Parenting for the Second Time

Becoming a Mother Versus Maternal Role Attainment. Journal of Nursing Scholarship, 36(3), 226-232. Retrieved from Academic Search Premier database. Mercer, R., & Walker, L. (2006). A review of nursing interventions to foster becoming a mother.

This information was useful in that it provided different procedures in trying to find a pattern for attachment issues of infant/toddlers of divorced parents or parents who are unmarried, or a parent who abandon the child. Although, for infants repeated overnight stays can be related to attachment issues, but for toddlers the connection was less pleasant to them. I actually chose this reading to see if it could help explain to me why I use to have so many security issues, even though I was sociable. I feel that I was sociable, so it would make up for the lack of things going on at home. I had a lot of issues in my life and my father was never around.

Retrieved from http://nursing-theory.org/theories-and-models/mercer-maternal-role-attainment-theory.php Beal, J., & Freda, M. (2005). Toward evidence-based practice: becoming a mother versus maternal role. The American Journal of Maternal/Child Nursing, 30(2), 145-145. Retrieved from http://www.nursingcenter.com/lnc/JournalArticle?Article_ID=576698&Journal_ID=54021&Issue_ID=576631 Past distinguished alumni award recipient: Ramona t. mercer. (n.d.).

Most grandparent want to see their grandchildren occasionally and only step in when they have to. The grandparents in a skipped generation family will say there are pros and cons to taking sole custody and responsibility for their children’s children. Some of the cons are not being able to relax as older adults are supposed to. If they are older grandparents who are already retired they may feel as though they should be able to relax or travel. Having their grandchildren day in and day out will cause them to not be able to do some of the things they want to do.

T... ... middle of paper ... ...distance on the family relationships of elder parents and children. It also helped identify that the reference child for the majority of elder parents regardless of geographic distance is usually a daughter. Any regrets experienced by an elder parent or grand parent as a result of being separated geographically from children was also explored. It was shown that while feelings of regret about having missed out on the development of grand children and the later lives of children, these feelings can be reduced if both elderly spouses are alive and healthy. It also helps when the elders are mobile enough after retirement to come and visit their children of their own accord.

Children depend on their parents but not all children have parents to look up to or guide them. What does that do to them as they grow up? Growing up without a parent can lead too many problems for a child, such as poverty, lack of education and teen pregnancy. As Census Bureau observes single parent household may be the cause of all of the social issues facing America today (Census Bureau 1). Thus, in cases when mothers or fathers avoid their parental responsibilities, they should be forced to spend more time with their children.

Some parents make the choice to be their child’s caretaker, but some couples have children by not having safe sex and are not able to be their caretaker’s. Even though this is a possible outcome for children, there are many other roles parents can apply when they choose to children. The second role a parent can take on is being an emotional resource for children. Children go through all sorts of changes as they grow up and they rely on their parents for emotional support. For example, when a child gets hurt physically or emotionally, they turn to their parents for comfort.

I was informed that I was with my mother up to the age of 2 years, then I went to live my paternal grandmother until 9 years old. Sometimes when a child is raised by someone other than their mother, they think their mother didn’t want them. I used to ... ... middle of paper ... ...larity. Working with my family, the therapist will need to join with my family and build a therapeutic rapport because I need to know they can trust the therapist. Each member of my family have to feel like the therapist is working with them if not change will not occur.

Divorce is a difficult thing for all family members and can fracture the lives of all involved but life, love, and family doesn’t end with just one relationship. People move on to create new bonds, new lives, and many times, remarry and form new families. Remarriage, however, carries its own unique difficulties and challenges for a new couple and their new families; the chances of another failure loom in the background for these newly formed families. The difficulties that face a new family are large and numerous but with the availability of many different techniques and therapies, a new family can survive the odds and become a new stable family with strong bonds. This ranges from simply communicating and discussing relationship issues and concerns before remarriage to working on creating a bond with stepchildren can help increase chances of successful remarriage.

Grandparent most likely will step in whenever their grandchild is experiencing a crisis, such as the death of a parent, divorce, or illness (Dunifon, 2013). Important roles in the lives of children have been directly influenced by their grandparents more profoundly over the past few decades (Dunifon, 2013). As life expectancy is extending, grandparents are able to instill their values on their grandchildren. Many researchers have focused on how influential grandparents can actually be within the caregiver role. Dunifon (2013) stated, that grandparents’ involvement when raising their grandchild occurs more commonly when no parent is present in the household, this commonly known as custodial grandparent families (Dunifon, 2013).