kept getting worse.
Aside from the changes I could not get over, my grandfather’s health has turned for the worse after suffering from two heart attacks. During this time my father had a daughter with my stepmom and I felt as though I was being pushed away from him. My sister and I were never in good terms with my stepmother because she always found a way to separate my dad and us from spending time with each other. My father never noticed and these factors only added more to my stress until it spiraled down to depression. Eventually, my grandfather passed away due to his health conditions and this changed my life forever.