Movember Movie Reflection

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A predominant topic in today’s society that is hardly discussed is masculinity. Over the course of three years at Ohio State, I have never attended an event that is masculinity related so I went to the “Movember at the Movies “on November 21,2016. Just a brief background on Movember, it’s offered as a part of the counseling and consultation services that are dedicated to discussing men’s mental health, masculinity, and issues. The movie choice was “I Love you man” starring Paul Rudd and Jason Sigel. Overall, the movie was hilarious. I would categorize it as a Romantic Comedy. Some might say this movie would still classify as a chic flick, but that’s precisely why Movember is playing the movie and having a discussion on the laws of masculinity. …show more content…

I’m not sure how your preference of friends defines masculinity, but that is a discussion for the latter part of this journal. In a brief synopsis of the movie, Peter Klaven the main character is looking for a best man to be in his wedding but realizes he doesn’t have any close guy friends. In efforts to find a best man he goes on a series of man dates. Peter then meets Sydney, they hang out, they end up becoming best friends, Peter goes on a journey of masculinity, and Sydney becomes his besman. Although “I Love You, Man” was a romantic comedy it contained a lot of underlined messages about masculinity, that I was not conscious of. My first question after watching the movie, was “what defines a man?” A man is your gender (male), not a social identity. Peter identified himself as male in the movie so he is a man. Now what is a manly man? Merriam Webster defines manly as “having or showing qualities (such as strength or courage) that are expected in a man”. Throughout the entire movie, including the introduction of Peters Character he exemplified strength or courage. Courage and strength are needed to step outside of societal norms and be in tune with your feminine side as a man. I personally don’t think that made him …show more content…

It was great to hear what men thought about the term “manly man”, and what it means to be masculine. Majority of the men spoke about the societal pressure to keep up the appearance of masculinity, and how it is not culturally appropriate to take part in certain activities because one may be classified as queer or feminine. My boyfriend attended the event with me. In public he acts tough and doesn’t like to be caught doing things that would be considered feminine. When we are by ourselves, we watch “Housewives of Atlanta”, talk about juicy gossip, and do all types of things that the public eye would consider soft. So, it was interesting to hear his take on the movie. My boyfriend grew up down south, with all girl cousins and a lot of female friends. Joining the army caused him to became more self-conscious about his masculinity in public, since the military is all about up keeping a masculine persona at all times. After the dialogue of the Movember event, I learned that men are just as self-conscious about their gender identity as a woman. As women and a society we need to cut them some slack, and allow them to express themselves in whatever way they deem necessary, without categorizing them as un-manly. This relates back to the discussion in class we had about heterosexual norms and privilege. In this case, gender privilege. I also learned that men need to cut themselves some slack

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