Infidelity Theory

Infidelity can be defined as having sex with another partner outside of a marriage. It is the leading cause of divorce among couples. The rate of infidelity among married American couples occurs between 22-25% for males and 11-15% for females. In addition to occurring at such a high prevalence, infidelity is often one of the most damaging issues that a couple may face in their marriage. Therapists also cite an extramarital affair as one of the most difficult problems to treat in counseling sessions.

The cause of infidelity is not gender-specific and research concludes that the gender-gap incidence rate of extramarital affairs is decreasing and more women are becoming unfaithful to their partners than ever before. Several factors that influence

When individuals struggle with the concept of togetherness versus individuality, a marriage can be left with a lot of tension when an individual who is unable to achieve a balance of the two necessary forces (Bowen, 1978). When times are calm, both forces function well collectively; however, when there is anxiety in the relationship, couples strive for more togetherness to alleviate the unease. Such a shift, either towards togetherness or towards individuality can upset the sensitive balance between partners. Both forces hang in such a susceptible balance that a change in the level of either can result in a deep emotional disturbance. It is important that, to maintain balance, couples allow one another to have plentiful breathing room and space in the relationship. When conflict occurs because there is a risk for discord, a sudden connection is facilitated. However, when such a discord becomes too intense, the distance can offer relief and even a potential reunion (Bowen, 1978). Finding a healthy polarizing position in a marriage can be seen as a method to reduce the threat of polarization and preserve