In this paper I am writing about marriage and infidelity in modern life and the books we have read in class. Marriage is a mutual bond in which a man and a woman decide to be with each other until they die. Infidelity is basically when the man or woman in a relationship cheat on the other person, without them knowing.
The Odyssey by Homer is a very good example of fidelity and infidelity. The odyssey is a tail of love, courage, and hope. It focuses on "a man of twists and turns." Odysseus is a man whom gets lost at sea because of Poseidon, the god of the sea, he tries to get back to his wife and son in Ithaca. But he is put through so much trouble to get there.
In real life we don't really hear gods talking to us in the ocean telling us that we have angered them. We have husbands/wives, boyfriends/girlfriends, to tell us that we have gotten on their nerves or just done something completely wrong! Relationship now and days aren't the same as they used to be.
Before, when people used to like someone, it was for their personality. Now we just look at people for the way they look, dress, talk, and for what they have. Things have changed so much over the years, from good to worst. Now if u talk to any random person in the streets and ask them "Have you been married and divorced before?" and many of them would say "yes." I asked this one lady "How long were you married for?" she said "11 years." So I asked her why she had gotten a divorce, she had told me it was because her husband had cheated on her with a twenty- six year old. She had started wondering a few months before she found out about "the other woman" why he wasn't showing her the same affection he had shown her for many years in the past? She would ask him how he was, and how his day went at work and instead of having a full on conversation he would just reply "it was okay" or "nothing big happened, just the same old same old."
They tried counseling because one of their friends had recommended it. They tried it but he still acted the same way. It came to a point where she thought she was doing something wrong.
By applying Barbara Fredrickson work to the society that we live in today, there is lots of infidelity in marriages. Here is another source “Mhere Extra Marital Affair Detail Emerge.” This is about a man who had been in extra marital affairs. His wife found message in his phone that revealed a passionate affairs with another woman. When he misplaced his phone and couldn’t find it he threatened to beat her. Fortunate for his wife, she found the phone while cleaning up the house and read all the messages that proved to her that he was cheating on her with his backing vocalist. Barbara Fredrickson explains “If you have come to view love as a commitment, promise, or pledge, through marriage or any other loyalty ritual, prepare for an about face. I need you to step back prom al your preconception and consider an upgrade” (107). In this light Fredrickson wants us to understand that love should not be compare to anything, and being committed in a relationship
In today’s society, adultery is not viewed as it would have been viewed back in the 1600’s. Adultery is defined as a voluntary sexual intercourse between a married person and a person who is not his or her spouse. In society today, people understand that it is not right to commit adultery, despite knowing that it is often done more. Adultery is committed more now, in the view of its not a punishable act, as it was in the 1600’s. Committing adultery in the 1600’s was considered committing one of the sins that can not be forgiven. Many people were killed for this type of act, however as generations past people begin to view adultery differently.
addictions and why many people do not understand it at all. The stories from real people
A man has been married to his wife for seven years. The couple has two beautiful children, a fabulous home, and appear to have the perfect marriage. After the husband leaves work one afternoon, he decides to stop in at the local bar. The man sits at a table in the corner of the room. Not long after his arrival, a woman approaches him. She asks the man if she can join him at his table. The two seem to have quite a bit in common and enjoy each other’s company. The woman asks if he would like to go back to her apartment. He has not had a fight with his wife today. In fact, she surprised him with a love note in his briefcase. Their sex life is enjoyable, frequent, and without complaint. The couple is not currently having financial problems. Despite this, why did the man decide to leave with a stranger and cheat on his wife? A great deal of research has been carried out on the topic of infidelity. Marital therapists have reported that more than half of the couples they counsel are in therapy as a result of infidelity (Atkins, Jacobson citation). Therapists also consider an extramarital affair as, “one of the most damaging relationship events and one of the most difficult problems to treat in couples therapy” (whisman predicting sexual infidelity…). Some therapists estimate that 50% to 65% of couples seek help after an incident of infidelity in their relationship (Atkins, Jacobson & Baucom). Identifying the reasons for this problem are essential to the success of its reduction. Infidelity is not a new phenomenon. However, there was little research on the topic until the late 1970’s (Drigotas & Barta, 2001). Numerous factors have been examined while trying to determine the root cause for extramarital relationships a...
“The Storm” by Kate Chopin illustrates an affair between old lovers, Calixta and Alcée. “For my Lover, Returning to His Wife” by Anne Sexton, the narrator describes that the man she is having an affair with will never leave his wife for her. “Adultery” by James Dickey proves that at times an affair is nothing more than just an affair. Throughout all three texts, you begin to read the different attitudes towards sexual and marital fidelity and the different reactions the individuals have to their affairs. Although, infidelity is viewed as a terrible thing, some people have reasons for the actions.
Betrayal can hurt and it can hurt more if committed to the ones closest to you. Not only can it hurt the one it occurs to but it can hurt the one committing the act. Throughout the readings infidelity was strongly seen but it is more apparent in two novels: Vertigo and The Girl on The Train. Not only was everyone emotionally damaged but deathly consequences were seen and a couple of the characters actions came back with spiteful vengeance.
In ancient Rome society, marriage is one of the most significant parts of everyone’s life, especially for women. In general, the Romans praise the harmonious marriage relationship. They also have distinct and specific expectations about husbands’ and wives’ obligations. The Romans usually honor these responsible wives and set them as outstanding examples of pietas. Turia, for instance, is an excellent model who manifests wives’ good behaviors and their loyalty to husbands. The inscription, written by Turia’s husband, indicates different components for ideal marriages, such as women’s good personalities and duties, husbands’ love to wives, and family financial management. Her story also contains several features that contradict with the typical
In short story “The Cheater’s Guide to Love,” written by Junot Diaz, we observe infidelity and the negative effects it has on relationships. Anyone who cheats will eventually get caught and will have to deal with the consequences. People tend to overlook the fact that most relationships are unlikely to survive after infidelity. Trust becomes an issue after someone has been unfaithful. Yunior, the main character in this story, encounters conflict as he struggles to move on with his life after his fiancée discovers that he has been unfaithful. Over a six-year period, the author reveals how his unfaithfulness has an effect on his health and his relationships.
Claude Fischer the author of Sweet Land of Conformity erroneously makes the claim that, “Our culture consists that if you marry… you are signing an explicit or implicit contract to cooperate and conform.” We feel that as Americans, people tend to stray from this ideal; this is portrayed through divorce and infidelity. In today’s corrupt society, when you marry, you are expected to be loyal based on an, “explicit or implicit contract.” But as time goes by and people become less interested and involved with their partners, we see that this claim is not true. The twisted love triangle that occurred between Angelina Jolie, Jennifer Aniston, and Brad Pitt in 2005 demonstrates an example of infidelity which led to divorce. While Brad Pitt was married
For instance in the story The Storm illustrated the marriage life of two couples that are passing throughout a difficult phase of their marriage and infidelity is performed by men/women. The women characters represented a devoted wife and mother responsible of her duties. They display the kindness and affection that women should demonstrate to their family. Regarding their values, women can be driven by their emotions and commit infidelity. One of the couples, the wife cheat on her husband, but then she realizes that what she has done is unappropriated. However, she confirms her loved to her husband and she could not image her life without him and want to keep her family united. In society preconception about women cheating on their husband is inconsiderable and unacceptable. On the past is was a sin or even worst the life of women were the punishment of infidelity. On the other hand, the husband cheats on his wife who is in a trip with his sons, after the infidelity he communicates to his wife to stay longer if she wants. His wife Clarisse found appropriate to stay away longer from her husband, because
Infidelity is depicted as an extremely negative thing in the United States, and is often blamed for trust issues, psychologically damaging the spouse and their children, tearing apart marriages and families and more. People who commit adultery are often shamed and told how wrong what they did is and what a terrible person they are for doing it. According to the Journal of Martial and Family by the Associated Press, however, 41% of “marriages where one or both spouses admit to infidelity, either physical or emotional.” Clearly, while infidelity is generally viewed negative by society, many people either decide that it is not as negative as it is portrayed, or do not care and do it anyway. “The Lady with the Pet Dog” and “The Storm” both go against the typical view of adultery being a negative thing in a relationship by showing that it can actually have a beneficial outcome and leave some, if not all people happier.
The Immorality of Adultery Sex is believed, by some, to be a universal language, one that is free
In the United States, marriage is a commitment two people make for the rest of their lives. The average American marriage lasts seven years. Well over half of all marriages end in divorce (Francouer, 72). Statistics in the infidelity have rose fifty percent since the 1970s and is rising all the time. The divorce count in this country is now up to one out of every three-marriage end in divorce. Serial polygamy is a common lifestyle for those who are divorced and then become remarried. The relationship between a husband and wife should be sacred and trustworthy. Without the trust and honesty there is no marriage. Monogamy is the loving, sharing, and devoting one's self to another person for the rest of their life. Monogamy should be the most important aspect in a marriage.
In today’s society, infidelity is one of the leading causes of marital disruption and divorce. In accordance with societal norms many myths have been associated with infidelity. The following myths and their effects on marriage will be discussed: Everyone has affairs, the affair is the direct result of the faithful mate and, the marriage must end in divorce. In examining the various myths, this paper will challenge the greater issue, can marriage survive infidelity?
Marriage has gone through many changes throughout its history. It's earliest forms date back to the story of creation. It has developed a great deal since then. It is a simple fact that men and women can not survive without each other. Marriage is part of the created natural order, we were meant to be together.