Growing up, you will be met with changes that will cause your life to be entirely different than it used to be. In doing so, you will find that you have lost connections with the people you loved in your past. This outcome results from the process of losing connections, which consists of stages of change, focus, regret, and acceptance.
Initially in the process, a new significant factor will appear in your life that will cause change with the relationships you have. Perhaps a significant person comes into your life. This may cause you to give attention from your friends to this new individual. Another situation can be something traumatizing that affected you enough to change your views on life. Such a thing may cause you to think or act differently than you used to be, which affects how you interact with friends. These impacts on your life are powerful enough to alter the connections you have attained in
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Drifting from your old connections may have left you more alone to contemplate on your choices and people. Doing so causes you to recount the memories of the change in the process, and so it may cause you to blame yourself for ever changing to a life without your old connections. Moreover, thinking about how different your life was with your old friends will cause you to miss them and miss your old life that you had with them. To provide an explanation, being able to contemplate your old relationships causes you to remember the amazing memories you attained with them, and so you want to experience those memories again, but all you can do is miss living through your old life. In summary, being used to the changes in your life and remembering your past will cause you to notice how much you have missed the memories with your old connections, causing you to regret ever leaving or
Moving on and being able to find happiness is very relevant in regards to The Story of Tom Brennan by J.C Burke. You can't live in the past, you have to move on, whether you find happiness is up to you. Also the more time you spend thinking about the bad things there is less room for the good thoughts. Of you can find something to look forward to or something you enjoy doing, just something to take your mind off the past will help you move on.
Ultimately, it goes without saying that the past is a place we cannot revisit and because of this every event, that have happened in life before, will make an influence on it. Moreover, some things might change person's life in drastically way. However, people should understand that everything what happened in the past - stays in the past, and there is no reason to worry about bad occasion that already gone and relieve all negative emotions again.
I am a person with more of a passive personality, so I don't have too many close friends in general and I am often alone after I entered college. So, like Cooper, I also fear to forget and fear to be forgotten. I also think that it is inevitable that I will forget as time progresses, as I age, as I change, as I walk down the path of my life. How could I survive without my friends as we go our separate ways to different colleges? The memories and the nostalgic times of being with my friends will become fuzzy with time. I did not want that to happen. After reading Eva Hoffman's "Lost in Translation," I found that it may be true that memories will dwindle or change, but memories and the feeling of nostalgia are not that easy to forget and that they will always be a part of
Bonding with someone, whether it's friendship or a serious relationship takes time no matter what and they have the same characteristics to build up that relationship; whether it's trust or respect most relationships need them to work together, no matter what time period it is. We build up such a fantasy when were younger of our future lives and what they are. Imagining that you'll have no tensions between another person or you'll be living at peace with yourself, but as we grow were thrown a curveball that disrupts all your facade of happy life we made . It's a disrupting force yet people can overcome the hardest obstacles in order to pursue what or who they want to be acquaintances with. Putting in the effort pays off in the end and people can get where they want sooner if they just try a bit harder earlier on. People learn to trust, love and respect differently, but it's all existent in people's lives in some way, and it’ll be varied throughout everyone else’s
Their memories will give them an ideal live to go towards or a life in which they want to progress from. If an individual chooses to run from the past in which they lived, it is still a component in their life which shaped them to be who it is they became, despite their efforts to repress those memories. Nevertheless, the positive memories of an individual’s past will also shape who they are. Both good and bad memories are able to give an individual a glimpse into their ideal life and a target in which they wish to strive for and memories in which they can aim to prevent from happening once
There is a saying that goes “don’t live in the past” because things will always get better in the future and that you should let time work itself out. People often think of their pasts and let that dictate their future, which in many cases keeps people from achieving their full potential. People become blinded by their pasts and the good memories they’ve had which turns to them seeking the same thing to satisfy themselves because they’ve become comfortable and do not want change. They may not want change because they are scared of what is to come or because of getting hurt again like they have in previous experiences. A prime example of this is Erykah Badu’s song “Bag lady” as it explains how people should let go of their pasts and look to the future.
Before my years in high school, I rarely put time and effort into studying and constantly associated with my friends at school; that is until I entered high school. The different competitive atmosphere at high school caused me to suddenly prioritize my studies ahead of everything else and my ambition became greater than ever. I began to interact less with my old friends and become less sociable with those around me. My parents also began to notice this drastic change and encouraged me to once in a while contact my old friends. During the beginning, I contacted my friends about two or three times a week, but the phone calls began to gradually diminish. I began to abandon my previous cheerful, ebullient nature in order to conform to the competitive, tense study environment at high school. As long as I successfully accomplished my goals and was accepted by others, I was willing to alter myself in order to assimilate into the mainstream environment. Through my hard work and perseverance, I was able to reach my goal and receive the acknowledgement of others; however, despite fulfilling all my ambitions, I did not feel any joy or satisfaction within myself. Even though I successfully accomplished my objectives in school, I realized that in return I completely sacrificed my social life. Despite being accepted by others, I began to feel a sense of loneliness and longed to
Family is very important, and when I would drift from my family, I would also drift from some of the things most important to me. When Riley’s core memories were tainted and she forgot why those islands were so important to her, she also drifted away from her family in search of something to fill the void she felt. This void was moving away from home, where it is believed held all the important pieces of her personality. Due to the military playing a large role into my growing up, moving to a new place shouldn’t have been so shocking. At sixteen, I moved away from Germany, the place I had been raised for most of my life. I didn’t expect my life to change as much as it did. My bond with my family increased in the time of moving, and I let myself feel many emotions. After leaving my childhood home, I began drifting from my family in search of something new to fill the void of what I defined as home, which was nearly five thousand miles away. I still spent time with my family, but I spent more time with friends and outside of the home. After drifting away from my family, I also drifted away from things I
In order for an individual to thrive, they must continue to rebuild themselves and let go of the past, however, that is simply unrealistic. The past can be binding, manifesting itself in every aspect of the present and the future. It can hold back happiness and growth.
After understanding, and coping the problem a person can deal with their problem at hand by perhaps writing it down or writing about who hurt them, according to Melanie Tonia Evans, “this is self-recognition that will assist you in healing and reclaiming your right to perfect love, success and happiness.” A person can feel as if they were abandoned, unwanted, unloved, or forgotten. The most important thing though, is to stay positive about themselves at all costs. When a person loves themselves and is happy with their life it can make everything much easier and healing can begin. “Once you have validated and learned what you can from the experience, you can let it go and move forward. This won’t happen all at once. Those imprints are still there, and they need to be replaced with healthy, positive ones,” (Dania Vanessa.) The dysfunctional experiences that a person has from their childhood can pose as a learning experience that shaped someone into who they are now, from the hardships they
When that happens we slowly start to drift apart, a former friend is now nothing more than a memory. What is it that makes us stop communicating with each other? In my case it was a lifestyle change. My friend Kalicia and I were so close. We told each other everything. When I found out I was pregnant she was the first person I wanted to tell. At first she was beyond excited. I stayed with her and her family for the first half of my pregnancy. Then I moved to American Falls and everything stated to change. I was eight months pregnant when it all happened. Kalicia had invited me up to her house for my birthday celebration, but being that far along and having to work in the morning all I wanted to do was sleep. The next day, while I was at work she continued to call me multiple times, I knew something was wrong at that point. When I called her back she told me that her mom had passed out and stopped breathing. They had to do CPR on her until the ambulance arrived. I remember my heart dropping because she was like a second mom and I was so excited for her to meet my daughter. As I scrambled trying to get my shift covered so I could leave, I got the call that she had passed away. I remember that day like it was yesterday, the sky was dark, everything seemed grey, and heaven had gained another angel. I had never met such a vibrant and enthusiastic woman. She was understanding of every situation. Soon I felt
As people grow, a variety of relationships develop over time. Relationships with family, friends, and romantic partners are such examples of these diverse ties. Friendships in particular are affected by the following: the level of interaction involved, how communication between two friends is established, and contact, if they exist, between multiple circles of friends through one person. Some examples of these are friendship expectations, the stages of childhood friendship, and the stages of adult friendship.
Along the way, there were a few relationships that strained the bonds that I have with my family and hurt me emotionally. Through this, I learned that when you do not look for, or force, relationships, you find yourself making friends with more valuable people. I can attest to this in that in one of my past love relationships, I was looking for someone to fill an empty void. When I tried to force that relationship to work, I ended up getting hurt and affecting those around me, including my family and close friends. I was trying to force a feeling that was not being reciprocated. As a result, I learned that when I focused on bettering myself, the people around me noticed. After I removed myself from the harmful relationship, I focused on becoming a better person. By doing this, I grew closer to my family and friends; they noticed that I was genuinely pleasant to be around, and they wanted me around them more frequently. After about a few months of slowly becoming happier with myself, I began forming new relationships that were of better quality. One relationship in particular has made me a stronger person and I have learned plenty from him. We have grown stronger together; he shows me everyday that the best relationships start with a friendship, solid foundation, and happiness that stated from within. I never thought that two broken people would be able to find each other and establish a relationship that
It can also help to acknowledge there are a wide variety of feelings that accompany change and to accept these feelings and understand that you may act differently for a while. It is very normal to have these feelings and as the unfamiliar becomes the ‘new normal’ you will find they become less intense and gradually pass. It can be helpful to think of what usually helps you to deal with these kinds of feelings and use these things to get through this time.
Those who value both their family and friendship relationships enjoy greater health and higher happiness. While no one should solely rely on friendships, these do have an impact on a person's well-being. This gives a better understanding and allows a person to thrive both physically and mentally. Just as with family relationships, having good friends can enhance the ability to cope with stress and learn how to grow as a person. College is a time for change. For most people it is a time when they find their way and become more independent. They will seek out new things, make mistakes, and learn how to manage time and energy. When life becomes stressful it will cause the need to rely on friends that are going through the same thing. When meeting back up with old friends, they may seem more mature or completely different. The way college changes friendships will be different for everyone. No two friendships are alike, so separation of going to college will affect everyone differently. Some friends will stay close so there will not be many changes and they will probably still text every day. While others will drift apart and might not even talk at all. College students will make new friends, maybe a new roommate, people in their classes, or in the cafe. There are a lot of opportunities to meet new people. Even with old friends in college, those friendships might change and meeting new people will cause one to grow