What causes male infidelity in a marriage? Many can say it’s the ‘mid-life-crisis’ that makes a man want to make life changing decisions. Another reason may be that the man is miserable in his marriage and instead of telling his spouse about what’s wrong, he cheats. For many of these spouses’ “no one cares about [this issue] until it happens to them in their marriage” (Schorr). Ironically, men can have an affair by just simply being bored in their marriage. The fact is just sad that those men in marriages get bored within a few years of being married after their honeymoon. A husband may sleep with another person besides their soul mate to escape frustration in their relationship because, they see no other way out of a marriage except for having …show more content…
It would be like trying to put together a broken mirror. When a man comes back home to his spouse asking for forgiveness, the spouse would most likely say no. The spouse will think that because the husband has cheated once, he would probably do it again. A spouse would have to put in a lot of time and effort to rebuild and strengthen what he has torn down. Just thinking of all the years a couple was married through the good, bad, hard and ugly times that they shared and considered sacred is suddenly gone with the wind. If a spouse did decide to forgive the man that cheated, they would have to do things differently like pay more attention to them and learn to agree on issues. When a man commits adultery it destroys most marriages, therefore, few marriages recover from the effects of infidelity. Infidelity not only kills a marriage, it will destroy a family, one’s career and most importantly trust. The effects of infidelity causes children to turn away from their parents especially from the father, if he leaves them at a young age. As a matter of fact, when the marriages get like that, it’s usually considered a disaster. In some circumstances there are some marriages that are able to survive infidelity but that’s not too
Homosexuality is not a new trend, sexual orientation, or identity, in fact homosexuality is believed to date back over 5,000 years ago (Adams, 2011). Same sex couples have existed for thousands of years and research will show how the social and political stigmas that are known today, have stemmed from religious point of views and political opinions.
As the Classical World began to emerge, the relation between men and women start to change. During the Greek and Roman Empire, men continuing to be powerful in the society, and were the ones who trained for oncoming battles. As well woman rights were emerging slowly during the period. Women started as a possession of the men, and ended with own rights and choices of profession. The civilization of Greece had two main cities, Sparta and Athens. Men and women in Sparta were strong, they started training together, and at the age of twelve were separate. Then boys were sent to the barracks, were the military training continued, and girls keep with their trained to became worthy of a good male. Spartan women were free, they could ran businesses
A man has been married to his wife for seven years. The couple has two beautiful children, a fabulous home, and appear to have the perfect marriage. After the husband leaves work one afternoon, he decides to stop in at the local bar. The man sits at a table in the corner of the room. Not long after his arrival, a woman approaches him. She asks the man if she can join him at his table. The two seem to have quite a bit in common and enjoy each other’s company. The woman asks if he would like to go back to her apartment. He has not had a fight with his wife today. In fact, she surprised him with a love note in his briefcase. Their sex life is enjoyable, frequent, and without complaint. The couple is not currently having financial problems. Despite this, why did the man decide to leave with a stranger and cheat on his wife? A great deal of research has been carried out on the topic of infidelity. Marital therapists have reported that more than half of the couples they counsel are in therapy as a result of infidelity (Atkins, Jacobson citation). Therapists also consider an extramarital affair as, “one of the most damaging relationship events and one of the most difficult problems to treat in couples therapy” (whisman predicting sexual infidelity…). Some therapists estimate that 50% to 65% of couples seek help after an incident of infidelity in their relationship (Atkins, Jacobson & Baucom). Identifying the reasons for this problem are essential to the success of its reduction. Infidelity is not a new phenomenon. However, there was little research on the topic until the late 1970’s (Drigotas & Barta, 2001). Numerous factors have been examined while trying to determine the root cause for extramarital relationships a...
Most studies in marital conflict pertain to three particular dimensions of communication. The first dimension is affect which refers to messages that express positive or negative feelings about another person, such as supportiveness, hostility, confirmation, coercion, sarcasm, or global positiveness or negativeness (e.g., Gottman, 1979 and Sillars and Wilmot, 1994). The second dimension to characterize conflict behaviors is whether they are constructive or destructive for the parties’ relationship. Research in the United States indicates that exiting from the relationship and neglecting the partner are destructive problem-solving responses and are more powerfully predictive of couple distress than giving voice to problems and being passive loyal (e.g., Rusbult, Johnson, & Morrow, 1986). The third dimension to characterize conflict management is engagement versus avoidance (e.g., Hocker and Wilmot, 1991 and Sillars and Wilmot, 1994). Engagement is reflected in direct, overt verbal confrontation of conflict issues, while conflict avoidance is reflected in withdrawal and aversion to dealing directly with conflict issues (Canary, Cupach, & Messman, 1995) and includes circumscribed, irrelevant, or ambiguous communication. Since the purpose of this study is to examine the effect of culture on marital conflict strategies and marital satisfaction, the discussion will be limited to the third dimension of marital conflict, engagement–avoidance, along with Rahim's styles of conflict.
The media is a very influential aspect of our daily lives. The media is everywhere we look, everything we listen to, and everything we talk about, we cannot escape it. It only makes sense that the media would have an affect of the construction of how we view masculinity and femininity. The media has the ideals or standards of what it means to masculine or feminine which with our changing times do not represent a majority of people. These standards are set so high that no one can reach them, which makes people feel defeated since they do not meet these expectations. With many people not fitting into these generalized norms we set for a “man” or “woman” it is time we get rid of these norms, or at least update them to the times. People are changing
Homosexuality is out of the norm in the society compared to heterosexuality, which is the sexual preference that is always portrayed to be the good one. In the Catholic religion there has always been a debate whether if God is against or not about homosexuality. Homosexuality is not against God. By analyzing Bible passages that mentions homosexuality, Jesus’ teachings, Christian ethics, and surveys taken in workplace that shows discrimination against homosexuality, then it will become evident that God is not opposed to homosexuality.
Jill Ruckelshaus, business woman, once said, “No one should have to dance backward all their lives.” She is right. Women should not have to dance backwards and follow a man’s lead but, have the right to turn around and lead. Sexism has a negative effect on society today because of the gender wage gap, violence increasing against women, and the national religion being undermined.
Part One: Sexual Assault Sexual assault is any kind of sexual behavior that happens without the consent of the victim. Examples of sexual assault can include but are not limited to: rape/ attempted rape, touching/ forcing to touch the body, incest, sexual contact with a child, watching/ photographing sexual situations, and exposing body parts. According to RAINN- Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network- one in thirty-three men are victims of sexual assault while one in six women are victims of sexual assault. Although sometimes sexual assault is committed by someone that is a stranger to the victim, most of the time it is committed by somebody that they know (this includes intimate partners like a husband/wife, ex-husband/wife, or boyfriend/girlfriend). Part Two: Types of Sexual Assault There are many different types of sexual assault.
To conclude, homosexuality is a vastly complex and intricate topic with thousands of components. Many scientists suspect that the root causes of homosexuality are more varied and complex than just one simple explanation. However, it is irrefutable that the facts and the science will not change to support opinions.
The following five models are used to explain the concept of infidelity, based on the marital relationship: the need fulfillment model, the investment model, the deficit model, the self-expansion model, and the personal growth model. Each model explains a potential reason that one might cheat on his or her spouse. Part of the need fulfillment model that intrigued me was that people are attracted to their spouses based on how well they think they can fulfill the following seven specific needs: sex, intimacy, companionship, intellectual stimulation, emotional involvement, security, and self worth. The key word that stood out in this was the word “think.” These people believed that the partners they chose could fulfill their needs, but they later discovered that this was not the case. Perhaps they were infatuated or “blinded by love” so to speak, but whatever the case may be they still cheated on their partners due to unmet needs. The investment model examined what makes one more or less committed to his or her spouse. This model demonstrates that the level of commitment and attraction to one’s spouse hinges on the level of satisfaction and what the individual has to lose from the marriage ending. I would imagine there are plenty of people who stay in their marriages strictly because of children and financial stability. As the article stated, these things act as a “barrier to keep the
... Imagine how difficult it would be to trust one’s spouse again. It would be like starting all over. Many believe that “once a cheat always a cheat”, people who have several affairs have a higher divorce rate (figure 7). One would have to put forth time, and effort to restore something that they did not destroy. All of the years of marriage, all that was shared and considered sacred is gone. How can one be expected to believe that the affair was an isolated incident that never took place earlier on in the marriage? It is with all of these doubts and unanswered questions that it becomes evident that adultery destroys marriages and therefore marriage cannot survive infidelity. Infidelity not only destroys marriages, it also destroys families. Children turn away from their mothers or fathers, and it is at that point that the marriage should be considered null and void. The possibility of a marriage being able to survive infidelity is far fetched. Therefore, the answer to the question: ‘can marriage survive infidelity’ is evident.
Homosexuality has been the topic of constant conflict today. Homosexuality is defined as, a romantic attraction, sexual attraction or sexual behavior between members of the same sex or gender. In addition, homosexuality has been accepted more today, however, it is still frowned upon by many. Consequently, there are many challenges on the views of homosexuality. Some may think that this is an abnormal behavior, to have an attraction to the same sex. On the contrary, there are many who defend that the feelings that homosexual has, are feelings that are normal, not to mention, homosexuals believe that they were in fact born this way. Furthermore, in this essay, it will look at the challenges that are presented on this topic, and look at the conflict that is between society, homosexuals, and the church.
Sexual orientation is the preferred term used when referring to an individual's physical and or emotional attraction to the same and or opposite sex. Heterosexual, bisexual, homosexual and pansexual are all sexual orientations. An individual's gender identity and expression is distinct from their sexual orientation. Throughout life as the individual explores the world around them, they are shaped by the unique experiences and influences that are imparted upon them. All people experience life subjectively therefore there is no monolithic way of viewing or defining one’s sexual identity, however, there are particular experiences that may shape and develop specific characteristics or tendencies that a group of people may share. Andrew Sullivan addresses this very issue in his 1995 book, Virtually Normal: An Argument about Homosexuality. In the prologue, titled “What is a Homosexual?” Sullivan ponders what exactly composes a homosexual life and why certain environmental factors are fundamental and exclusive to the homosexual experience. He sees self-control/subjugation as a crucial part of all human experience, however, he considers the homosexual (more broadly, the LGBTQ) experience to be unique in that early on they learn to make sexual/emotional distinctions out of a need for survival. They learn to function within the parameter of certain social rules in order to blend and eventually this becomes a sort of second nature that is hard to break.
Marriage is a union between two individuals that love, trust and respect one another. It is sharing your dreams and planning for a future. Unfortunately, marriage is not always what is portrayed in the movies. The 19th century brought awareness and change to laws pertaining to domestic violence. Today, domestic violence awareness continues to grow and laws pertaining to physical family violence are being amended. On the other hand, marital rape is a less noted topic that does not receive as much attention as domestic violence. There are several types of marital rape, all which are underreported. Martial rape remains an underreported crime that leaves the victim suffering from long-term emotional and psychological effects.
The topic of marital rape, is an arduous topic due to the fact that it is a detestable act of ascendancy committed by a companion. Rape, in itself, is defined as the unlawful compelling of a person through physical force or duress to have sexual intercourse; it is deemed to be an act of possession and control versus an act of fulfilment from the individual consenting the action. So many times we hear of rape cases committed by complete strangers, or even by a trusted individual. Many people tend to think that rape happens to everyone, but according to studies women suffer more as victims that men do. In this paper, we will discuss how rape is not a crime of sex, but a crime of sexism, and how our patriarchal culture system leads to the acceptance of rape in marriage.